Can ex- lovers be friends?

Yes. Its not easy, but indeed is possible.

Yes, until there is a new love...

I've seen it and I've also someone whom I almost married who is one of my closer friends.
People do not get into relationships so they end up hating each other
If you can get through and past the painful parts and back to the love, sure, though it
might be a different type of love. Sometimes that is what screws it up from the begining,
it is a love of a human being, whom they are and such, and not being IN love with the person.

mm, short answer

yeah

My ex-wife is one of my best friends.
We're both happily re-married but find it extremely easy to keep our friendship alive. We both know that our life together as a couple is over but were friends before we were lovers and find it easy to revert back to that state.

cool

this is a good thing and one that shoould happen more often, it would safe so much pain that otherwise is so distructful for so many, both emotionally and mentally (self image)...

Depends on the cause of the split.
If they split because love just wasn't there anymore, but without hate replacing it, then it's possible. But if there is still the slightest trace of love in either of the two, the no, friendship isn't possible.

Yes. Friendship can go beyond the love stage. It has been reached by many.

I am still good friends with one and somewhat friends with another... the first one I've known since high school so it wasn't too difficult to remain friends with her but the second one broke my heart and with her she tries harder than I do to remain friends but yes we are still friends.

Yes, yes they can - and in fact, Xerraire, it can be /quite/ easy, depending on the people involved.

/me looks over at his email with a fond sigh.

Wow - first thing in the morning posts....

bleh.

That was a "Not to contradict Xerraire..."

It all depends on the people involved...
/me wanders off, mumbling incoherently, to go get some coffee.

kthxbye
Ok it depends on the people
I suppose if I am half the equation, given time, yes its possible...but, I still think it isn't easy. Its like you have to deny a certain part of you, something that was once instinctive, and now must die in away.

With time, there is a healing and a heart that still can love and appreciate that person for all the same reasons you loved them in the first place, without going further than friends.

Just isn't easy! hehe

I had coffee, and it didn't help much. hehe

Now, of course if we're talking about ex-spouses.. I haven't talked to my ex-wife in 16 years and wouldn't have anything to do with her for any reason under the sun.

Be honorable, be kind, be honest.
after that, anything is possible.

I guess it all depends. I consider my ex "family" (not friends) and he considers me the same. We can attend family gatherings, we hug/kiss, as a welcome and goodbye. But then again, where I'm from that is done for all greetings and goodbyes. As long as this "friendship" doesn't hurt any others, such as new spouse/girlfiend/boyfriend, that may be involved, I see no problem.

nope...

if both are emotionally mature enough, sure...why not.

AAaaoooooooooohhhhhh......

Yes. Sometimes. But if one is still strongly physically attracted to the other it can be it can be more trouble than it is worth.

My exwife and I are friends. But we had the frienship thing going for a couple years prior to the marriage. And although we had fun, neither of us were really getting what we wanted sexually from the other. So it is not an issue.

Good Question...hmmm...

you can be friends only if there is TRULY no love anymore, if one of the 2 still hope, there is no possibility

that's very true.....

no.. I don't think it's very realistic, I don't talk to any of my ex's anymore, but im sure you and your ex are in a completely different situation than me and my ex's. If you two had a mature relationship where you both gave, and rarely took, I believe it's possible for you guys to be long time friends. But most relationships aren't like that anymore.

I think it takes a great deal of understanding...mutually. I indeed know its possible. I just persist in saying its not easy to do.