I drink alone....

from JoeUser Forums

..with nobody else.  Gotta love George Thorogood, huh?

Yes, I drink alone.  No, I'm not an alcoholic.  I don't drink every night and I rarely drink to excess, but that's neither here nor there.  I drink alone because I find that alcohol removes what I like to call my 'truth filter'.  I like to think of myself as a somewhat tactful person, and when I've had a few drinks that vanishes.  I'm blunt...painfully so sometimes.  So, in order to maintain friendships and relationships, I drink alone.  Occasionally I'll make an exception and have a few with really close friends....those who I've already spoken my mind to or who I know won't take offence to my lack of tact, but for the most part I don't get inebriated in public, or even with acquaintances. 

The reason I blog about this now is because I'm drinking.  Tonight.  Right now, actually.  I re-read my blogs, and in my alcohol-fuzzy state was really tempted to edit and re-post them, this time with names.  I read some other people's stuff and was again tempted to leave comments, this time saying what I felt in a much less...errmm...nice way.  Luckily (for me) I'm not drunk.  I'm not lit.  I'm not even buzzed (almost, but not quite).  So, I won't do any of that.  I'll keep my 'truth filter' firmly in place and be as tactful as I can be, even if what's being said makes me madder than a wet hen. 

I highly reccomend that some of you do the same.  Even if you haven't been drinking.

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
I tend to have the same "truth filter" problem when I drink; however, I am not yet wise enough to limit who I drink with...one day I will learn!
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

Then you and I should get tipsy together, Shades......actually, I think that I'd like to get lit in your company.  You, Jill, Karma, Poetmom....I think that would be fine company.

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Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hell yeah!  She's been so scarce around here, I forgot...sorry Nic!  Woo hoo, the JU Sisterhood out on the town....can you imagine the havoc?!
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hah, I would love to read some of your comments without the "truth filter" dharma. Heck, I would even love to hear what the tact-removed dharmagrl has to say about my own stuff!

For me it happens when I am tired. I just forget about tact then, and let it all hang out. Which is why I usually don't blog then!
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top

Hah, I would love to read some of your comments without the "truth filter" dharma

Email me and I'll tell.

Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey! I'll buy the first round, sisters!

I'm actually a pretty tame drunk. I can drink, but I like to listen to everyone else dish. Sometimes I go crazy and end up kissing strangers, but I know my limits. I do have a lot of fun, though. I can't see not having any fun with any one of us. Impossible.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top

I can't see not having any fun with any one of us. Impossible.

Somewhere, somehow, someday......

 

Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
I also become extremly honest! It has got me in trouble.....
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top

Ooh, Janders!  You'd be on the list to go drink as well.....

Yes, my honesty gets worse the more I consume. 

Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oooo... I have never been included in a "clique" before.... I feel so special/
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
dharma,
I reckon truth filters are essential for a harmonious society. I think everyone loses theirs to some extent when they start drinking. I have come across two people who seem to feel it is some sort of badge of honour to tell people the truth (as they see it) about the person they are talking to. They seem to feel obliged to point out a persons faults whether asked to or not and they dont need to be drinking, it's in their nature. What really annoys me is that their comments are never positive and they do it in such a patronisingly sanctimonious way, as if they are bestowing a great gift on you.
Sorry, bit of a rant.....I'll just get that truth filter back in place.....
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top

Rant away Gerry, I'm listening...

And I agree with you.

I have no truth filter at all at the moment, so I'll just shut up and go back to my beer...before I say something blunt!

Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top

I know this has nothing to do with this thread..well it does sort of....I just saw the term truth filter used elsewhere on this site and used most appropriately to boot.

Trina_P, you absolutely rock!

Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't know that I drink alone to avoid issues with others... it's not really alcohol that creates those issues for me, anyway. In fact, I got into a bit of an argument with SGT Monobrow tonight, because I decided not to go over to the Scot's hotel to drink. Hmm.
Last time I went on a bender was a couple of weeks ago in California, and I exercised much restraint. It was others with me who went four sheets (Monobrow again). I just don't want to be the guy who projectile vomits any more. No more pseudo-frat for me.

dharma - you convinced me to come over and post... I felt it wasn't fair to you to carry on a conversation where someone else's blog got all the points.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
go back to my beer

I left a message on another blog about not having an addictive personality....so why does this start me drooling at 2 oclock in the afternoon
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top

Last time I went on a bender was a couple of weeks ago in California,

Holy cats! Last time for me was my birthday last June!!  Btw..you always seem to be 'on the road'...are you ever home?  And how does your wife deal with you being gone all the time?  I know I had a hard time dealing with Lonesome being gone..shit, I still do have a hard time with Lonesome being gone (especially when he goes out and drinks) and it's been almost a year.  Sorry if I'm being personal, but I'm just curious..you don;t have to answer if you don't want to.

Gerry - Never underestimate the power of a nice cold brew.  Goes down a treat, no matter what time it is.

 

Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
Not always on the road; I've just been on two TDYs in the past two months. I guess she misses me. That's what she says in the emails, anyway. The next year will be good and bad, as I won't be gone anywhere, but I'll be doing atrocious shift work. Last time I was on that schedule, she moved away to pursue other career options. After she came back, she told me we were never doing that again... I guess we'll see.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top

I know one thing that you can toast to Dharma!  Congrats on becoming an "Elite" user (3)... !!!

Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think a little candor is a good thing personally, i mean if someone had something mean to say to me i'd rather they said it to my face, and just told me exactly what they thought, rather than keeping me in the dark, or bitching about me behind my back or somethin. Besides, it's not good to bottle things up, my mom says it gives you wrinkles...

Oh and I thought ur sons little story was so cute! You might have a best seller there...
love DYl xxx
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
I have no filter when I'm drunk but I am not a mean drunk.  I tend to tell more personal stuff than I would normally.  I am also a "I love you man" drunk   I do most of my dancing while under the influence also.
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top

she told me we were never doing that again

I said the same thing to Lonesome about going remote.  Never again.  He's done his required year, so he's not going to go again.....we'll see about that too.  One good thing - TDY's are never going to seem as bad  again after this!

Shift work made our lives slightly miserable as well.  He used to be on swings and mids...3 swing shifts, followed by 3 mids shifts, followed by 3 days off.  When he was on mids it seemes like he was always sleeping or at work....put a little bit of a strain on us.  However, I'd give almost anything to have him in the same house as me again, even if it's only to sleep...oh well.  10 weeks and this will all be over...I hope.

Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top

I have no filter when I'm drunk but I am not a mean drunk.

I'm not mean either...just very honest and truthful about stuff.  I don't go looking for people to be truthful with, but I'm very to-the-point about things if they ask or the subject comes up.

I'm a "I love you" drunk too.  I get very huggy....and dancing?  I bust some of my best moves under the influence!

Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
I bust some of my best moves under the influence!


I usually bust something too....it's usually my arse.

Next round is on me
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top

it's usually my arse.

Yeah, that'd be what happened when you fell down the slope into the brambles, huh?  Sure you weren't tipsy at the time?

Seriously Mason, I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you. :/