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I drink alone....

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I drink alone....

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..with nobody else.  Gotta love George Thorogood, huh?

Yes, I drink alone.  No, I'm not an alcoholic.  I don't drink every night and I rarely drink to excess, but that's neither here nor there.  I drink alone because I find that alcohol removes what I like to call my 'truth filter'.  I like to think of myself as a somewhat tactful person, and when I've had a few drinks that vanishes.  I'm blunt...painfully so sometimes.  So, in order to maintain friendships and relationships, I drink alone.  Occasionally I'll make an exception and have a few with really close friends....those who I've already spoken my mind to or who I know won't take offence to my lack of tact, but for the most part I don't get inebriated in public, or even with acquaintances. 

The reason I blog about this now is because I'm drinking.  Tonight.  Right now, actually.  I re-read my blogs, and in my alcohol-fuzzy state was really tempted to edit and re-post them, this time with names.  I read some other people's stuff and was again tempted to leave comments, this time saying what I felt in a much less...errmm...nice way.  Luckily (for me) I'm not drunk.  I'm not lit.  I'm not even buzzed (almost, but not quite).  So, I won't do any of that.  I'll keep my 'truth filter' firmly in place and be as tactful as I can be, even if what's being said makes me madder than a wet hen. 

I highly reccomend that some of you do the same.  Even if you haven't been drinking.

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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks Dharma, that's just my luck the past few years. No reason to think it should change now.
Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top

that's just my luck the past few years. No reason to think it should change now

You and me both.  I was wondering last night just what the hell I had done in order to induce such horrible karma to come upon me.  This past year has been one of the worst I've ever had...everything I have touched has fallen to pieces, it seems. 

I'm wondering if it's ever going to end as well.

Sins of a Solar Empire: Rebellion
Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oooh - the truthful drunk! I've reined her back in for the time being. I never really had a problem with being too opinionated (well, while drunk and compared to others), but I would always tell people things that they weren't supposed to know, then blame the people who'd told me in the first place as they 'should have known not to trust me with any sort of information - I'm hopeless at keeping secrets after a few drinks. Everyone knows that'. Nice excuse, hey?
After really ruining things for someone (not on purpose, but does that really matter when everything's gone to sh*t?) I had a stern talking to myself and somehow Little Miss Tattle Tale has gone away. Don't know how this works, but glad it does all the same!

Now I'm like you and Jill - love EVERYONE, dance like a banshee and generally make a fool of myself (oh - and kiss the odd stranger like Nicky G )

Enjoy your beer and feel free to be as truthful as you like with me! You're comments are always welcome

Suz
Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top

Hey Suz!

I too have had to have the self-chastising talk...which led to my decision to not get drunk in public.

I do like to dance though.  I'd love to go dancing one night..... 

Reply #30 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm a happy drunk. I tend to be kind of reserved in social settings, until I get a few drinks in me...then I'm everyone's best friend. I've been falling-down drunk more than a few times (I don't really like getting *that* hammered) but if I got a buzz on it's fantastic social lubrication.

-- B
Reply #31 from JoeUser Forums Top

fantastic social lubrication.

Wow.  That's a great description....

You, reserved?  I'd never have imagined that!

Reply #32 from JoeUser Forums Top

the JU Sisterhood out on the town....can you imagine the havoc?!

Oh....that might be a scary thing.  I'd be tellin' ya' jokes just to see you spit your beer! 

horrible karma

you called?

Reply #33 from JoeUser Forums Top
Cheers, Dharma.

I drink alone alot too (sob,sob). I know people might see that as a sad and tragic thing, but I'm perfectly happy sitting at my computer, listening to my favourite music and a cold beer in hand! I usually see a lot of people at work everyday, so by evening my social quota is pretty much filled up.

(MAN, that's a lot of commas!)

By the way, what do you usually drink? Me, I mainly stick with beer. When I drink hard liquor i like Single Malts, Absinthe, AquaVita etc. Don't really like mixed drinks.
Reply #34 from JoeUser Forums Top

I know people might see that as a sad and tragic thing, but I'm perfectly happy sitting at my computer, listening to my favourite music and a cold beer in hand!

And that's what I was doing last night.  I was really content to do just that.

I usually stick with beer.  Occasionally I'll have some rum, and perhaps a little Jack...but not very often.  I find it makes me feel like crap the next day!  As far as beer goes, I prefer Rolling Rock.  I like a nice Guinness on occasion, but I really don't like dark(er) beer too much.

Absinthe...makes me gag.  I had a very nasty experience with Tequila and Sambuca one night, and now the mere smell of aniseed or to-kill-ya makes me want to hurl.

I do like cosmopolitans though.  Looks girly, but is almost straight vodka.

Reply #35 from JoeUser Forums Top
Icehouse beer is my toxin of choice these days.
Reply #36 from JoeUser Forums Top
I like a nice Guinness on occasion,


Ooooh, oooh! A non-Irish woman who likes Guinness (even if only on occasion)? Wow, I didn't think you gals existed. Mmmmm, Guinness. I had a friend turn me on to Jim Beam and Coke. I like Beam more than Jack...it seems like it's smoother and more mellowed out. I'm generally a beer man though. I like to drink micro-brews and if I find a new one I always give it a go.

-- B
Reply #37 from JoeUser Forums Top

I like to drink micro-brews and if I find a new one I always give it a go.


I'm toying with the idea of brewing my own.  My dad used to do it, and I always enjoyed his creations. 


Yes, mmmmm Guinness.  Nothing quite like a nice chilled pint of the dark stuff.  I don't like the canned or bottled crap (although the widget in the cans went a long way to making it much more palatable), I prefer draft...and seeing as how I don't go out drinking much anymore I don't get to partake much.


Beam and coke...never tried that. Lonsome's always been a Jack drinker, so we've just always bought that.  I might have to give that a shot next time I get lit...which will be when we find out where we're going to next.  I've given up saying 'hopefully next week' because I'm not hopeful anymore...I just get let down when it doesn't happen. 

Reply #38 from JoeUser Forums Top
whisky and coke...excpect you're meaning the stuff that comes in bottles.. Ugh! sounds like a recipe for a migraine (to me anyway)...
Reply #39 from JoeUser Forums Top
Um, sorry that would be whiskey, right? And strike that last comment - this a family site, mkay?
Reply #40 from JoeUser Forums Top
A non-Irish woman who likes Guinness


I have recently acquired a taste for Guiness and can't get enough of the stuff. I worked at an Irish bar until recently and I hated the stuff. I had lived in Ireland and been to the brewery and gave my free pints away--it was foul. Then one Sunday night when I was closing the pub, our rather intoxicated Guiness rep, Declan, came in. He wouldn't let me leave until I had a pint with him (I mean he was physically blocking the door). So, I gave in, and became addicted! It's great! I'm kicking myself for having missed out on this for so long--guess it just goes to show that your taste buds can mature! (see Dharma there's hope for Davey and peas after all!)

(Sorry that was off a bit on a tangent!)
Reply #41 from JoeUser Forums Top

That's ok, shades.  I too used to dislike Guinness...I don't know what happened, but it just tasted good to me all of a sudden.  It's actually good for you too..in some hospitals in the UK and Ireland they recommend you drink it as a tonic because it's full of iron and vitamins.

Corio...I think your reaction to whiskey and coke is the same as my reaction to Absinthe.  Yukky.  Funnily enough alcohol doesn't give me migraines, it's the circumstances that make me want to drink that give me the migraine.  Perhaps if I drank more often I'd get less headaches...which would mean my drinking would be for medicinal purposes...hmm, there's an idea.

Reply #42 from JoeUser Forums Top
Aha...How much money do you need to start research right away?
Reply #43 from JoeUser Forums Top

None, I have what I need to start immediately.  Top-ups will be cheap, I'm a bit of a lightweight.

This could be a medical breakthrough.....ooh, I could win a Nobel Prize or something! 

I'd better go get started on this important research immediately!

Reply #44 from JoeUser Forums Top

Congrats on becoming an "Elite" user (3)... !!!

Thanks, MJ...but I don't know that that means.  I don't know what I can do (or not do) with it....can anyone please explain it to me?  I feel really very dumb not knowing.....

Reply #45 from JoeUser Forums Top
If you need any Guinea-pigs...I'm over here...(waves)
Reply #46 from JoeUser Forums Top

If you need any Guinea-pigs...I'm over here...(waves)

Well, perhaps if you'd email me you'd be invited to be a test subject.....

I'm kidding.  You can be a test subject anyways.  All you have to do is the next time you get stressed out and think that you might get a migraine from it, start drinking.  Then tell me if you did indeed manage to abort your migraine by consuming copius amounts of alcohol. 

I'm looking forward to this experiment.  I think we may be onto somehting here!

Reply #47 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ok. But someone's got to monitor this to make sure it's all done according to procedure and whatnot.

So I'll mail you when I feel it coming on, and you'll tell me what to do, ok?

Did send ya mail, though!
Reply #48 from JoeUser Forums Top

I didn't get it yet!

I'll go look.  And yes, email me when you feel one coming on and I'll guide you from there.  I'lll write some SOP's (Standard Operating Procedure)  and we'll take it from there.

Anyone else want to volunteer?

Reply #49 from JoeUser Forums Top
Troll me now Dharm. Now...."So, in order to maintain friendships and relationships, I drink alone."....does no one here have the balls to instead of humor Dharm, maybe point out how screwed and wrong that is? Need it be me, mikimouse, who has to take the troll button point reducing hardships all alone...again?!?!?!? Lol. Jokingly, what you're doing is ok if you like the control alcohol has over your personal life. Your PERSONAL life. Not your social life. It already controls you. But to let the alcohol actually dictate, yes dictate, the terms of your relationships and friendships? Think about it. Would you want your kid to EVER have to need alcohol to speak freely? Or to be able to maintain relationships only if they don't drink around people? I just find that not only wrong but also truly strange and odd. What makes alcohol be able to dictate life's terms to you? Is there problems with it in your family history? Have you told your family about this, or do they already know? It's really interesting, but too bad you need booze to make you able to come to the table with the mind you need to be able to say what you really feel. I'm a forward person as you know and my points aptly reflect. Go Flames!
Reply #50 from JoeUser Forums Top

But to let the alcohol actually dictate, yes dictate, the terms of your relationships and friendships?
 

Who said anything about it dictating anything?  See, you're missing the point.   I don't drink to excess around people I don't know very well.  My friends and relatives know how I am, who I am.  Anything I say to them when I'm drunk I would have already said when I'm sober. 

Would you want your kid to EVER have to need alcohol to speak freely?

I DON'T need alcohol to speak freely, I do that quite well without it, thanks.  I just believe in tact, and I have more control over that when I'm sober.

It's really interesting, but too bad you need booze to make you able to come to the table with the mind you need to be able to say what you really feel.

Miki, I say what I really feel, period.  I just know that there is a time and a place for everything.  A time to be tactful, and a time to be bluntly truthful.  I wrote an article about it actually.  Sometimes you need to temper what you really feel, ie the TRUTH with a little sweetener, ie TACT.  When I've had a few drinks, I lose my sweetening abilities.