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Maturity has little to do with whether you want to stay friends with someone or whether you want to shred every piece of flesh off of their body with a dull cheese grater...... but hey, let's try and keep things optimistic!

no, I don't think so, why did you split up?

Intence mutually shared experiences. even if it is a one way street like one was a care giver primarily; this can leave a bond. Did with us.

I have to disagree with that one way street stuff....
I have five brothers and four sisters and that road leads to desires of violence...
It's even worse in someone who isn't family and yet you were intimate with.

of course familial intimacy has a completely different meaning......

I'm not explaining that very well am I... ?..... hehe......

I'm still friends with everyone of my x girlfrinds. My wife hates it.

Can we just be friends? The death sentence of any relationship!

I've found that it is usually impossible to be any sort of a real friend to any ex. Maybe only in a cool distant way most always.
I do agree under unusual circumstances it may be possible but very improbable.

*Kim*

Joe Joe JoeJoeJoe freindship is the most valuable resource on earth and if you were friends to begin with then friends you will remain.

We were friends to begin with; For years. She even got married while we were best friends and had a child. The marraige was abusive and she was not 'allowed' to talk to me (or anyone else for that matter)

She left him and then I reluctanly befriended her again, but because I lost her as a friend to a guy, I thought, "hey why don't I be your guy?" Besides that I loved her to much to be anything less than a life partner.

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Then we broke up.

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She said, "lets be friends."

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PROBLEM:
I still wanted to be her man

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Finally, I gave up.

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She gets a new man

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End of friendship.
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Good story huh? Its can't be true because I represent all people (men, woman, everyone) and that is why my name is joetheblow.



I can't beleive she hates me!!!

This story has been changes to protect the innocent. Names, ages, and sex have been altered.

...Names, ages, and sex have been altered.

Is this why you are now a 'Madam'?

for a person to be a friend, for me at least, there must be a certain level of emotional payment on my part for what I will allow myself to put into the relationship. To me this
does in fact equate to *love*... So, to say that there can not be love if there is to be
a friendship is foriegn to say the least...

ex-lowvers - sex does not equate to -love...

though I have had more than one ah... bunny-buddie in the past who was just a friend which
also liked the way each of us, mm, expressed outrselves

no love lost there, and we did care about each other, just couldn't be together because we
grated on each others nerve's...