I can't stand it anymore!

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Why is it that whenever i get onto joeuser i feel differant. People on hear make me feel stupid. I feel like i don't belong and that i am too young. Sometimes i just want to give up joeuser all together and go back to my life before this. I wonder a lot of things like when people say they want to go to hell because heaven can't be that great cause god made this. Well i talked to my mom about this cause i wanted her input on this. She made a good point she said "well god didn't make this. God made man and man got to do what he wanted with this. Also god knew that it wouldn't be perfect and there would be fighting and etc. But he did it for the good, for us to have a chance." Then i don't know what to do when they say this about heaven when i get back on. I feel like i dunno what to say in response. I needed to say how i felt. I dunno what i want to do right now though. I have talked to one of my friends about this Alex. I thanked him cause he did help me. I was wonderin if anyone else has ever felt this way and what they have done to get through it. Cause at times i can't take it anymore and i just want to scream so loud. I know that won't help so i am seeing if this will. I don't know why i can't stand it either. I can stand a lot of things but for some reason this really does bother me .

~blondelife
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Just relax and go with the flow, girl! Everything's gonna be O.K. Just live one day at a time and keep your eyes open to the world.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

Read, watch, and learn.  Seriously.  I've learned things from being here, and I'm 35 and college educated!


I know how you feel - I used to feel extremely dull and unintelligent when I first started blogging here.  Still do, sometimes.

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
blonde,

It's my opinion that the majority of people who go out of their way to make you feel like you don't know anything...don't know that much themselves.

I enjoy your blogs, and your perspectives, and would like to envourage you to blog on!
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank you. sometimes i feel like i dunno. I know you know how i feel cause you were here once. Thanks for helping i think that i need to calm down and forget about what certain people say. Also thanks Gideon i don't you but you sound and seem very nice i just might have to take you advice. All of you helped a little. You guys don't know how much your comments really mean to me at times.

~blondelife~
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Some people enjoy making other people feel small and will take advantage of every opportunity to do so. Other people enjoy debate and discussion and want nothing more than learn and grow and help others to do the same. You should feel bright and confident, knowing that you belong to the latter group. It is good to question your beliefs. If they are solid, you will come out of it believing in them more strongly. If they don't stand up to the test, then you should adjust them. As Christians, we commanded to always question and search the scriptures. What you are doing here at JU is beneficial for you and for us!
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Some people enjoy making other people feel small and will take advantage of every opportunity to do so.


I have heard that one a lot. My sister is LD. My mom always said that to make my sister feel better about herself and i never really thought anything about it till now. Thank you for that one. I think i can help my sister as well if she ever saids anything like i did in that article.

~blondelife~
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
I feel like i dunno what to say in response. I needed to say how i felt. I dunno what i want to do right now though.


You don't have to respond. I tend to let people believe what they believe. I find that the best you can do is just present it as, "That's very interesting. This is my take on it...." Usually if you're respectful about it they will be too. (Not always, but some people just live to be cranky.)

I occasionally read atheist sites and books to see what their latest positions are. Sometimes it bothers me, not because it affects my beliefs any but because I would also be highly disturbed to see someone pouring water into their gas tank during a disaster evacuation.

I sometimes see Christians expressing the opinion that "If I saw someone standing in the middle of a street and a truck was barreling toward them I would do everything I could to save them" to justify their militant proselytizing. I sympathize with the emotions behind the sentiment, but it ignores what Jesus said about letting the blind follow the blind if they wanted to. Jesus was all about people coming willingly. Ultimately it is the work of God and the Holy Spirit, not us, that saves. Christians are witnesses, not superheros.

So, give witness if you absolutely feel moved to, but don't worry about the outcome. It doesn't matter how much you try to persuade some people that water in the gas tank is going to prevent their escape, they will vehemently insist. Not everyone has "ears to hear."
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Just don't listen to what people say. When I first started on here, people really didn't come around and warm up to me all that quickly. In fact I really don't think a whole lot of people liked me. Well besides Capt., madpoet, and dharma. People did make me feel stupid, but it didn't stop me now did it? I've been on here for four months now. People still make me feel stupid at times, but I just try not to let it get to me. In fact, sometimes the people that made me feel stupid are in fact not that bright themselves. So keep your chin up! And keep on blogging!

~carebear~
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
So, give witness if you absolutely feel moved to, but don't worry about the outcome. It doesn't matter how much you try to persuade some people that water in the gas tank is going to prevent their escape, they will vehemently insist. Not everyone has "ears to hear."


That is a good way to think about it thanks.

I've been on here for four months now. People still make me feel stupid at times, but I just try not to let it get to me.


I do try ashley. But you know me good by now and you know that i worry myself to death. I know i have friends on here but some people just get on that one nerve. You know. well thanks for your advice too.

~blondelife~
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
I do try ashley. But you know me good by now and you know that i worry myself to death. I know i have friends on here but some people just get on that one nerve. You know. well thanks for your advice too


Humm...maybe I can give you some lessons on How not to worry about what others say?! Hey great idea don't ya think! lol

~carebear~
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yeah thanks ashley. But i know one person that you do care about what they think of you. Don't you. exactly. Now on that subject i can give you some lessons.

~blondelife~
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Everyday should be a learning experience. Stupid is a state of mind. Trust me, many people here will tell you I am. Just keep searching for answers. You're not out for their approval. You never should be. Just be as good as you can. And then get better.
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yeah thanks ashley. But i know one person that you do care about what they think of you. Don't you. exactly. Now on that subject i can give you some lessons.


Yeah no problem. And I think I know very well of who you're talking about. And you know what the truth is, I actually don't care what he thinks of me. If he thinks i'm ugly or something, then so be it. Nothing I can do to change it. I mean if he said something mean to me or something, then I might get up set. But everyone is that way. And I don't really think he'd actually tell me I'm ugly if that's what he ever thought.

~carebear~
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
I occasionally read atheist sites and books to see what their latest positions are. Sometimes it bothers me, not because it affects my beliefs any but because I would also be highly disturbed to see someone pouring water into their gas tank during a disaster evacuation.


Man, that's some harsh stuff right there. To give you my perspective as an atheist, listening to Christian positions disturbs me like it would disturb me to see someone I worked with spend a week training diligently for a new position they think they'll be promoted to, only to find that they are fired instead.

Your metaphor was better though >8(.

As for you blondelife, I can't really say anything that hasn't been said before. We all have bad days, we all worry, for you that may mean a crisis of faith, for me paranoia over where my life will end up. It's best to just believe in yourself above all else, believe that you can persevere, and you should find that not only will you be able to overcome such obstacles, but also that those who seek to belittle and attack you just to be rude will no longer hurt you as much. You'll realize that they just take a sick pleasure from making you feel bad, and their jibes are intended just for that, therefore making their actual message meaningless.

If anyone goes out of their way to insult you and make you feel awful, chances are their argument is not really very good at all, because they're engineered more to be rude than insightful.
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
If anyone goes out of their way to insult you and make you feel awful, chances are their argument is not really very good at all, because they're engineered more to be rude than insightful


Humm...this reminds me of what was going on earlier.lol.

~carebear~
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
We all have bad days, we all worry, for you that may mean a crisis of faith, for me paranoia over where my life will end up


Yeah you could say that we all have bad days. That is for sure there are always times were i just want to go to sleep and not wake up till the next morning. I worry a lot and now i have a medical problem from that. I try not to but i just do. I know they get the pleasure from making me feel bad and i can be stronger if need be. And i do sometimes I laugh along with them but i still hurt they just don't see it.

But everyone is that way.


I bet you that not everyone is that way. I bet there are a couple of people that are out there.

Everyday should be a learning experience.


Everyday is s learning experiece for me. I always learn something that i never new before. It could be something big or small but i know it will make an impact on my life someday.
Thank you all!

~blondelife~
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
Humm...this reminds me of what was going on earlier.lol.


If by earlier you mean last week, then yes, I was angry and excessively rude, I've been more than civil since however.

If you think in recent discussion I was trying to make you feel bad, you're just feeling sorry for yourself, there's a difference between arguing with someone and attacking them unintelligently.
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
Reply By: Lord ShitzuPosted: Tuesday, August 10, 2004Humm...this reminds me of what was going on earlier.lol. If by earlier you mean last week, then yes, I was angry and excessively rude, I've been more than civil since however.If you think in recent discussion I was trying to make you feel bad, you're just feeling sorry for yourself, there's a difference between arguing with someone and attacking them unintelligently


Yeah, I could tell you were angry. Everyone was. And I by no reason thought that you were trying to make me feel bad, and for one I am not going to feel sorry for myself when someone is being rude.

~carebear~
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top

We all feel stupid for what we type on here sometimes. Also, don't let others make you feel dumb, because you aren't. The real idiots are those with their heads in their own asses, such as those who do things to be permanently banned.


If you feel there is nothing to gain from this site except misery, then it might be wise to leave. However, if you enjoy this site, think of things that might make you enjoy it less as tests. Even the most insignificant activities can wield powerful results.

Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ah, don't worry about some of the people on here...they can be assholes...but if you put them in their place you don't have to worry anymore...I've done that to a few people and they don't bother us anymore...

Keep on blogging...you're doing just fine,
~Zoo