Am I still a Virgin?

from JoeUser Forums
Ok I just was thinking about something and needed to share.

This morning on one of the radio programs they were talking about when people lost their virginity, their stories and what they got upto when it happened.

Now seeing that I am Gay I was going to ring in and tell them that I was still a virgin. A virgin at 32. I can imagine them asking me all the questions. But seriously I have never had sex with a woman before. Never. I really wouldn't even know apart from the odd picture Ive seen what it looks like down there or even feels like for that matter.

So does that make me still a virgin? Am I missing out on something? Why am I even thinking this way?

Well obviously I have had sex, but it has only been with another man. Im not decrying it because I really love having sex with men, there is nothing I could think of that is more erotic and passionate. ( I know I must be grossing out the straight male in here) but seriously there has to be some point where either sex thinks about what it would be like to have sex with the same sex or even experimented. Now that would be a brave ask to have people on here divulge that sort of information and ten points if you do, but hey Im now thinking that Im still a virgin of straight sex at 32.

I might be missing out on something. I dont know what? I really wouldnt even know what to do. I must admit I cringe at this point because I couldnt imagine myself doing it but, honestly I am now curious.

What does this all mean!?!?!
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yep i guess you are still a virgin dear Phoenixboi.
And as for you missing out, well you probably are, just as maybe straights are missing out on sleeping with someone the same sex.
Anyhoooo, dont linger thinking about it. One of my gay friends thought about it so much he came to the conclusion that he was a 'Virgin Slut'.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Anyhoooo, dont linger thinking about it. One of my gay friends thought about it so much he came to the conclusion that he was a 'Virgin Slut'.


Im just curious today.. probably forget about it tomorrow, or when I next see Marcus. But I love the thought of Virgin Slut! ..

Thanks island gurl!
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
You're welcome Phoenix

And yeah i guess all of us are curious at least once in our lives either if it happened or not yet. As far as i'm concerned i've never even shared a kiss with another girl. And just the thought of it freaks the hell outta me! But you know, you never know what the future holds!!
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
And just the thought of it freaks the hell outta me! But you know, you never know what the future holds!!


Why does it freak you out Island? Im curious... Ive kissed a girl but never done the deed.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
I dont really know why it freaks me out. I guess it's like when you are a kid and never locked lips with anyone before. It grosses you out but also secretely fascinates you.

How bout you? What did you feel when you kissed the girl? Didnt you feel like taking it further?? Ooops! Sorry, probably too curious You dont have to answer that.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think it's one of those questions if you are really asking it then no, your not. *shrug* but whatever works for you.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
How bout you? What did you feel when you kissed the girl? Didnt you feel like taking it further?? Ooops! Sorry, probably too curious You dont have to answer that.


Umm no actually I never thought about it. My first kiss was with a girl and I actually enjoyed it, but when I first kissed a guy I enjoyed it much more. I like the passion associated with it, the roughness..... umm yeah.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
it's one of those questions if you are really asking it then no, your not


I think I understand what you mean..
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top

I like the passion associated with it, the roughness..... umm yeah.


girls can be rough too ya know...

Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
girls can be rough too ya know...


Oh yeah

There are definitions of virginity which are specific to the act of being penetrated by a male(of course, the assumption is that the female is the one who hasn't had that done to them), which would make a lot of men virgins by that definition.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Im still a virgin of straight sex at 32


I'm a virgin of gay sex at 25. He he he . . .

If you are wondering about it, maybe you should play around with it a bit . . . possibly you are bi? (I hope I'm not offending you by suggesting that!)
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
girls can be rough too ya know...


Yeah probably...but the roughness of a guy is different I think...
There are definitions of virginity which are specific to the act of being penetrated by a male


Well my definition here is that I have never penetrated a woman..
I'm a virgin of gay sex at 25. He he he .


I like the way you think Texas! me bi? hmm no dont think so.. well dont know.. here is another thing Ive thought about in the past why do we need to label ourselves? I havent come across a situation where I would have sex with a woman. Maybe I should ?? And Texas you never offend me

Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hmmm... Interesting thread.

I've snogged women, but mostly friends and these snogs have never gone on to anything further. I guess it's just two people sharing a kiss (and many times a result of certain inebriants being present in my system). I'm with you in that men have a certain roughness about them, and women simply don't turn me on either - even though I can definitely appreciate their beauty and call many sexy without being sexually attracted to them.

Hey - I've never penetrated a woman - does that make me a virgin too???
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
HAHA! You pose an interesting question. I'd say that yes, you are a straight sex virgin, but that doesn't make you a virgin. Just like I'm a gay sex virgin, but I'm not a virgin, either.

here is another thing Ive thought about in the past why do we need to label ourselves?


I think this answers your own question, though. Sex is sex. So, most of the people answering on the thread are not virgins in one sense or another. That's really it, plain and simple.

On a funny side note, I had a friend that when he got drunk would tell everyone that he was secure enough in his sexuality that he could kiss a guy. Mostly he did it so that he could get girls to kiss each other for his benefit. But my answer to him was that I wasn't secure enough in his sexuality to let him! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
though I can definitely appreciate their beauty and call many sexy without being sexually attracted to them.


Im with you there Floozie... I understand what you mean. Ive been attracted to women just not more than their beauty.
On a funny side note, I had a friend that when he got drunk would tell everyone that he was secure enough in his sexuality that he could kiss a guy.


They all say that Chip. Ive got stories about guys who say they are straight but give me a couple of hours and usually more often than not theyhave their pants down their ankles..

Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
My wife considers herself bisexual. She has been in long-term relationships with both men and women. When she says she is comfortable with her own sexuality, I really believe her. We are swingers at heart, I suppose, but are so in love with each other we remain monogomous. Jealousy is not in our vocabulary

Sex is sex. That's really it, plain and simple


I agree completely. If it is between consenting adults, if the attraction is ther and if its not hurting anybody, then why be uptight about it. Life is just too short to ignore powerful attractions between individuals. Attraction doesn't necessarily equate to sex, though. But try telling that to some people...
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top

Why, P!  I never knew that about you......you're a girly virgin!


That's ok, I'm a girly virgin too.  Well, I kissed a girl (yes, there were tongues involved)...but that's as far as it went.  I learnt something from that experience though...I'm straight.  Without a doubt.


Flooz, you're a girly virgin too!

Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
They all say that Chip. Ive got stories about guys who say they are straight but give me a couple of hours and usually more often than not theyhave their pants down their ankles..


Holy Crap! Good thing I had just set down my drink... would have sprayed my monitor! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
No, you're not still a virgin. You've had sex. I'm interested, how do you imagine vaginal sex to be like yourself? Do you think you would ever try it?
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
We are swingers at heart, I suppose, but are so in love with each other we remain monogomous. Jealousy is not in our vocabulary


hey Dynamaso.. being in love is really nice .. and i think that if you are in love with someone you really shouldnt be jealous, cause you trust each other and love each other unconditionally. Nice to see mate!
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
I learnt something from that experience though...I'm straight. Without a doubt.


I guess but Im not sure Dharma that's how I would feel as well if I went further with a girl..?? Imnot sure. I like being a girly virgin..

Good thing I had just set down my drink... would have sprayed my monitor


... sorry chip! ... Hey Chip havent you ever thought about it??

I'm interested, how do you imagine vaginal sex to be like yourself? Do you think you would ever try it?


Hey Champas... well I dont know what I think I havent really thought about it.. but I guess it would be like having sex with a guy in a way.. but honestly I dont know.. someone enlighten me! Would I try it? Yeah I guess in the right situation I would.
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top

but honestly I dont know.. someone enlighten me! Would I try it? Yeah I guess in the right situation I would.

Well, I only know one guy who was in a somewhat similar situation as you (I put that in a loose term, because it is different in many ways).  He was in a long term relationship with a man who was his first and only sex partner.  He came home one day to find his love dead on the floor (IIRC, he had a stroke).  He turned to a long term friend (who was female) for support.  Well, they started "dating", one thing led to another and now he is married to her and has a child.  So, I guess things aren't always what they seem.  He thought that he was completely gay, and was in a very serious relationship with a man, but then found himself in love with a woman.  Not sure what you would "classify" him, as he is committed to his wife and doesn't even consider returning to a gay relationship.  Was he temporarily gay?

I guess there are personal thresholds.  The fact that you are not totally disgusted with the thought of a woman makes me wonder if the experience might be better than you imagine.  With me, just the thought of touching or kissing another woman totally disgusts me, so I don't even have to wonder about it.  My husband covers his eyes and yells "make it stop" when the guys kiss on "Six Feet Under" so I am pretty sure that he's not questioning which way he swings, either.  But, your situation sounds a bit different.

Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
Was he temporarily gay?


Hey Karma... well I really think if you fall in love with someone male or female then it is love .. I dont think we should label..that's my personal thing. But It's a great story!
I guess there are personal thresholds. The fact that you are not totally disgusted with the thought of a woman makes me wonder if the experience might be better than you imagine.


Hmm no Im not totally disgusted but it does make me cringe a little.. I dont like seeing two girls kiss.. strange as that may sound. I know alot of straight guys are turned on b y the thought of two girls kissing. But to me it is weird.
Six Feet Under


I love that show!
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top

I love that show!

So do I!  But my husband has a hard time watching it .  It's like the most complex family ever, yet they always seem to work things out in their own twisted way.  Throw in some dead people and it's perfect.  Of course, I also have a bit of a morbid sense of humor at times.  

Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
I like the Aussie actress in it Rachel Griffiths.. (she plays Brenda) It's on late at night here but I really like it.