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Why do people feel the need to lie?

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Why do people feel the need to lie?

from JoeUser Forums
I have been thinking about this a lot lately and after reading some of Dharma's articles where she referenced peole woh "B.S." I had to give my 2 cents.

Why do people feel the need to lie, to tell half truths and make up stories? Do they realize that no good comes of it? How do you benefit?

I think that lying is the ultimate for of disrespect. Not only to the person(s) you are lying to, but to your self. Why can't you be yourself? Why do you have to lie?

Is it a self defense? Like a small child caliming they didn't color on the wall, while the crayons are still in their hands?

Is it immaturity? That you can't handle the realities of life?

Is it denial? DO you say so many lies that they become reality to you. Is "real life" to hard so you must make up your own existence?

I hate lying. If someone asks my opinion, such as "how does this look" I won't lie. I will say I don't care for it. So even little whit lies that may not hurt anybody seem unnecesscary. Why get into that habit?

Do you tolerate liers?

How do you feel when someone lies to you? I feel betrayed, and can not trust them at ALL.

Do you lie? Even little white lies? Why?

I just don't get why people feel the need to lie.
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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh yeah.... and thank you ALL for your comments......
Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top
To All, and to original author;

Speaking from the perspective of someone who has lied (everyone has) but also on a more personal note someone who has lied to their wife (the above original author) I cannot completely say why someone would do this. I cannot say why I have done it. At certain times, especially difficult times, it has been too difficult for me to be a bearer of bad news, although she has proven she can handle anything. She is a strong, wonderful person, someone I have proven unworthy of. However that has been one of the most marvelous things I love about her, the fact that she proves her strength and resilency. I have feared she cannot handle bad news, so I lie, or ommit, as to not compound the current pain or frustration. However that has proven to be evidence of my cowardice, more then me "sparing" her pain. She has proven to be stronger then I, or many people, give her credit for. So this can be my only, although admittedly very partial explanation for lying. It's rarely to spare someone else, because they, as my wife has proven can handle the situation, it is because the speaker, the holder of the truth, is too afraid to reveal it. This is something, a very valuable truth that I have come to realize, much in part to this discussion about the truth, and what can and cannot constitute reasons for lying. I should never have lied to her, because I respect her, but that is the reason, I didn't respect her strength. For that I was very wrong, and very dissapointed in myself. I shall never make that mistake again.

Sincerely,

Mr. Right (but not all the time)
Sins of a Solar Empire: Rebellion
Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
Lies help in maintaining world peace! Infact, I feel its the worlds favourite recipe ...

and mr. right ... you've got ur ticket to heavens ... congrats!!!
Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top
I must lie because the world cannot accept me for who I am. I'll also lie if it gets me out of an undesirable situation as quickly as possible.
Reply #30 from JoeUser Forums Top
Why deny yourself to the world. Lying is a poor defense method, it will only get you in more trouble.
Reply #31 from JoeUser Forums Top

my sources tell me,
lying is a normal instinct, that comes out of the need for survival

for example,
Clinton needed it while negotiating with foreign leaders

pete
Reply #32 from JoeUser Forums Top
my sources tell me,
lying is a normal instinct, that comes out of the need for survival


David Viscott used to say a lie is what we wished was true.

That works better for me.
Reply #33 from JoeUser Forums Top

I can't speak for anyone else, but personally, I NEVER lie...


and that's the truth...