Dating after divorce
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Well,, North Carolina says one has to be separated for one year before being able to file for divorce. Well, I am past that one year and waiting for March 9, 2004 to file with the court system. I have dated the past year. Some only one date, some a week and one for three months. I find that it is very difficult to date after being married for 23 years. I did join several dating services on the internet. Why the internet? I work a swing shift and live out in the country with the cows. I have met with amazing results local dates on the internet. We have talked and met face to face. I find most of the ladies that are in my age group have been divorced for over ten years and I feel like they are going for a last chance effort to find someone. Others broke off after a date or two. One felt that she was a burden at this time in her life due to on-job injuries. I have respected all of them. Maybe it was me. I don't know. All I know is that my mind was not fully comfortable with my dates. I felt something was still missing. I tried to stay within 250 miles of my home. I was send an invitation from a lady in Brazil. We have talked and chatted. We are of the same charactor. We chat a lot during the week (20+ hours) and over the course of the weekend. We both know it is hard for us, but we are getting to know each other more personally than if we were meeting in person. I am going to visit her in 11 days. I feel like I deserve this vacation after all the garbage I have gone threw the past 14 months with my soon to be ex. I feel like this is one of the best things that has happened in my life. I am not ready for marriage again and she does not want marriage yet. We are letting this grow and trying to learn about each other. She speaks English, but her writing of English is a lot better. She puts me to shame sometimes with her knowledge of the sentence structure. I am learning her language. I could have not picked a more difficult language. But she is a good teacher and I have CD's I listen too.