Life Sucks and Then You Die

from JoeUser Forums
Sometimes it just seems like no matter how hard you try things just refuse to go right. Things were going pretty well. I had a decent job hauling heavy equipment and making decent money. Not getting rich, but doing ok. In a split second my whole life is turned upside down by a patch of ice on the road and a head-on collision with a Lincoln Navigator.

I got hurt pretty bad. Ok, I can deal with it. I've worked hard to heal up enough to get back to doing some kind of work. I'm now able to walk fairly well but can't return to my old job. I think I have finally found a half way ok job and begin taking the class needed to get the state license. The company is even paying for it. Great.

Then I find that the license fee is more than double what I expected it to be. No way I can see to come up with that much money in just a couple of days. Goodbye job.

When I get back home this evening I find out that my mother got some really bad news about her recent blood tests. Her tumor markers are back up again. We thought she had finally beaten the cancer and here it seems it's rearing it's head yet again.

What started out a good day with lots of promise has gone straight into the toilet and life just generally sucks.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top

Mason, my sweet....

....I know that you don't want to take anything that isn't yours.  I know that you're not the kind of man to do that.  However....are there any programs that you qualify for?  Any kind of assistance?  You and your situation are the exact kind of thing thing that the government is there to help out with. 

I'm not volunteering to help because I feel I ought to, I'm doing it because I WANT to, and I'm pretty sure there are some other folks on JU who would want to help too.  Besides, I'm not volunteering to GIVE you money, it's a loan. 

Do you think that your prospective employer would pay for your license and deduct it from your check?  It might be more sensible for them to do that than to go looking for someone else for the job.

Do me a favor and just think about, it please?

 

 

Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks again Dharma. I talked with mom and Frank and they're going to help me out, I just feel really bad about it because I know they really can't spare it. But they want to help me get this job, and I know that it will be a big help for them if I have some income coming in. It's just I know it's going to make it really tight for them right now.
So now it looks like I'll be getting the job after all, I just don't feel really good about it right now. After I get out of class tomorrow evening we'll be stopping by to get a passport photo made for my license.
I asked them about the possibility of deducting it from my check, but they won't do that. There is nothing to stop someone from getting the license and then going to work for someone else. They aren't willing to take that chance by paying for the license for someone to work for their competition. Can't blame them really. They're providing the class itself free of charge, something that costs at least $75 at the community college.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Just now that I give a rat's ass, Mason, and if there's anything I can do to help your mom and brother out, let me know.

I'm really happy to hear that you're getting the job after all....I sat here wondering how in the hell I could help you all evening!
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
When things fall apart for me mason, and trust me it happens all the fucking time, I just have to tell myself "god has a plan for me" and he does not have to consult with me about it.

be stronger my new pal.

elie
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top

When things fall apart for me mason, and trust me it happens all the fucking time, I just have to tell myself "god has a plan for me" and he does not have to consult with me about it.

It happens to me too.  I'm terrified it'll happen tomorrow (I see the surgeon again tomorrow). 

I don't personnify a deity, but I do believe that there are divine powers at work....and if this is where you're supposed to be, what you're supposed to be doing, then it'll happen.

Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
So sorry to hear about this Mason Before I read dharma's comments I also thought about a loan, maybe not from people around you, but probably from your local bank? I have no idea how it works though...

I dont know what to say, except shit happens, and like moderateman said, it's for a reason.

You're in my thoughts and prayers MasonM.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Mason...things look bleak but please do not give up hope. Mom will pull through with the loving support system she has.. she can beat that cancer...don't think otherwise.
As for the liscence...it will happenm and it will be good. You have come too far to just give up. If I can help please let me know.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Man.. well one thing I have learnt to understand is that life always changes.

One thing though.. for every down turn there is always an equal upturn.. things will get better for you..

KNow tha someone from the other side of the globe is thinking about ya.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top

I am glad things are going to work out for you (I read your comment).  Somehow, I see you as the guy that gets kicked in the teeth, bellows out an Arrrrrgggghhh, and then gets back up and keeps plugging.  I see that is exactly what happened here.

Bellow away anytime you need it.  It is good for the soul, and only costs a few calories.

Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ah Mason, so sorry about your mom's blood test results. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles too but am glad there will be a way out of that for you.

Here I was feeling sorry for myself a bit since I have a busted water hose in my Toyota and heavens to betsy the cost to repair it! But I'm not going worry about it. I think that's one of the things I'm learning a lot since living here. Learning to let go and let God. Because what's the use of worrying and going totally nuts. I used to get physically ill when I worry. I dont' anymore because God always have a plan and somehow everything always works itself out. Tell you something funny. We were planning on gifting our Mazda to a school because we weren't using it and the cost to fix it is too much. So I've been looking for the title for the last couple of days. Guess what? I couldn't find it, even though I knew where it was! Then yesterday on the way home from work, the problem with the Toyota happened! Now I see why I couldn't find the title for the Mazda because now we have to be driving it until the other car is repaired! See what I mean...God always have a plan.

Chin up love, it will be ok. And hey, it's ok to get frustrated and annoyed and hate the world. Get all those feelings out of the way so you can jump up again and be prepared to greet whatever else is coming at ya!
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks all.