dharmagrl dharmagrl

One simple question....

One simple question....

I'd like to pick your brains on this one...

...if the christian majority can accept that people are born with defects, conditions and differences...and that it's not their fault they were born that way....why is it that homosexuality is seen as a 'choice'?  That, to me, is like saying that a person is schizophrenic by choice, or near sighted by choice.

So, gimme your opinions.....

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Reply #126 Top
CSGuy: No offense, but almost every law we have could be related to a religious belief. Where do you stop? Whether a particular "rule" is beneficial to society is up to the people, and the people are religious more often than not; at least casually, anyway.

At what point do you say "Nope, that law is based on religion, no way" when many/most of the ones we have now already are?
Reply #127 Top
I am a very flawed and sinful person and am no expert on the Bible. However, I will share with you my understanding and opinion. The Bible does explicitly speak of homosexuality as a sin. If I chose to believe the Bible (which I do) then there is really no question on that point. However, the Bible lists many things that we all do day in and day out as a sin. Further, the Bible states that we will be judged as we judge others and that we should be concerned with ourselves. As to whether people are born homosexuals, I believe that we are all born with temptations and struggles and that homosexuality is a natural temptation. I don't believe you arbitrarily choose to homosexual. It is a natural human desire that some people have. How many men fantasize about a threesome Saturday night and then rail against homosexuality on Sunday morning at church? We each have to examine our hearts and do what we believe is right. First we must remove the plank from our own eye before we begin to remove the speck from the eye of our brother or sister. Who is without sin and able to judge and condemn others? Certainly not me! I guess I have rambled a bit, but hopefully my message makes a little sense.

PS - The government is not in the business of legislating morality, nor should it be!
Reply #128 Top
"How many men fantasize about a threesome Saturday night and then rail against homosexuality on Sunday morning at church? We each have to examine our hearts and do what we believe is right. "


Should anyone here that has told a lie have the right to take issue with Bush when they perceive him to have "lied"?

Doesn't that put us in a place that no one could "preach" anything? Ministers are fallible, like anyone else, and I don't think their own purity has anything more to do with their service to God than it does for anyone else. Again, I think it comes down to how you react to your own sins. A minister with weaknesses that he recognizes and repents of isn't the same as a minister who preaches against a sin and then wantonly commits it with impunity.

I would much prefer a contrite religious leader that confesses his weaknesses and realizes the difficulties of life is better than some guy they wrap in bubblewrap and roll into clean storage between every service. 90% of everything that is wrong with religion comes from the fact that we feel that religious statement is somehow a declaration of personal purity.

Christianilty is grounded in the idea that we are not perfect creatures. There is a difference, though, between condemning people and condemning sin. I don't think homosexuals should be condemned as people, but I think it is the height of hypocracy for folks, especially here on JU, to say that you can't condemn people's behavior. A LOT of material here is based upon the condemnation of political figures and others for their behavior.

Reply #129 Top
Bakerstreet, what I am attempting to say (and likely am saying it very poorly) is simply that each person must find his or her own salvation(Romans 14: 1-12). I strongly dislike hypocracy (although I will freely admit that I am a hypocrit - Romans 7:15 - 25). I don't believe that open discussion of ideas and viewpoints is the same as passing judment on others. I view it as mental exercise. I completely agree with you on many of your above points, and it is possible that I am a bit weak on my stance but I know that I personally have far too many of my own struggles to contend with to even consider chastizing a homosexual person (Matthew 7: 1 - 5). I also look to Matthew 5: 27 - 28 to form my view. The sin referred to here is a sin that most likely everyone is guilty of (adultery through lustful thought), and so I personally can't justify condemning someone else regarding sexual sin. I have such a long way to go to get my brain wrapped around what it is that God requires of me, and I am aware that I may hold viewpoints that are wrong or silly, but I think discussion is beneficial in learning these things. I definitely don't believe that no one should preach (2 Timothy 4: 2). However, 1 Corinthians Chapter 6 is a bit at odds with my understanding on judgment. OK, now I have confused myself. I will need to study this some more. I am curious however, about your take on my view about homosexuality in relation to whether it is determined at birth or a conscious choice.
Reply #130 Top
How many men fantasize about a threesome Saturday night and then rail against homosexuality on Sunday morning at church?


Wahine, I'll be very impressed if you can quote a Bible verse that mentions menages a trois as being sinful.
Reply #131 Top
citahellion, I think that would fall under the category of "implied". Basically, any scripture on adultery or homosexuality (which I guess could depend on what goes on in the little menages a trois) could cover it. Matthew 5: 27 - 28, Mark 7:16 - 23, 1 Corinthians 6 : 9 - 20, 1 Corinthians 7 gives a little information on marriage that can be applied to this issue, Ephesians 5 : 1 - 5, Hebrews 13 : 4. I know very little, but these are what I came up with. This would be very clear for married people, and for those who are not married, it is expressed that any sexual relationship would be sinful. I am not aware of any scripture in existance that specifically lists a threesome as something to watch out for. Again, I don't know much, so it could be there. Impressed or disappointed?
Reply #132 Top
Haha, I skimmed that guy's page; and I don't think that I'll donating any money to his cause by purchasing his book.


Skimming the webpage isn't the same as reading the book. If you don't want to pay for it, get it from the library. It's not a "cause", It's his personal story that he wants to share with others in the hopes that it helps them.

Let's say that it was reversed and as it turns out homosexuality was the way to go. Do you think you could be convince, and have "courage" enough to bump and grind with your neighbor Phil? I don't believe any amount of words would convince me to take a trip down that path. So, why do you think it's different for people who actually DO dig people of the same sex, for WHATEVER reasons?


It's not a matter of just "which way" is accepted as the right way. It's a matter of nature and evolution. It's quite obvious, even to monkeys, donkeys, salamanders, penguins, and any other sexual organism, that one way is right and the other way is wrong.

Again, I believe its possible because its been done.
Reply #133 Top
I respect every person's right to vote, but I oppose every attempt to impose religious belief on our laws, and if the only opposition I can offer is with MY vote, then so be it.


In Missouri (where I live) at least, your vote lost (by more than two to one). But it's not about imposing religious belief. No one is saying you have to believe it is wrong to be homosexual, or that you are going to hell is you are a homosexual. You are welcome to believe whatever you want and practice whatever religion you want. But what the voters have said is that the citizens do not want to provide incentives and benefits for others to enter into same-sex unions. There is no religion required to make that vote.
Reply #134 Top
Men have a natural urge to procreate with as many women as humanly possible, but the Church is not wrong for not approving of such behavior, even if it isn't based on a choice, but a natural tendency.


Fair enough, so then the Church should disagree with gay couples having sex outside of marriage... of wait they can't get married, how convenient.

Besides, it's not that the Church disagree with gay couple having sex outside of marriage, it's that the Church (and I use the term to describe fundamentalist, fire and brimstone Christianity, which I personally assosciate with some American Protestant religions even more than Catholicism) condemns all homosexuals as an abomination.

Anyway, I'm glad there are many people here, Christian or not, who see how this can be an unfair condemnation, whether or not they like homosexuality itself. I myself am heterosexual, but like dharma said, I certainly can't recall a time when I decided "Hmm, I think I should be attracted to women now." And I can't imagine a homosexual making a similar decision. And why would he/she want to, considering the way American society looks at homosexuality: "Gee I think I'll start being attracted to men today, and then, if I go to certain areas of the country, I'll be brutally murdered! Fundamentalists will tell me I'll burn in hell! I won't be legally allowed the same rights to be with the person I love as everyone else! Yay!"
Reply #135 Top
It's not a matter of just "which way" is accepted as the right way. It's a matter of nature and evolution. It's quite obvious, even to monkeys, donkeys, salamanders, penguins, and any other sexual organism, that one way is right and the other way is wrong.


All you did here was show why the heterosexual path is considered the 'right way' of doing things. Yes, I agree that heterosexually is the only way to keep our species going... so is in fact the 'right way'

The point I was trying to make though, was that if this wasn't the case, could you change your sexual preference? It seems that most people agree that homosexuals don't just decide to be gay one day. It's what they're attracted to. So, according to your views, they should change what they like... what they're attracted to. My question was: Could you do the same if you had to TURN to homosexually to fit in?
Reply #136 Top
But what the voters have said is that the citizens do not want to provide incentives and benefits for others to enter into same-sex unions.


So what you are saying is the voters sanctioned discrimation based on a religious conviction. Good on ya, you should be proud of yourself! (note the sarcasm). Simply because you do not agree with the way someone lives their life, you do not have the right, morally or otherwise, to discrimate. It should be all or nothing--everyone has incentives and benefits for marriage or no one does.
Reply #137 Top

Simply because you do not agree with the way someone lives their life, you do not have the right, morally or otherwise, to discrimate. It should be all or nothing--everyone has incentives and benefits for marriage or no one does.


Exactly. 

Reply #138 Top
The point I was trying to make though, was that if this wasn't the case, could you change your sexual preference? It seems that most people agree that homosexuals don't just decide to be gay one day. It's what they're attracted to. So, according to your views, they should change what they like... what they're attracted to. My question was: Could you do the same if you had to TURN to homosexually to fit in?


And the point I was trying to make is it is easier to switch one way than it is to switch the other. It's like swimming upstream versus down.
Reply #139 Top
So what you are saying is the voters sanctioned discrimation based on a religious conviction. Good on ya, you should be proud of yourself! (note the sarcasm). Simply because you do not agree with the way someone lives their life, you do not have the right, morally or otherwise, to discrimate. It should be all or nothing--everyone has incentives and benefits for marriage or no one does.


I've said this before, but I'll say it again: The incentives and benefits for marriage are open to everyone. No one is restricted from getting married, save for minors.

Not choosing to redefine marriage is not discrimination.