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i see a lot of men wasting a lot of time and money trying to unlock the secret as to what attracts the opposite sex. i hear men bemoaning the lack of 'good women', i hear women complaining that men don't want 'good women' anymore.
it seems that people are so hell-bent on finding the right person that they forget to work on being the right person.
love is meant to represent a state of mutual respect, understanding and affection between parties. so, there should be much less finding out how to 'get' girls and much more getting on with being who you are.
there's nothing so unattractive as a man who goes out of his way be someone else to impress a woman. and if you have to think about what to say to a girl, then you're probably talking to the wrong girl.
being proud of who you are is the most attractive feature any man can possess. young, old, rich, poor, short, tall, none of them matter as far as points go. women aren't looking at your great (or not so great) body. that's just what men think we do. most women are looking at who you are.
every point you score for being somebody you're not will just come off the tally later on when you're trying to unravel the mess you've made for yourself.
nobody is perfect. a little quirkiness, a little geekiness, they're all good. as long as they're the real you, then you can depend on one day finding love. woman are nice creatures. we're far more likely to understand and sympathise with your 'flaws' (real or imagined).
most of us don't care if you're carrying some weight or losing your hair. if you've got a good mind and you try to use it to think about us and talk to us, well, you can pretty much take your pick.
being yourself may not be easy, but it's ultimately better than compromising yourself to meet an imagined standard. if only more men knew how attractive it is to meet a man whose self-worth doesn't depend on the opinions of others. a man who is comfortable with who he is, and who he is becoming.
whatever made you who you are needs to be part of the total package.
books and advice can do so much, but in the end, 'how to get girls', is as stupid a statement as it is a concept. within reason and within the law, be as close to your natural self as you can, and you'll never be left wondering later on why she ended up so 'disappointed' in you. because she won't be.
