I'm not holding my breath.

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What is implied in the common phrase “Don‘t hold your breath”?

Maybe it means, “Don’t put your life on hold until something that you want to happen occurs.

That something may be extremely unlikely, but in any case, that’s a future event.

Now is where you are.

Don’t hold your breath waiting for something else…

Live for the moment, and don’t turn back.”



I’m not going to wait anymore, you’re not worth it.

Sam
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
“Don’t put your life on hold until something that you want to happen occurs.


That's exactly what it means...at least in one sense of the term. Good thoughts on the topic and you really shouldn't put your life on hold for something to go down...unless it's really important to you...and I mean really important.

~Zoo
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I thought i loved Alex, because i believe love doesn't vanish in midair (and in my opinion love is the most important thing). But, everyday it seems as though he is irritated with my very presence. That's what it feels like... and he basically told me that i didnt have another chance with him anyway.... so do i even have a choice?

I am not going to hold my breath. It was his loss.... and just like everyone has told me (including my own father)....

I deserve better

Sam
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
But, everyday it seems as though he is irritated with my very presence


That's not true, Sam...he still loves you, but he can't go into another relationship with you. You'll have to talk to him to find out everything, if you don't know already....I'm not really at liberty to discuss all that...unless he tells me too. My advice...you guys should still be able to be friends...so just go ahead and move on, find someone else....Alex doesn't want you to dwell on him and you really shouldn't. Sometimes things happen and we just have to accept what happened and continue with life....you'll be alright, you're strong...

~Zoo
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm sorry Sam but you have no right to put him down like that. Alex isn't just another guy that you can pick up off the streets. He's probably the best thing that has happened to you, and now you want to say you deserve better? With that attitude I don't think you can get better.

For someone who used to praise so many things about Alex you sure do seem to change your opinion pretty quickly.

Yeah, he lost something when the two of you broke up, but don't go trying to make it seem like you're better than Alex when he hasn't done anything like that to you. That's not cool at all Sam.

Anyways. That's pretty much what it means. Don't wait for something to happen that you don't know will happen any time soon.

Capt. over and out!
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
I agree with Brandon.
The whole thing, what he has said is true, and I agree with it fully.


For someone who used to praise so many things about Alex you sure do seem to change your opinion pretty quickly.

I definitely agree with that, you said how could he get over me so quickly after the break up, yet you changed your opinion pretty quickly. I don't understand.

He's probably the best thing that has happened to you, and now you want to say you deserve better? With that attitude I don't think you can get better.

I believe this is true too. You twowere great. What happened was for a reason. I don't know why. But Alex is the best boyfriend you could ask for. He comforted you when you need someone there for you. He was there through your rough times, and then to say you could get better. I believe Alex is pretty high, someguys don't know how to deal the stitutions like you and him were in and would just give up. But he took them head on and got through them. And for that believe he was a great bf and I don't think you would find anybody else like him. You might but the odds are pretty slim in my book, maybe not in yours.

That is my opinion hopefully it makes sense.

Stacey
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm sad to hear you say these things about me. All I wanted for us after the breakup was to be friends.

I guess if you don't want that, then that's your decision.

Unfortunately, I don't think anyone that has told you you deserve better knows my side of the story...

Sam, hurting me is not going to make you feel better about what happened. If it does, it will be a hollow victory, because I will never strike back, and I will never fight you.

You are a wonderful person, but if you don't want to be my friend, then you don't have to. If you deserve better, go out and find your better man. I hope you are happy with him, happier than I could make you.

"Out of all of this, all I have ever wanted is for you to be happy. That is enough for me."

Alex
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
What I don’t understand, is how you treated me like a bitch the week we got back from school…. That is what my friends saw. They saw me by myself or spending my time in the bandroom during lunch crying because you wouldn’t talk to me.

Don’t fucking call pity to yourself. You are the one who called me and said “I have been hurting for such a long time” and “I think we need to give it a break”. So, you’ve hurt for so long and never told me….. just wondering, but, did you tell Stacey? You seemed to trust her with everything else…. Am I right? That is why we broke up. Not because I never trusted you, but because you never trusted me. Well, you can have her now.

And did you tell everyone who knows “your side of the story” about when I tried to talk to you and you yelled in my face and walked away? Did you tell them all of the crap you’ve given me the past 2 weeks? Or have you only told them your little “innocent” side of the story about how you did nothing wrong.

Here is a little excerpt from a poem I wrote recently,

“After all I have done to prove I love you
It means nothing
I see no trace
No old face
Of love”


“All I want is for you to be happy”? Really… well, thank you for trying to work our relationship instead of you just breaking up with me at the spir of the moment. That would have made it better, if you wouldn’t have been so irrational when you broke up with me. If we could have only talked it out….

It seems to me your mind was made up a long time ago.

Sam
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Sam. I don't know everything but if he did make his mind up a long time ago then waiting longer would have been worse. Breaking up with you when he did might have been one of the only times he had where you'd have time to "recover" before getting others involved in the problem. Then again, maybe Alex didn't have it all planned out. Maybe he just suddenly realized it wouldn't work like you both hoped and decided to end it as soon as possible, rather than waiting.

You talk about "the other side" of the story but then you don't see the other side of the action and reaction. If (don't forget I'm just saying what I think here, not what I know from someone telling me their side.) Alex didn't want to break up before he must have stopped himself because he really did care about you so much he didn't want to let go or he was being selfish by not telling you what was going on. On the other hand... maybe you reacted the way you did because you really loved Alex and didn't want to leave him or because you were more worried about yourself and therefore tried lashing out at him for hurting you.

Sam, I really don't think you can truthfully say that Alex is bad, or whatever, because he broke up with you. If that's the case then move on. If he's bad then why do you continue to talk about how much you loved him and how much you want to be friends? It doesn't add up.

You were alone and crying because you didn't try hard enough, if at all, to just be friends. Believe me when I say that you could have easily kept sitting with us without ever hearing a word about you two breaking up.

Alright, I just realized I've made too long of a response now so I'll stop here and let you go.

One last thing. Take a deep breath and count backwards from 10.

Capt. over and out!
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
All i can say is that i love you both and i hope things will end up okay
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Well, there's not much left for me to say, lest I repeat everything yet again. I just recommend you read Brandon's second post...he actually made a bit of sense in that one. If you still want to be friends with Alex, just come on back over to the lunch table....there won't be any fights or anything like that, I can assure you. You don't need to feel outcast or anything, we'll accept you just as before. I don't really know what else to say to help with this situation.....I've done as much as I can. I suppose I could hold a group therapy session....I can be the neutral, understanding moderator, if you guys want it. Truthfully, you shouldn't dwell on this anymore, like I said Alex will be friends if you want him to...if you don't then it's best just to forget about it and don't worry....you worry too much for one so young.

~Zoo
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
But Alex is the best boyfriend you could ask for.


Stacey, no offense or anything, but you really wouldn't know that since you haven't dated him.

What I don't get is why everyone is telling you that you desereve better. Why?

And seriously, if you ask me, Alex wasn't just giving you crap for 2wks you were also doing the same. If you both said bad things about one another(not saying you have.) then you were both spreading crap.

If he's bad then why do you continue to talk about how much you loved him and how much you want to be friends? It doesn't add up.


I don't want to sound like Satan here, but I agree with this. It really doesn't add up.

~carebear~
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Stacey, no offense or anything, but you really wouldn't know that since you haven't dated him.


Hmm, that does kind of make sense....in fact, it makes a lot of sense. (Something bad will happen with this.... )

~Zoo
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hmm, that does kind of make sense....in fact, it makes a lot of sense. (Something bad will happen with this.... )


Well I don't want anything bad to happen. I don't want Stacey to take offense to it. But it is the truth, and sometimes truth bites you hard in the ass. And that bite hurts like a bitch.

~carebear~
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
But it is the truth, and sometimes truth bites you hard in the ass. And that bite hurts like a bitch.


...I have to agree with that...and it's funny...

~Zoo
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
No.... i asked Alex one time last week if i could sit next to him at lunch during art 3rd period. His responce was "Sure..." i replied "It will make you made wouldnt it" Then he replied "probably". What kind of friend would say that?

And then, when i get to lunch Ashley is on one side of him and Stacey is on the other. Really sweet thing to do to a friend.... right?

When he called to break up with me, he said that we can still be friends..... but sad to say, i was the one who promoted the first conversation.... which in turn he walked away from. How fair is that?

Sam
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
A friend would tell you the truth.

That seating arrangement wasn't my idea. I can't make them not sit by me.

I was in a lot of pain that day. Emotionally and physically, I wasn't ready for that first conversation. I'm sorry that it turned out the way it did. Walking away was the easiest way to escape some of the pain. I'm not proud of what I did, but I did it.

Alex
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
So, you’ve hurt for so long and never told me….. just wondering, but, did you tell Stacey?


Okay for starts you were blaming him for a lot of things that weren't true. I was there for him. I was being a friend nothing more.
I am sorry that you and Alex broke up. But there was a reason for it. I didn't have anything to do with it. It just happen to fall on after you blamed him for flirting with me.



But Alex is the best boyfriend you could ask for.Stacey, no offense or anything, but you really wouldn't know that since you haven't dated him.


I don't have to date him to know in my opinion he would be. He is a great friend, he listens to you, and is a kind a gentlemen. And not most guys are some are but most aren't they are very rare.
So don't sit here and type saying I have no right saying it. Brandon said the same thing And I quto:

He's probably the best thing that has happened to you, and now you want to say you deserve better?


NO but I don't see you saying well Brandon I don't think you can say that b.c you haven't dated him. NO but you go to the person of the opposite sex, the one who deffend a great friend and tell her , she can't say that. Well I think you are wrong.

I have had it with people Bitchin over this break up. I know I am being a real Bitch but I have had. It needs to move on. GET OVER IT. I have heard about this relationship for 3-4 FUCKIN weeks, and I am tired.
JOEUSER isn't the place to back stab, exs, and friends. I am tired of people bitchin so just stop.



And then, when i get to lunch Ashley is on one side of him and Stacey is on the other. Really sweet thing to do to a friend.... right?


Okay you can go and talk behind me back saying oh she likes him. Well you know what I don't . There was nowhere else to sit. Besides I came late I wasn't even early so if you didn't take it when you got in b.c you got to the cafe.. before me, then that is your fault not mine, and not his.

So just leave me out of this. I didn't do anything, I did was be a friend to you and alex, I didn't judge before I knew. I was there for you when you were hurting Sam, during Band Camp and NOW all I get is a stab in the back THANKS. SOME friend you are. YOU talk about TRUST yet you didn't TRUST me. WHY would I flirt with ALEX. HUH I want to know I am not that type of friend. YOU should know that. I guess YOU really don't TRUST Me. Well Then Why should anyboud TRUST You. I KNOW I WON'T I Doubt you will regain my full trust, because I Don't know if you would do this again to me.

Stacey
I am very disappointed in you. I thought better for you but now I know you just don't TRUST me your friend of no more.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
Stacey, shut up. You really just need to back out of the relationship. I don't know what to say other than i think that people had reason to bitch at you. And as for trust just because she talks about it, doesn't mean YOUVE earned it from her yet. Once again i have plenty of friends and trust all of two of them. I don't think that you should be disappointed in anyone but yourself.
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
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Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
Okay I think I'm just about over this.

Sam - Alex talked to Stacey over the internet about his concerns about his upcoming operation, at the time there was noone else online and you weren't at home, he really wanted to talk to somebody, anybody and Stacey was there.
There was no flirting going on on either partys side but you took it the wrong way - didn't trust Alex that he was telling you the truth and THAT is why your relationshipo is over.

Ashley - Stacey doesn't have to have gone out with Alex to know he's a great guy - I read his blogs and occassionally talk to him on msn -- I know he's a great guy.

Stacey - calm down, once Sam gets over this and manages to talk to Alex about what was really going on at the time you can be friends again.

Sarah - Stay out of it - Sam hasn't been very nice to Stacey lately. Stacey was justified in her rant - maybe not the swearing - she did get a bit carried away.

You all need to back up out of the relationship. Sarah you've got Brandon just try and be happy. Support your friends - all of them. Stacey, Ashley - this has been hard on both Alex and Sam, respect that give them space

Sam - call off your dogs, Alex may have hurt you but having your friends spitting on him in the halls at school is not only dispicable its disgusting.

Children play nicely now, I realise it's your blog but the adults are kinda tired of reading this stuff all over the forums. Especially when most of the people voicing their opinions shouldn't be involved in the first place.
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh I forgot - Girls - enough about Satan. It's not funny it's hurtful and he's not someone who's name you should be joking aorund with. It's childish and you are almost adult.
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
A voice of reason in the midst of all this confusion. Thank you Trina, for saying things other people could not and would not say.

Sam and I should work this out ourselves.

Peace,

Beebes
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
Sam and I should work this out ourselves.


And yet another good idea!

Trina-Good ripping...you said things that I dare not want to say...Way to go!

~Zoo
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank You Trina! You are the best.

Stacey - calm down, once Sam gets over this and manages to talk to Alex about what was really going on at the time you can be friends again.


I will try my best at this it is just hard to see a friend get yelled out, when he didn't do anything.

Stacey But I will try thanks for your advice. It is hard to say what you said but we hardly even know you, but see if one of us said what you said. We would be called the Bitch and Everybody would be mad.