why is my life so messed up..?

...aaaarghhh im going to scream in frustration

from JoeUser Forums
why the hell am i always stuck in second gear....? pleaaase god theres got to be an answer to this one ...i mean you have to absolutely have to answer this one ...why the hell can't i have an absolute ten on ten figure,...a great ,dashing,smart ,good looking,witty,funny,caring,sensitive ,romantic,perfect hunk of a male for a boyfriend ....who dances like patrick swayze ,plays guitar like kurt cobain ,and spends his vacations abroad....why the hell can't i get up on time ,get ready in a jiffy ,and get out of the house in seconds and not take some goddamn two hours agonising over where ive misplaced my ID card...?why can't life be just the way i want it to be ? not one inch to the right not one inch to the left,,...the way i see it why doesn't it ever materialize..perfect ..straight not curves,or twisted lines..im sick of living in a world of not quite not yet or just haves...why can't i just top as in you know "top" for once in class and not just get first divisions?...if i had my way id utilize every second not let it run away like that but instead ive spent my past four day holidays doing next to nothing ..sleeping ten hours a day afternoon siestas ,bedtimes and just loitering about the house ...had thought would go to the beaches during winters this year so might as well start dieting considering how much id like to wear a sarong..but after the first day i was back to eating "nutties"...did some abdomen exercises today but realizing how much work it was gave up midway,had grand plans of building my stamina with walking,running,jogging,circuit training...a relatively new concept read about it in a workout magazine n since then im dying to try it out...but haven't got round to starting it despite the available bulk time ....................
i think its high time i pull up my socks but what if the socks continue to sag down?.....
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Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

this may not be what you want to hear, but I'm going to say it anyway.  The problem is not that your life is not perfect.  Even if you got all of the things that you claim to want, chances are you still wouldn't be happy... such is human nature.  That doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you human. 

The little things like not being able to keep track of you ID and such can be solved by changing your behaviors around a little bit.  In this case, just get yourself in the habit of ALWAYS putting your ID in the same place, each and everytime you come home.  Never put it anywhere else.  Ever.  That way, when it's time to go, BAM!  there it is, right where you left it.  There are a hundred little things like this that you can do to solve annoying problems like this one. 

If you truly want a 'perfect' figure (there's no such thing as perfect), then start a realistic workout program... set some short and long term goals and be realistic with 'em.  Give yourself X number of months to reach your goal weight... did I mention how important it is to be realistic? 

Hunk of a male for a boyfriend?  come on now... try to narrow down your list of 'must-haves' to just a few.  Get out there and meet some new people, give the guy that you've been ignoring a fair chance... you never know what might happen. 

your socks may very well sag back down, but you can't let that discourage you.  grit your teeth and pull 'em back up again... and never ever quit...   do some research on REBT or CBT (pyschology stuff), and you'll see that i'm not just making all of this up... Good luck to ya girl... it's never as bad as it seems.   

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey thx from dropping by my blog. u know u have actually said things that i felt myself some time back. I guess one way to get rid of the "just there but still not there" feeling is to do something drastic. Something that can shake you out of the rut. Like going to a hospital and voluteering for a day in ER or going to the mountains and trekking alone for a day. It will make you appreciate what already have.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
hey tina....lifes life that. we r all in it together! enjoy it !!!
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Eugh, writing "enjoy it" on a depressing blog seems so fucking condescending

I know how you feel. Things in a rut. Stuff isn't working out to your satisfaction. You just can't seem to be "the best" at anything---in fact, you feel pretty mediocre. Right? Well anyway that's a much simplified and happier version of me, but anyhow it does suck, doesn't it?

At least we're not alone. Try to take comfort in that.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hi'sory your so down if you need some one to talk to who has been their and back let me now,its getting late and I will reply to your post again. My Email just in case is [email protected]. It gets better if you keep trying.
Bobby
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
All u want is a cup of life!!! it ain't fun living in a perfect world. what makes it interesting is the imperfection, whine or no whine!!
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hi there...well...there r two versions for a reply to this supposedly intriguing question..."why is my life so messed up..?" supposedly coz i doubt u already know d answers... anyways version 1 says...hey come on...look at what u have..life's never perfect...stop taking ur mind into such dreams n thoughts which u know beforehand r just too large to be real...happiness is a state of mind..etc etc version 2 says...come on u cant be the best in everything just by thinking about it...people who have reached d top havent got there by just dreaming...u got to be practical n put in a diligent effort..u cant realise dreams by sleeping on siesta....etc etc...so which version u like more..take ur pick...
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
thanks everybody vanilla ,priyangini,imajinit...it helps to know all you guys are wid me in it!)
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
All right..tat was d bookish answer...the real one is...u r just dreaming too much..I guess all u want..to put it very simply..is space n air to share sentiments with someone who wud be loving n sensitive enuf to understand...I guess..if u have someone like tat in ur life...not finding ur i-card , or a fitness regime would just not bother u anymore...
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Just stop living in the fantasy world and get out and face the real world.
Be brave Be less emotional Be real.

I am much more disorganised, much more disformed and much more lazy than u can imagine. but who cares ? atleast i dont have time for that. lol


Regarding the perfect hunk of a male for a boyfriend issue... well all i can say that i dont want a perfect girl to be my average girlfriend but instead i would love to have an average girl whos my perfect girlfriend....

lol....... hope u understand cuz i dont have any idea what i just wrote.
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
@doc he he he he..) okay point taken! goes to show wat a typical indian male ur..lol just kidding:-))
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
@doc,just imagine ..darlings im not dreaming at all,this is the way my life is and ive been brave enough to state the facts...i would be dreaming if i said there was nothing wrong with my life
robert h. schuller" only the dead have no problems at all"!
by d way 'J 'i think your solution would be exchanging one set of problems for a more complex,different set of problems....lol