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No Sympathy for Skinny Chicks

from JoeUser Forums
I have no sympathy for the skinny chicks.

Anytime anyone talks about, or writes an article about, the need for body acceptance for curvy girls, inevitably a naturally thin chick will pipe up with, "I can't help it if I'm skinny. You guys are always cutting down skinny girls, but I'd be in trouble if I called a big girl a cow."

NEWS FLASH SKINNY GIRLS: You have not been persecuted. You are idolized. You see your image on TV, in magazines, in movies, on mannequins, in catalogs, on billboards. You get society's collective stamp of approval.

Guess who the super low rise jeans that require a thorough bikini wax were made for?

You.

Guess who the bikinis that are nothing but tiny triangles and strings are made for?

You.

Guess who the tiny logo T-shirts are made for?

You.

Guess who thongs and miniskirts and spaghetti strap tops are made for?

That's right, girlfriend . . . you.

I think you can take a tiny bit of flack from your curvy sisters considering the fact that entire world seems to revolve around your concave belly and protruding hip bones.

You're the sexy swimsuit screen saver. You're the lingerie model. You're the waitress who gets the good tips. You're the the Cingular phone commercial girl, the Coors commercial girl, the Old Navy commercial girl, and the Clarinex commercial girl.

You are accepted. You are adored. According to the entire Western world, you are the epitome of beauty and femininity.

So what if the curvy girls look at you with disdain when you consume an entire skillet of fajitas. So what if we whisper to our husbands or boyfriends, "Wow. She's too skinny, don't you think?" So what if the average sized girls get together on a blog or at a table and discuss what they like about themselves and try to help each other learn to love their not so cookie cutter bodies?

Why do you care? Get over yourself. You're not the one being made to feel unworthy and unattractive. If you have to endure a dirty look or a little whisper every now and then, so what. The consolation prize is that you are the center of the universe and you can walk into any store in the country and pick out any outfit in it and walk out looking damn hot.

Stop whining.



*This blog inspired by recent skinny girl bitching on dharma's "What's with the skinny, anorexic looking chicks?" thread.*
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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top
Don't be telling us we don't look good in our tank tops when your butt crack has its own zip code, dude!


Yeah, ugh. Sometimes I just want to spackle those bad boys shut!

The funny thing is, and you can ask any woman about this, they don't make bikinis for DDs.


Well, it all depends on the amount of boob covered...

Give me a nice round butt and hips that will birth a nation and I'm a happy boy.

-- B
Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top
In my opinion, when it comes down to it, women are conditioned to be too competitive. What's funny is that, although I will be the first person bemoaning the surrounding culture that has only saved artifacts worshipping a man's genitals, women don't just look at one defining body part--we look at EVERYTHING. Although I consider myself to be more secure than most women when it comes to my body/looks, I'll occasionally flip through beauty magazines in curiousity ("hey, I'm above this, but I'm going to skim this with a sociological perspective"), fascination (stares at individual characteristics of models and objectively notes the brillance of the soothing post-valley-girl vernacular and the smugness of articles supposedly encouraging an appreciation of individuality, ie, giving you a list of bathing suits that hide your individual "flaws"), increduousness ("what kind of sheep do they think I am?" , IMMEDIATELY followed by disgust ("oh my god, in the half second that I chuckled at how ridiculous this is, I stole a glance at EVERY other woman in the magazine section!")

In reality, men aren't as picky as women. They'll be happy if any woman is clearly interested in them. People (regardless of gender) are drawn to those who have a lot of self-confidence (and in my opinion, increases the ever-elusive and changing "beauty" 100x)-- most women just don't have enough confidence. Images that chip away at your confidence have the same philosophy as boot camp- they tear you down, only to build you up again with close ties to what they represent.
(No matter how you look, if your doctor says that you're healthy, then be happy and at least try to laugh once a day at all the images that the all-consuming, consumer-savvy, billion dollar markets are trying to hurl your way. Unfortunately, not enough women realize how pettiness is a profit, and perpetuate this damn cycle of feelings of shame. It gives them a false sense of entitlement which serves to bring others down to lift themselves up.
No one's perfect; anyone criticizing or taking criticism about their bodies personally is an example. Being different from the supposed cookie-cutter "standard" body is not .
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Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
although I will be the first person bemoaning the surrounding culture that has only saved artifacts worshipping a man's genitals


come on, be fair now. Of course we have the washington monument, cleopatra's needle, the space shuttle, electric car antennas, skyscrapers, etc., but it's not all phallic symbols out there. What about the women? They have the grand canyon, the mcdonald's "golden arches", bikini mud flaps, and so on. Tell me you didn't giggle when you where a kid every time you heard the name "Twin Peaks."

they don't make bikinis for DDs. You have to be fairly flat chested to be able to successfully wear a bikini.


I know, 's them not being successful at it that causes all the fun..........
Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ooh, I gotta hide this from my wife! She's her heaveist she's ever been now (she's 45) @ 105 lbs! She's been the object of jealous attacks all her life, and now at 45 she has decided she's tired of it and has started retaliating with her own smart-assedness when someone is rude to her about her size. I never have understood how people can go up to someone and say "Gee, your skinny," or "My God! you've gained weight!" I don't get it...
Reply #30 from JoeUser Forums Top
AMEN SISTER! This article is the best thing I've ever read on JU.... It's all SO TRUE! Trust me...the low rise hip hugging pants were not made for someone who's 5`2 and 120 lbs....
Reply #31 from JoeUser Forums Top
personally, i think that all the waifs look like pre pubescent boys...and so does Hardin...
Reply #32 from JoeUser Forums Top
Trust me...the low rise hip hugging pants were not made for someone who's 5`2 and 120 lbs....


Well, it doesn't look so bad anyway.
Reply #33 from JoeUser Forums Top
the low rise hip hugging pants were not made for someone who's 5`2 and 120 lbs....


I don't even like those things. I prefer to see a girl in a pair of pants that fit her waist and accentuate her butt. Rockies come to mind.
Reply #34 from JoeUser Forums Top
Tex this article rocks completely! I have been on both sides of the scale, and at the moment I am falling on the too skinny side. About a year ago I was a healthy size. Not to skinny, just had a bit of junk in the trunk. Then someone said I was fat. It really upset me. Lord knows why looking back, I should of just wiggled my bouncy ass at them and told them to kiss it. Instead I went on this stupid diet, I call it a diet. It worked on the theory of eat as little as possible, and do as much exercise as possible. Very stupid. It just made me feel ill, and instead of losing weight on my ass, I lost weight off my beloved boobs. I lost my proper womaly curves, and was just skinny. People, no matter what size should be happy with the way they are. Eat healthy and be happy. There's more to life than wearing as little as possible, and fitting in with everyone else!
Reply #35 from JoeUser Forums Top

well, you know, laughing at the thought of dating you, insulting you, other such things. Its not a general assessment, just most experiences ive had


I've had those experiences too, at least with Hispanic girls, which tells me something about Hispanics.


personally, i think that all the waifs look like pre pubescent boys...and so does Hardin...


They kind of do don't they? Meanwhile, the heavier women look like hippos.

Reply #37 from JoeUser Forums Top
heather:
Tex, there is the real comment with wisdom in it!




Marcie:
Amen to the shapely bottoms, bosoms, and the occasional fat roll.


Glad you liked it.

NJForever:
As an unattractive, but intelligent guy, I can honestly say this: skinny chicks are the most hurtful beings on this planet. In onther words, I loved your article Tex!


Thanks. I definitely don't intend to "skinny bash," but I feel I have a valid point with this -- skinny girls DO NOT endure the hate and persecution that heavier girls do.

Mr. Frog:
Yeah, ugh. Sometimes I just want to spackle those bad boys shut!


Now there's an idea!

Give me a nice round butt and hips that will birth a nation and I'm a happy boy.


Best. Comment. Ever.

foxinthesnow: Thanks for the comments.

SPC:
I know, 's them not being successful at it that causes all the fun..........


He he he . . . that's seriously dangerous . . . I've actually popped out of a one piece before (luckily the beach was not crowded, and I think Adrian was the only one who saw!). If the DDs of the world wore bikini tops, the Janet Jackson fiasco would soon become a non-event!

Shovel:
She's been the object of jealous attacks all her life, and now at 45 she has decided she's tired of it and has started retaliating with her own smart-assedness when someone is rude to her about her size.


Just can't feel sorry for her. Nope. Not a bit. ( )

I never have understood how people can go up to someone and say "Gee, your skinny," or "My God! you've gained weight!" I don't get it...


I agree. That's rude on either end.

alison:
AMEN SISTER! This article is the best thing I've ever read on JU.... It's all SO TRUE! Trust me...the low rise hip hugging pants were not made for someone who's 5`2 and 120 lbs....


Glad you liked it. Isn't that sad? You're plenty small, and yet clothes are not made to compliment your body. Yuck.

TasT:
I don't even like those things. I prefer to see a girl in a pair of pants that fit her waist and accentuate her butt. Rockies come to mind.


He he he . . . do people still wear Rockies?

Sally:
Tex this article rocks completely!


Thanks.

People, no matter what size should be happy with the way they are. Eat healthy and be happy. There's more to life than wearing as little as possible, and fitting in with everyone else!


Beautiful comments! Right on. I love the the "eat healthy and be happy." Thanks for the input!

messy: I understand what you're getting at, but I really don't like it on this thread. The "hippo" thing is really mean, even as way to prove your point. It's wrong to be hateful to someone based on their size, large OR small, but the point I'm making here is . . . tiny women cannot understand, even when they have to put up with the occasional jealous glare or "too thin" comment, how much pressure and negative feedback curvier (thinking size 8 and above here) women get.

It's hard being bootylicious!
Reply #38 from JoeUser Forums Top

well, you know, laughing at the thought of dating you, insulting you, other such things. Its not a general assessment, just most experiences ive had


I'm classed as skinny not for much longer, though!), and I'm not mean like that.


Besides, who can really say what 'unattractive' really is?  I find beauty in many things, not all of which are conventionally 'beautiful'.


'Beauty' is overrated anyway.

Reply #39 from JoeUser Forums Top

messy: I understand what you're getting at, but I really don't like it on this thread. The "hippo" thing is really mean, even as way to prove your point. It's wrong to be hateful to someone based on their size, large OR small, but the point I'm making here is . . . tiny women cannot understand, even when they have to put up with the occasional jealous glare or "too thin" comment, how much pressure and negative feedback curvier (thinking size 8 and above here) women get.


I understand that overweight people have it worse than slender people, but that does not justify the attacks on slender people. To condone such attacks is hypocritical. That's why rather than condone one attack and condemning the other, I choose to look down on both forms. Yet, I think I'm in the minority, because although what I said was mean (and I knew it was when I said it), so was what Alison said, yet nobody had a problem with it besides me. I wonder why.

Reply #40 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yet, I think I'm in the minority, because although what I said was mean (and I knew it was when I said it), so was what Alison said, yet nobody had a problem with it besides me. I wonder why.


Guess I'm a hypocrite then, because I don't feel sorry for the thin women.

If society was more equitable in body acceptance, I might go about condemning people who said that waif women look like young boys, but since the media and society as a whole seems to be on a crusade to belittle any woman who doesn't disappear when she turns sideways, I think skinny girls should just grow a bit thicker skin (ha ha).

Hypocritical, but justified, IMO.
Reply #41 from JoeUser Forums Top

It's never justified to belittle somebody because of their weight, even if they face less discrimination. It's like with racism. Blacks have faced more discrimination than whites, but that does not justify discrimination against whites. To condone the belittling of somebody because of her weight is no different than the opposition who belittles somebody because of her weight.

Reply #42 from JoeUser Forums Top
It's never justified to belittle somebody because of their weight, even if they face less discrimination.


You take the high road, messy, but remember it's easy for you because you're a guy. You cannot possibly understand. Why do you think this got so many "Amens" from women -- even skinny ones?
Reply #43 from JoeUser Forums Top

You take the high road, messy, but remember it's easy for you because you're a guy. You cannot possibly understand. Why do you think this got so many "Amens" from women -- even skinny ones?


Their responses are based more on emotion than on reason. How else could somebody differentiate attacking one group because of their weight and attacking one group because of their weight?


I'm happy to see my gender invalidates my words though. Perhaps when somebody disagrees with me, even if they make a decent argument, I could disregard their argument based on who they are.

Reply #44 from JoeUser Forums Top
Their responses are based more on emotion than on reason. How else could somebody differentiate attacking one group because of their weight and attacking one group because of their weight?


I'm not saying that anyone SHOULD attack skinny girls, however, they (our skinny sisters) tend to whine about how people are so mean to them about their size when in actuality, they have it pretty damn good. I'm saying, "so someone gave you a dirty look because you can wear a bandanna as a shirt -- so what? Be happy that the entire world caters to you and get over your sensitivity."

I'm happy to see my gender invalidates my words though. Perhaps when somebody disagrees with me, even if they make a decent argument, I could disregard their argument based on who they are.


In this case, yes, it is next to impossible for you to understand where I, and the other women on this thread, are coming from. You haven't experienced the pressure and disapproval we've experienced. Nothing wrong with you trying to understand, and it doesn't make your opinion invalid, it just means that your perspective is one of someone on the outside looking in.
Reply #45 from JoeUser Forums Top
I do see where you're coming from and I think we do agree on the main issue. After all, it is silly for a slender girl to feel as though they have it rough because of their weight.
Reply #46 from JoeUser Forums Top
i'm skinny

And i can wear whatever i want eat whatever i want but i dont know how long... Till the day i'm a mum too
Reply #47 from JoeUser Forums Top

skinny chicks are the most hurtful beings on this planet


well, you know, laughing at the thought of dating you, insulting you, other such things. Its not a general assessment, just most experiences ive had


ok, whilst i can see where texas is coming from with this post, njforever, i can't say that i agree that being thin makes you more likely to be a bad person. i've never laughed at or insulted people because i'm thin !. skinny chicks aren't the most hurtful beings on the planet !. some of us are happily married, nice people who are capable of having their feelings hurt by such taunts. like me, for example.


i agree with texas that the world is somewhat prejudiced towards the thinner female, and i'm not about to deny it. but i'd ask that folks such as you, njforever, realise that, just like not all heavy women are greedy, not all thin women are bitches.


mig XXX


ps: sorry for the minor 'hijack', texas. i liked the article and actually got a smile out of it


 

Reply #48 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't know how to respond to this one.

On the one hand I'm about an American size 8 (which is an Australian size 10 which is an English size 12 - confusing, I tell you!) which makes me neither fat nor thin. I'm towards the low end of my healthy BMI range, but I still have boobs, a belly and a bit of a wobble to my thighs when I strut my stuff. I go up and down about how I feel about my body, but I'm generally OK about it. I have curves, I am not meant to be skinny (been there, done that, got the medical problems to prove it).

My two best friends from home would be US size 0-2 at the most. These ladies eat, drink, and do all they can to gain weight, to no avail. They don't wear revealing clothing, and actually have great problems buying clothes as the only styles made for their sizes are the ones you mentioned before. If they don't want their stomachs or 95% if their legs on display, they don't have a lot of options. High on their list of priorities is covering their protruding collar bones and bony knees.

I know that 'fat chicks' get a lot of flack. But I have never seen anyone receive such direct, steaming vitriol about their size as these girls. People tend to snigger about 'fat' people behind their backs. As being skinny is seen as an afront, yet not one that you need to be PC about, people have no problems telling these kind, intelligent, sensitive, funny ladies that they are indeed the spawn of satan because their hip bones protrude.

Yes, I can see how life should be easier for the skinny girl, but just as all fat people can't be pigeon holed, neither can the skinny ones. They want to have breasts and hips like me, I want to have a flat stomach like them. The sooner we learn to love diversity, the sooner us women can stop being such horrible f**king cows to each other and get on with things.

Some people blame the media, some blame men, I blame us. Skinny, fat or perfect, we're always managing to find new ways to bitch about the other camp.
Reply #49 from JoeUser Forums Top
Texas, here, here! Society still hasn't fully embraced the curvy or full-figured woman, although it's talked about a lot.