My blog is slowing down

and is currently having a brain fart.

from JoeUser Forums
I dont write that many blogs. I try not to write something unless its something that I myself can create on my own. Meaning...its not something Im taking from the news or from someone elses blog..although Ihave done that in the past. Other bloggers on here just try to accumulate as many points as possible and blog so many times each day....it makes you wonder what, if anything, that they do for a living that lets them spend so much time writing about the junk going on in their life...or write an article that twists and slams a political party.

Anywho...this post is pointless. Im basically writing for the sake of writing...because I cant seem to write a decent blog lately. Maybe its because of that fact that I want to write something of MY own, that I can write, that the rest of the world might actually want to see.

Not all my blog ideas make it onto the net. Many times, Ill start writing and then Ill just give up after a few paragraphs. I stop for a number of reasons...mainly because Im paranoid about the way people will respond. It seems like JUsers are only on one side of the fence politically. Religiously...holy crap. Lots of people who either: follow their own beliefs; believe in nothing (which is a belief itself); believe in shooting down others beliefs; and finally....those who just point out other Christians faults and label them as hypocrites.

So anyways...today I started two blog entries: One was on parents and how they dont know much about their kids; and second was about rich pastors.

The first one...I wanted to write about parents of elementary kids. Many times, parents think their child in one way and refuse to listen to anybody elses views...even if it is their teacher who spends more time with that child than they do. This isnt the case everywhere...but it certainly applies much more often than one would think. Parents often refuse to listen to teachers who say that their child is having an issue, or needs counseling...or special services. They have this view and dont want it to be spoiled. Many times, we teachers see things that others do not. When I came into my K classroom after a staff changed...I immediately noticed a efw things about some students. One had a emotional issue and I got him to be supervised...and now he si getting services. A couple others had speech issues that the parents thought wasnt a big issue until I proved otherwise. Still one more, the parent didnt even know of a vision issue until I pointed it out. Many times, the parent does not want to acknowlege the issues and instead, lets it become even worse instead of taking action. Now, this isnt something that occurs with all parents, but many.

I decided not to post because there are some people on here who actually think they know alot about their kids. Granted, parents do know a bunch about their kids. But I as their teacher will talk to them more in one day than some talk to them in one week. I know what makes em laugh, cry...etc. I know how they learn, how they behave, when they act up. I know their medical issues. I just didnt complete the article because of the possible flames.

The second article was going to be on rich pastors. I guess I didnt really know how that one was going to go as far as my writing it. It didnt really have any direction as i was more less venting. I like big churches and all...but something about those pastors that makes me uneasy. I know they have a heart for God and all...and I know that they didnt go into the ministry to become rich because that simply never happens. But for a very select few, it does so happen...they somehow get in charge or involved with a large church and next thing you know...just the way the money is spread out (probably as evenly or even less than other churches)...they make a lot of money. I dont know how pastors are paid. I dont think its based on tithes or anything like that. Probably just like most other people...they are salaried. But...the bigger the church is...the better its pastor is, and they get more in their salary. I guess I jsut have a problem with rich pastors. Its hard for me to listen to a pastor telling me to be humble and all that, when they make a bunch of money. Some pastors like Billy Graham seem very humble and I dont get a feeling that he was rich or anything. Others flaunt their money by the decorations, design of the church, where they live..etc. I have a hard time watching, listening, understanding them...when all I see around them is money signs.

Well idecided not to post that one too....mainly beacuse people would agree with me left and right. I just know that id get responses like "thats why I dont believe in god or go to church" or "yeah...God has enough money, why does he need more" or "tahts the problem with Christianity today." I guarantee Id get replies like that. Im not flaming these big churches....its jsut that I have a hard time feeling comfortable listeing to a pastor who appears to have no financial issues ever, forever. The Christian church is there to spread the message of Christ. I dont care if you believe in God or not. What you chose is up to you. Im going to tell you the truth about God whether you like it or not and if you dont...and you chose to make up your own road in life and you follow your own path. Well dont say I didnt warn you. The church lives off of the donations of others...thats how it does keep building and growing and supporting its staff. God has money yes, but he gives it to us. He just asks for a little of it back.

So I didnt really write a blog tonight. Im suffering from a writers block I guess. In my effort to write something worth reading and meaning full...I deleted two blogs I almost fully wrote beacuse I felt the replies would take away from the overall context of my blog.

Unlike others, Im overly picky when writing because I want the blog to have a purpose...not to serve as a mere dairy of my life. So in a sense, I hope that by writing less; I will write more meaning full pieces that are actually worth reading.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
I've read some of your stuff before, I thought..
you said that:

it makes you wonder what, if anything, that they do for a living that lets them spend so much time writing about the junk going on in their life...

What on earth gives YOU the right to decide that someone's life is junk??? geez....has it occured to you that some people are
retired and are writing the stories of their life?

Many times, Ill start writing and then Ill just give up after a few paragraphs. I stop for a number of reasons...mainly because Im paranoid about the way people will respond.

How do you expect JU posters to respond when you've slammed them??? The following sentence is one prime example of
you slamming people you don't know, talk about ignorant arrogance....

Unlike others, Im overly picky when writing because I want the blog to have a purpose...not to serve as a mere dairy of my life. So in a sense, I hope that by writing less; I will write more meaning full pieces that are actually worth reading

Writing a daily, not "dairy" journal is a valuable gift to anyone that loves you if you share it with them, or if you have children
the daily postings can be a means for your children, grandchildren and other family members to have something of you to
remember you by. Nuf said.....
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I dont now ur history, which is good and fair, a newbie advantage. Your thoughts and feelings sound extremely good, meaning they are for me. Also because u corrected me a bit, if it was a comment of mine to manos sunday article u meant where I made some Islam and Christian people hypocrits and selfcontradicted myself a bit saying some of me isnt pathetically religious which IS a mediocre religion of its own.

Although I am sure I am exactly the type whos comment u did not need or want, let me at least reassure u that I am not interested in points in this system either, commenting does not give me enough, and au contraire, I am cleaning up and deleting articles instead of posting more and more stuff easy to make or steal. Course some of its me being new + still learning how to clean things up plus some projects outside of these sites. So its no surprise I only have 4 or 5 articles not private, but am commenting a lot, because u are right again, even if agreements what u dislike, I still do have some time for that. My purpose is saying thanks to anyone who informs, corrects or entertains me, or trying to bring in a suggestion or 2 I hope makes something better for other people and or me in the future, or preventing increasement of mutual harm, misunderstanding, or neglectment of important things. The few people I actually was forced to try to shoot down a bit were just several faces of 1 getting a bit inflationary not because of his religion but overspamming other sites I like for reasons I did not think were mainly religious, yet even then, if one religion tries to dominate other religions too much, I try to accept theirs but defend myself as peacefully as possible. Which may not always be peaceful, a vicious circle.

Wonder what else I could do better how. Some short personal diaries and baby photos can be ok if in special columns and rating rubrics. It is not the fault of some peaceful authors not meaning to kill top authors ratings that our system needs to be improved a bit, it IS the fault of some intentionally destructive mere thieves and linkers to make good things invisible in the current system. Must admit we dont have neutral judges yet either, so how can I justly decide who does what myself? Have made suggestions who could do this how instead. Maybe you are a bit shy. Quality is a recessive inheriting process (excuse kinky translation).
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ziggy my man...you're biting the hands that might just respond to your blog. Don't be so judgmental about the people who blog here. We have opinions and we're gonna let it be known. I'm one of them! So, don't be so judgemental, you don't win friends that way - and I believe you know that!

Secondly, some parents don't focus on their children and that's not good. But not all parents are like that. I for one pay a lot of attention to my kids. They're very must an important part of my life.

Thirdly, it's good that as a teacher you are aware of your students needs. You also get them help and point things out to their parents. Sometimes there are parents who care, let me rephrase that, there ARE parents who do care about their children but are sometimes too busy with work, life and trying to provide for them, to see the big picture. That's what teachers are there for. Not to be a parent, but to help in guiding and teach the children under their care. And if you can gently nudge to a parent sometimes and point them in the right direction, that's great. But don't be judge and jury about that. I hope you do this with love and care for the student and not as a "see what I mean" or "pointing finger" kind of way.

Lastly, preachers will make money, it's a booming business! As a christian, and not one who goes to any church at the moment, I understand your p.o.v. But why can't they live in nice houses if they want to and why can't they have nice things? Leave it to God to give them their payback if what they're doing is not right and not godly. Wouldn't that be better?

So there's my two cents about your non-blogs Ziggy. Try putting your blogs out there, you might be surprise with what you get!
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Trudy,
What on earth gives YOU the right to decide that someone's life is junk??? geez....has it occured to you that some people areretired and are writing the stories of their life?

One mans treasure is another mans junk and vice versa. It has occured to me that some people might be retired...but from what I can tell...not too many people here on JU fit that category. Im talking about those who are in their 30's and 40's...just staying home and typing on the computer. Who knows...maybe a book fell on their foot and they are able to collect disability or live off of welfare...I dont know. Mayeb they are taking a year off work. Lots of reasons. I never said someones life is junk and you know that. I said "what, if anything, that they do for a living that lets them spend so much time writing about the junk going on in their life." Now, people wil just post whatever is at the top of their head "hey, I was picking my nose today and it looked like elvis." I just simply wonder what these people do, the people who make a bunch of long blog entires each day, post after post after post and reply after reply after reply. Makes you wonder what they do for a living.

How do you expect JU posters to respond when you've slammed them??? The following sentence is one prime example of you slamming people you don't know, talk about ignorant arrogance....
True...lots of blogs are peoples own opinions...and I dont mind hearing people say they dont agree with me and all that. I look forward to that. I dont like it when the replies turn into all out flame wars. There are people on here who blame the problems in the US on the Democrats. You try to reply to them and they either argue with you incredibly...or simply blacklist you. Ive made posts before where people take my words and use them against me, insinuating that I am an abusive teacher...etc. There is a line between replying and insulting...which is what you are doing.

Writing a daily, not "dairy" journal is a valuable gift to anyone that loves you if you share it with them, or if you have childrenthe daily postings can be a means for your children, grandchildren and other family members to have something of you to remember you by. Nuf said.....

True...make it of value and of worth reading. Dont make it an "hey, I had nothing else better to do today so Im just going to write about how pretty I am to my dog" article. And if you are going to leave something on the internet for your children and grandchildren to read instead of something that you can write with a pen and paper, that really shows you something doesnt it? Any monkey in a chicken suit can write on the internet. It takes someone that actually cares to sit down and actually write something by hand in person.

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Ziggy my man...you're biting the hands that might just respond to your blog. Don't be so judgmental about the people who blog here. We have opinions and we're gonna let it be known. I'm one of them! So, don't be so judgemental, you don't win friends that way - and I believe you know that!

Thanks, and yes you are right. I guess I am...but also..what I posted about the JUsers here seems to be correct from what Ive seen. I post lots of times that Im a Christian and when I type something maybe a little different or if I say something the wrong way, people are like "WOA YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN, AND YOU SAID THAT!! YOU ARE A HYPOCRITE...THATS WHY i DONT GO TO CHURCH, BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU....STUPID CHRISTIANS"

Secondly, some parents don't focus on their children and that's not good. But not all parents are like that. I for one pay a lot of attention to my kids. They're very must an important part of my life. Thirdly, it's good that as a teacher you are aware of your students needs. You also get them help and point things out to their parents. Sometimes there are parents who care, let me rephrase that, there ARE parents who do care about their children but are sometimes too busy with work, life and trying to provide for them, to see the big picture. That's what teachers are there for. Not to be a parent, but to help in guiding and teach the children under their care. And if you can gently nudge to a parent sometimes and point them in the right direction, that's great. But don't be judge and jury about that. I hope you do this with love and care for the student and not as a "see what I mean" or "pointing finger" kind of way.

Right...not all parents are like that...thats why I tried to emphasize that a few times throughout my article. As far as parents working too much...I think the line needs to be drawn between work and family. Work is never, ever more important than the kids. Many people dont understand that...they just want the $$.

Leave it to God to give them their payback if what they're doing is not right and not godly. Wouldn't that be better?

Im not saying that these pastors arent living a Godly lifestyle...it just makes me...hmm...uneasy (if thats the right word) when I go to, or see a large church and the pastor seems to be involved in the church only during the weekend services. I guess I like the smaller style churches where they are more involved in weddings and funerals and all that stuff. It feels to me, like they are less connected because they make so much, they are less connected to the rest of the church as they have a handful of associate pastors underneath them to do various things. Its sort of like meeting the President. If you went up to him and shook his hand...he wouldnt know you from Adam tomorrow. You seem so far away, so unable to talk to them...they seem so guarded and unapproachable. Thats what I dont like.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Im talking about those who are in their 30's and 40's...just staying home and typing on the computer. Who knows...maybe a book fell on their foot and they are able to collect disability or live off of welfare...I dont know.


For the most part I'm going to ditto LW on this.

I'm 49 and have MS so I can't work anymore (which for your information, REALLY pisses me off!)
Up until 4 years ago I worked EVERY day for 25 years (and some of it back-breaking labor. Try working on a farm for awhile!) to which, yes they took SS from my paychecks! And I too get social security disability. And I REALLY don't appreciate some know-nothing jerk telling me that I'm where I'm at due to some "book" falling on my foot.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
As far as parents working too much...I think the line needs to be drawn between work and family. Work is never, ever more important than the kids. Many people dont understand that...they just want the $$.


Ziggy, unless the parent is a rich person and doesn't have to worry where the $$ is coming from, then yes money is important, very important. They have to work to feed and take care of their children. They have to hold that job for as long as there employer is in business and it's their "bread and butter". To keep it they have to have good performance at work, they have to put in the time. Parents who work, from home as well, and parents who work outside of the home do so out of love for their family not just to earn the almighty dollar. They try to make time for their kids because that's so important. Some are successful at this and some aren't (making time that is).



Im not saying that these pastors arent living a Godly lifestyle...it just makes me...hmm...uneasy (if thats the right word) when I go to, or see a large church and the pastor seems to be involved in the church only during the weekend services. I guess I like the smaller style churches where they are more involved in weddings and funerals and all that stuff. It feels to me, like they are less connected because they make so much, they are less connected to the rest of the church as they have a handful of associate pastors underneath them to do various things. Its sort of like meeting the President. If you went up to him and shook his hand...he wouldnt know you from Adam tomorrow. You seem so far away, so unable to talk to them...they seem so guarded and unapproachable. Thats what I dont like.


I understand your feelings about this. Sometimes some churches become like a conglomerate and it's almost as if they forgot the real reason they are there, for the congregation.

That's why I usually attend small churches. So I guess you better do the same.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Maybe the reason you're so afraid (and yes, you are afraid because you've admitted as much by saying you refrain from posting because of the responses you 'might' recieve) is because a good number of JUsers have tagged you for the sanctimonious, judgemental, holier-than-thou little prick that you present yourself to be.

The above statement proves it, you assume that because so many of the prominent bloggers here are in their 30s or 40s that we "dropped a book on our foot" or something, are collecting disability because of that, and have no life whatsoever outside of JU.




For the most part I'm going to ditto LW on this.

I'm 49 and have MS so I can't work anymore (which for your information, REALLY pisses me off!)
Up until 4 years ago I worked EVERY day for 25 years (and some of it back-breaking labor. Try working on a farm for awhile!) to which, yes they took SS from my paychecks! And I too get social security disability. And I REALLY don't appreciate some know-nothing jerk telling me that I'm where I'm at due to some "book" falling on my foot.



You asked for that Ziggy, being judgemental isn't a good trait. Things aren't always what they seem, try to remember that.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
You'd be surprised about rich pastors...it happens more often than you realize. Megachurches are a growing trend, and in many of these churches, the pastor's salary is a "commission" from what he/she receives from the offering plate. So, there's a financial incentive to teach tithing (which is actually a concept consistent with the OT, but not really with NT teachings, but that's a seperate article entirely).

The cynicism you see about Christianity comes from seeing far too many of these pastors.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Im talking about those who are in their 30's and 40's...just staying home and typing on the computer. Who knows...maybe a book fell on their foot and they are able to collect disability or live off of welfare...I dont know.


Yeah, you DON'T know, so perhaps you ought to stop judging people. It wasn't a book that fell on my foot, it was a semi that nearly killed me. No, I don't collect disability or welfare, but even if I did, what would it have to do with you? I suspect that you think that some of us disabled people are faking it, that if we can sit at a computer we should be able to get off our asses and get a job, right? That kind of attitude shows how narrow minded you really are. You have no idea what its like to live in my body.....what kind of pain I deal with daily, so I politely suggest that you STFU because you don't know what you're talking about.

I'm also a stay at home mom. I don't let the dollars come before my kids...so you can go ahead and look down your nose at me for that too. On the one hand you criticize me for 'typing on the computer', but then you turn around and criticize parents who work full time. There's just no pleasing you, is there?

Now, people wil just post whatever is at the top of their head "hey, I was picking my nose today and it looked like elvis." I just simply wonder what these people do, the people who make a bunch of long blog entires each day, post after post after post and reply after reply after reply. Makes you wonder what they do for a living.


Wow. Just wow. You have to be the most sanctimonious, self-righteous jackass I've ever had the misfortune to come across. Sitting up there on your perch of perfection, looking down on all the rest of us.....doesn't it get cold and lonely up there?

I like your fiancee a lot. She's a wonderful, loving person, and I'd let her teach my kids in a heartbeat. You, however....you're a different story. Oh, and whilst we're on the subject of Marcie - if you have any sense at all, you'll do whatever it takes to hang on to her, and you'll do it soon.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ziggy, unless the parent is a rich person and doesn't have to worry where the $$ is coming from, then yes money is important, very important. They have to work to feed and take care of their children. They have to hold that job for as long as there employer is in business and it's their "bread and butter".


And they have to live under the constant threat that if a malicious neighbour thinks they aren't earning enough, they'll get many intrusive visits from not too well meaning social workers! In other words, for parents in America, the 13th amendment is effectively nullified.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ziggy, unless the parent is a rich person and doesn't have to worry where the $$ is coming from, then yes money is important, very important. They have to work to feed and take care of their children. They have to hold that job for as long as there employer is in business and it's their "bread and butter".


And they have to live under the constant threat that if a malicious neighbour thinks they aren't earning enough, they'll get many intrusive visits from not too well meaning social workers! In other words, for parents in America, the 13th amendment is effectively nullified.


Here, here! And how! Ditto! Because if a parent is perceived as NOT taking care of their child, or get tell on to the social services or the cops by a neighbour or teacher....I guess you can fill in the rest!
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yup...In fact, I'm working on a paper entitled "Decriminalizing Poverty" that I just may premiere here on JU.
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top

Since I'm sure my comments will be deleted anyway, I'll say this..if Marcie marries this man she will regret it for the rest of her life.

I saw them and I'll try to not let them be forgotten. 

Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Other bloggers on here just try to accumulate as many points as possible and blog so many times each day....it makes you wonder what, if anything, that they do for a living that lets them spend so much time writing about the junk going on in their life...or write an article that twists and slams a political party.

I think this is pretty rude, Ziggy. Disability aside, there are plenty of bloggers who blog from work, have great hours, or who enjoy spending the bulk of their free time online. This may not be something that you wish to do, but it's really their business. Unless they're asking you for money, what concern of it of yours?

I'm a stay-at-home mom. I blog whenever I feel like it. My blogging habits do not affect you in any way. Is this really something you want to complain about?

Maybe its because of that fact that I want to write something of MY own, that I can write, that the rest of the world might actually want to see.

I can appreciate that. I enjoy reading original blogs that well put together. However, you may be having problems cranking out blogs because you are waiting for the perfect inspiration. I've found that the more I write, the more I want to write.

Not all my blog ideas make it onto the net. Many times, Ill start writing and then Ill just give up after a few paragraphs.

I tend to do this, too. I compose blogs in my head all day long, but only a rare few ever make it to JU. Things that seem interesting and exciting in my head as I go about my daily business sometimes lose their luster when I start typing them up.

I also abandon a lot of blog ideas when I start typing them up and they begin to run too long. It feels better to just delete them than to attempt to condense them.

I wouldn't fear JU's response, though, Ziggy. There have been times when I've had my feelings hurt or been insulted or angered, but I would like to think that I've learned quite a bit from my interactions on JU. Dissent can stretch you a bit. It's a good thing, even when it stings.

I decided not to post because there are some people on here who actually think they know alot about their kids. Granted, parents do know a bunch about their kids.

I have a REAL problem with this attitude. In fact, I'm going to take a deep breath and leave this one alone, because what I have to say will not be kind.

I just didnt complete the article because of the possible flames.

You would get flamed because you are wrong, pig-headed, and arrogant when it comes to this. Perhaps you should post it. Maybe a good flaming is what you need to get over this obvious handicap.

I deleted two blogs I almost fully wrote beacuse I felt the replies would take away from the overall context of my blog.

Perhaps you should post them to your blog (not the forums) and disable comments? What you are saying is that you want to talk and have people listen, but you are not interested in hearing their thoughts on what you write. This seems very contradictory to the format of JU, but if it makes you happy...

Unlike others, Im overly picky when writing because I want the blog to have a purpose...not to serve as a mere dairy of my life. So in a sense, I hope that by writing less; I will write more meaning full pieces that are actually worth reading.

Your condescension is disgusting, Ziggy. Jesus was meek and humble, eh?
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
PS - Try running your blogs through iespell, it will help a lot with the spelling mistakes.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
*laughing*

Oh my. I feel the need to stick up for Ziggy here, because sometimes when he says things, they come across as crass, and he in NO way means it that way. Ry's got a unique brand of sarcasm...and you just have to know him in real life to appreciate it I guess. He's a good guy. He takes care of me. We balance each other out well.

First of all...Ry wasn't referring to people who have legitimate health problems or people who are able to stay home to take care of children, manage a household, etc. He's referring to people who...hmmmm...get their sense of self from the computer and just spend all day here and measure their self-worth by what people on Joe User think about them, i.e. Lucas Bailey. He also knows that lots of people take advantage of our country's safety net...but I doubt that he was implying that anyone here does.

Ziggy also made the point that sometimes parents have rose-colored glasses on when it comes to their children. They think that it's okay for their struggling reader to get away with not reading at all, and that because their child doesn't "want to" go to field day, that it's okay not to send them to school. It's *frustrating* when we spend all day with a child who is struggling and we try to enlist parent involvement and they just won't because they refuse to acknowledge that their child is having problems in school. Ry's talking about the parents who just don't care...the parents who just won't seek help for their child when they desperately need it so they can succeed in school, you know? And we know that most parents aren't like that, and most parents would absolutely jump at the chance for some extra time with the teacher, etc...but it's just those few out there that just don't care about their kids at all--that we absolutely love--that drive us up the wall.
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
When I first arrived on JU over a year ago...some of you gave me the good advice of not taking things so personally...because even though the subject at hand might be near or dear to your hearts...a comment usually isn't meant to slam your character, you know? Ryan knows...and *I* know who's writing crap for points...again...like Lucas Bailey. We both read many of you very often and wish that you'd write more for us to read.
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
is because a good number of JUsers have tagged you for the sanctimonious, judgemental, holier-than-thou little prick that you present yourself to be.


And you present yourself to be...what?

The above statement proves it, you assume that because so many of the prominent bloggers here are in their 30s or 40s that we "dropped a book on our foot" or something, are collecting disability because of that, and have no life whatsoever outside of JU.Yeah, I'm 44. I have 2 life threatening diseases that make my every waking moment an exercise in excruciating pain, limiting my outside activities to grand excursions like the grocery store and the laundramat.

It was obvious sarcasm. Im sorry you didnt pick up on that. Many people out there claim disability after suffering a completely silly accident or incident. There are people who are out there left and right, day in and out that claim disability and yet go golfing, go jogging and hiking and all this other crap...but yet are too sick or disabled to go to work. I didnt say you are one of them. Many are honest and cant work. I guess I just couldnt do that. I myself couldnt just sit and collect money for not doing anything. Im not in that situation. But right now as a teacher, my 9 month pay is spread out during the summer and it makes me uncomfortable to sit around and collect money. Im more like my Dad in that Ill probably never really stop working. Im a hard worker and just cant sit and do nothing. He told me once when he was running he store and I worked there that he didnt pay me to sit on my ass. Same thing if I was disabled. Just because you are disabled, that doesnt mean you cant work. Might not be able to work at your old job...but everyone is able to work in some fashion or another...thats just a simple fact.

As far as that boy and the Aruba gal...Natalie Halloway, you once again have dragged that OLD blog into this blog. Lets settle this once and for all since you seem to keep twisting things around. My MAIN POINT was to POINT OUT how people are no longer being HELD accountable for their own actions. The boyscout in the woods. He was young, KNEW he wasnt supposed to be alone. Somehow, nobody knows how, managed to get seperated from the woods. Instead of staying there on the path, he purposly hid from people trying to find him. People called his name, he knew he was lost. I dont know any child who, if they were lost, would hide from people. He kept hiding until someone found him and then he said it was because they werent using the family password.

Halloway. I think you are calling her a slut more than I am because I never once did. I was simply asking why the hell did she leave a club with 3-4 people she didnt even know? She was surrounded by her friends, a buttload of classmates. Nobody once in this entire time has asked...why did she leave with strangers? Nobody at all is even saying she was kidnapped. That isnt even a question in anybodys mind. Everyone is saying she left on her own free will. My question was why. Thats all I wanted to know. Now you dont seem to understand that. You seem to think that its perfectly fine for a teenager to leave a place with strangers. You dont seem to care and want to ask questions. When I ask why she left with people she didnt know, you get all pissed saying Im calling her a slut. As far as media attention. Im not jealous because she is a attractive gal. She obviously is. I was also pointing out how the media only focuses on attractive missing young gals. Name one black female that has had as much publicity. Name one white male of any age (outside of Jacob Wetterling 15 years ago) that has got any publicity. Name one female that the average person would say is not that attractive. Name anyone of these that have been featured on the media and have had a FRACTION of media coverage that Halloway has gotten. You say Im mad because she is beautiful. Im mad at the media for focusing on only attractive women when they cover missing people.

I wont mention how you engage in collective punishment in your classroom, making all the kids suffer over the misbehavior of one.

I also answered that one a while back. You managed to twist my actions into making me appear like a nazi. I think you might have even called me such, or maybe that was someone else. Yet, you have very limited experience in a classroom and you think its perfectly fine for a student to break things that do not belong to him (probably because that would...you know...make them responsible for their actions).
What the heck...since you already hate me, I might as well tell you a story about what happened last week. See how you like this since you think Im mean...this will probably rock your boat and make you all tingly. I was subbing for a teacher...in a team teaching classroom...meaning there are two teachers in a classroom, instead of just one. The teachers share responsiblity. Ive been in there about 8 times or so over the past month subbing for her or the other team teacher. When I am in there, the other team teacher is actually on maternity leave so she has a long term sub. This one student in particular has been an issue with us. He is one of those students that doesnt like to listen because he pretty much doesnt want to, doesnt care. Hes very smart...IF he applies himself. He is more worried about other students, than he is about himself and just likes to goof off and not do what he is told. SO, while practicing some math on a worksheet...he is working as slow as possible. I keep telling him to get back to work and he does...until I turn my back. I see him watching me from the corner of my eye because he is watching me. Students pretty much only look for the teacher for one reason, and its not to act like an angel, they dont want to get caught. I sat on the other side of the classroom and just watched him for a few minutes. He kept looking at me, then his paper, then aroudn the classroom. Then, I started looking elsewhere, and I could see he was still watching me. I kept asking him to get back to work and he did not. Finally, I grabbed a chair and came up next to him and he didnt like that. He kept asking why why why and I told him my reasons. He didnt want to get to work and I could see he was playing with his pencil. I told him to get back to work and I will stay there until he did. He started to work slowly, focused still on his classmates. Well at this point...he was still playing with his pencil so I took it away and made him use a crayon. Didnt like that either. I told him that he was just goofing off because he wasnt anywhere near started on the paper and it was almost time to finish the math lesson. He kept arguing more and more, saying he was working...bla blah. I had him come back to a smaller table, away from the class. He kept arguing with me and i just told him "You are smart, you know you are, I know you are...Ive seen your work. Youve been up and out of your chair many times, talking to your classmates, sharpening your pencil. I WILL NOT allow you to keep acting like this. I will keep coming back for the rest of the school year, just ask MRS. so and so. You have had plenty of time with this paper and you just did not do it. When I asked you to, you argued with me. You did not do what I asked. When I am here, I am in charge and you will not argue with me, because you simply WILL NOT win. Now, finish this side, and get your pencil back. Dont argue, just do it." Well...with that, and Im sure...like I said LW, you will tingle because youll be able to shoot me down here as well....he started crying. Well not really. A couple tears rolled down his eye. From then on...he has not been an issue and has not been an issue for the long term sub.
Kids come to school sometimes thinking they are high and mighty and I just bring them back down to earth. I tell them "stop sitting there and looking pretty...do what you are supposed to do" That gets a laugh out of them, and they get back to work, because tehy know they are not working. Ive had some kids say "my daddy can beat you up" I just say back "well...Im a big guy, so there." Arguing is whining, plain and simple and I do not allow it. Maybe you would....maybe because you love all that is all, youd sit and let a child go "but, but, but but but but" or "I didnt, I didnt , I didnt..." all day long. I dont. Now, I did not intend to make that child cry. I did not want that to happen and I hate it when it does happen. BUT, I let them know they will not argue with me. For some kids, its tough for them because they do it all the time at home and with everyone else and they are spoiled in a sense because of that. I make my kids responsible for their actions and choices. If a student does something in my class that is not acceptable (such as breaking something)...I let the class know I am not happy and I talk about it. What I did last year, that student came up and took responsibility for what he did. Thats all I wanted. You think my actions were bad...but if I just went up to him and talked to him...that would make it ok for him to hide from the truth all the time.

Up until 4 years ago I worked EVERY day for 25 years (and some of it back-breaking labor. Try working on a farm for awhile!) to which, yes they took SS from my paychecks! And I too get social security disability. And I REALLY don't appreciate some know-nothing jerk telling me that I'm where I'm at due to some "book" falling on my foot.

DM, I apologize to both you and LW for this particular part of my blog in that I did not mean to say that either one of you were lazy or anything along those lines. I also was unaware of either one of your conditions. If you are taking disability from something you invested in such as SS, then go ahead and collect it, if you have a disability. I was just saying that there are people out there that would do anything to get some free money and not work. How many horror stories have we heard of, or seen, where someone is 'injured' and collects money, yet they still do everything they used to. My uncle himself, he doesnt collect disabilty...but one should look at his lifestyle. He hasnt worked in a long time...like ever. He has a degree in psychology and did that for a few years. Since then, he just lived with his mom (my grandma) and managed to own a bar / restaurant. He ended up selling that. He himself is a devout alcoholic. His house that he owned, managed to burn down, and somehow he managed to get a buttload of money for a house that was a piece of junk in the middle of nowhere. He moved in with my grandma. He collected welfare for many many years until recently wheere they changed the laws limiting its use. He owns a low-income housing apartment complex (very few units...like 10 or something...not much at all). Yet, if you look at his lifestyle, I wonder how he does it. Brand new car, lots of new furniture and decorations all over the house. He doesnt make hardly anything off of the apartments and my grandmas SS isnt much of anything. He doesnt do jack crap and insists the world owes him. He tries all the get rich quick shemes on TV and tries whatver he can to earn money the fast and easy way...which never works out. I hate those people, despise those who are collecting money from the government, claiming a disability, IF they are fully capable of working. I mean...yea, you might not be able to do that old job you used to...that doesnt mean you cant work anywhere else. Those people who just take what they can and say "Im disabled, and I cant work, so there" when they really can work...that bugs me. I think if you can work, you should and shouldnt take advantage of the system. My book comment wasnt intended to mean that all those who collect disabilty are like that. Many are. Many are capable of working and just take the money and do whatever they want; while others are seriously incapable of working again.

Yeah, you DON'T know, so perhaps you ought to stop judging people. It wasn't a book that fell on my foot, it was a semi that nearly killed me. No, I don't collect disability or welfare, but even if I did, what would it have to do with you? I suspect that you think that some of us disabled people are faking it, that if we can sit at a computer we should be able to get off our asses and get a job, right? That kind of attitude shows how narrow minded you really are. You have no idea what its like to live in my body.....what kind of pain I deal with daily, so I politely suggest that you STFU because you don't know what you're talking about.I'm also a stay at home mom. I don't let the dollars come before my kids...so you can go ahead and look down your nose at me for that too. On the one hand you criticize me for 'typing on the computer', but then you turn around and criticize parents who work full time. There's just no pleasing you, is there?

OK...I think I knew you were disabled...didnt know you read my blog much and I thought I made it fairly clear that as far as the disabilty issue...I was talking about those that ARE faking it. I never said you did. I have no idea what its like to live in your body, nor do you have any idea what its like to live in mine beacuse I have many medical issues as well...so politely STFU yourself.
Holy crap...I thought I made it fairly clear at least three different times in that paragraph alone that this was not the case everywhere. "This isnt the case everywhere..."; "Now, this isnt something that occurs with all parents, but many" ...etc.

I dont look down at your nose, and dont know why you think that because I didnt imply that I do look down at parents who take care of their kids. I said that SOME parents dont seem to give a crap. I didnt say you...my use of the words SOME does not imply you. Some parents just dont care about their kids, nearly as much as they should, or at all. What I have seen in the classroom is what I wrote down in my blog. You stay at home...woopy doo. Anybody can stay at home. Hell...I can stay at home. My cat stays at home all the time. That doesnt mean you are good OR bad. I was talking about how some parents have one view of their child and REFUSE to accept others, especially those who spend more time with their kids than they do. I know people have to work I dont care if they do. Parents that think they are high and mighty and dont seem concerened about their child...or belittle their childs teacher and brush away any concerns that teacher has...thats an issue. I had a parent that got mad at me for asking him to sign something for me. Now...this was kindergarten. When the parents registered their kids, they made them sign some papers. Then at the beginning of the year...the school has the parents do the same thing again for SOME of the papers. When I took over, I didnt have some papers...so I asked them to be updated. All 50 of my parents simply signed and returned the paper, except one. To my note, he staple one of his saying this: "Mr. (last name here)...I recieved your letter asking me to sign this document. I have signed it twice already and dont understand why I must do so again. I signed one when I registered and when the school year started. Please check your papers and school office. If you find that I am in error, please let me know and I will CONSIDER your request..." Im thinking 'holy crap...all he needed to do was sign this thing...takes two seconds' So I call him back and leave a message: "Mr So and So, I got your note and I just wanted to let you know that I was asking for the most up to date information from the parents. I know you signed forms in the beginning of the school year and at registration, BUT I am the new teacher and I want to have the most up to date information from all of my parents because some of them did not sign the correct parts. I sent home the note again. I want the most up to date information and permission from you for our field trips. If you have any questions...feel free to talk to my assistant principal."
Some parents have one view, and one view only and dont care about anybody else that has concerns.
As far as your issue..you are a stay at home mom and collect disability. I dont know how the heck that works out since being a stay at home mom isnt really a job (it is a job itself but not recognized as such) so you must have been working previously. Dharma, there are people out there who do nothing for a living. They just take advantage of the system. They sit at home, collecting money and just do nothing. Everyone can do something. No matter what your issues are, you can do something. I know a guy in a wheel chair. I asked him why did didnt have an electric one, he said "Zigs, God didn't take away my arms...he wants me to use them" and so he is. He works and does a bunch of stuff...is even a black belt in Karate as a matter of fact. I know people who have total use of....everything above their neck. They still work. A gal Marcie and I know is confined to her home. She can still work, she can do many things at home. Im talking about the people who collect money and do nothing.

Wow. Just wow. You have to be the most sanctimonious, self-righteous jackass I've ever had the misfortune to come across. Sitting up there on your perch of perfection, looking down on all the rest of us.....doesn't it get cold and lonely up there?

Its wrong for me to ask what people do for a living? Some people post simply rediculous things and some of those people post a bunch of times during the day, blog after blog. I dont know about you...but I dont have the time to do that.

And dont threaten me about Marcie. Our relationship is of no concern to you. I dont blog about it online because it is none of your business. Neither you OR LW know me OR her and only base what you do know on what we write on our blogs and I and the rest of the world can see how you are judging me based on ONLY what I write.

And trust me, it's usually someone like Ziggy that makes the first phone call to CPS, because after all, HE knows you suck as a parent.
What would you do if a child kept coming in your classroom, eating as much as he could from any food source he could find. What would you do if a child was bruised and had black and blue eyes. What would you do if they also had tattered and torn clothing while the mom wears designer outfits. What would you do if the child also smells to such the efffect that it begins your gag reflex? I guess you all would just be fine with that. Im not. I havent made a call to CPS, but if there are issues like those above, then I do become concerned and get the ball rolling on trying to figure out what is going on. I dont know why you all are complaining about me calling CPS. As a educator, I'm legally required to if I suspsect child neglect and I can get in serious trouble if I DONT call and there is a obvious issue going on.

TW, thanks for your replies. I feel that many times what I write...its taken in a wrong context from how I intend them to be. Some people on here have taken my blogs and twisted them to make me out to be the worst teacher ever when all I hear from my administration, co-workers and many other professionals I work for, say I am doing a very very good job.

I decided not to post because there are some people on here who actually think they know alot about their kids. Granted, parents do know a bunch about their kids.

OK...quoting myself because this is case in point as now that Im getting flamed up the HELLO from everyone...Im coming across differently than intended....I might as well correct myself. When I said there are some people who actually thing they know alot about their kids...I meant that......There are SOME parents out there who think they know alot about their kids, but really dont. When I say some...I mean SOME...not all...like some in a group...some in a building...some...few, little...not many, not alot...1-2 out of 20...etc. Some parents really dont know their kids that well. Look at the commercials on tv asking for your favorite actor, favorite show, favorite this favorite that...then it asks...what is your chlds favorite subject. There are a few variations of this commercial out there. When I say some..I dont mean YOU or anyone on here. I mean that there are people out there that just dont care or know much about their kids. I also said 'on here.' Dont know why I meant to say JUsers...my comment was meant to apply to the whole population in general.

As for my spelling..Im a rather fast typer and spell very well...its just that when I start typing about something in general that Im setting on writing...I type even faster and I make more mistakes that I dont catch because Im more...focused on writing my thoughts down than proper spelling. I usually dont catch my mistakes unless I re-read what I wrote...and I dont really do that.

And Marcie pretty much summed it up for me in her two replies. I am "negatively sarcastic" She will tell you that I get in trouble all the time because of this. Its not meant to insult.

I apologize for the length of this reply...had like 3 or four replies yesterday and 22 as of today.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
Id like to point out that the long reply above that was from Marcie was actually from myself. I didnt recognize she was signed in on my computer until I checked my blog this morning.

Once again, Ziggy opens mouth, inserts foot, and then feels compelled to write ridiculously long screeds to explain to all us dummies what he really meant.Dude, I may have more of a response for you if you'd learn to use paragraph breaks a tad more liberally. Until you do, I can't be bothered trying to slog through hundreds of lines with no clean white spaces between them, so I'll just assume you've put your foot in your mouth a few more times in your response.Hope it tastes good.


LW, I do use paragraphs...hence the paragraphs. Maybe they arent as small as youd like....but oh well. Obviously, you couldnt take the time to read my reply...although you go off on a little spazzy tangent that I write a long one, not to mention I was responding to most of the 19 replies I got yesterday. I will not apologize that you cant sit down long enough to read my replies (although you yourself felt the need to make four of them time after time, feeding off the replies of replies of other to help fuel your little....whips against my persona (sort of like how a vulcher feeds off a dead carcass).

You know what you wrote, and I did make replies to you. Somehow, it seems by your reply, that you are incapable of finding your own words in the yellow boxes. Heck...my first three quotation replies were replies to your own words. You didnt even see that? All you need to do is look for the short lines because instead of writing long...you write lots of small lines. I replied all in all to four of your comments.

Wow. Just wow. You have to be the most sanctimonious, self-righteous jackass I've ever had the misfortune to come across. Sitting up there on your perch of perfection, looking down on all the rest of us.....doesn't it get cold and lonely up there?


Dharma...I know I replied to this already...but everytime I look at this, I just cant believe you would take what I write and make a personal judgment on someone. I myself refuse to take the incredibly easy steps to insult someone online when all they have is their written thoughts. When I wrote...I specifically mentioned SOME parents dont care about their kids. SOME people take advantage of disability. YOU turn my words against me as a weapon and make it look like I was talking about you directly. Im talking about parents who show lack of care (physical, emotional, caring about school issues and problems...etc) of their children...the same parents that have a pimped out Caddy, but dont want to spend the five bucks for school supplies I request. The kind that feel the need to answer the phone during a conference and talk about business and weather instead of talking to me about their child. The kinds that simply refuse to listen to myself or others about the issues concerning their child being physically abusive towards other students.

For disabled people. I tried to specifically point out that I was talking about those people who take the money and do nothing. There are people who just take the money and sit at home. I dont give a crap who you are or what is wrong with you...everyone is capable of something. I tell my students never to give up, never to stop and to keep on doing the best they can. If you have a life threatening, condition...so what. Until you are dead, you are still alive and capable of doing something outside of staying at home and taking money. You even said you were not collecting disability, so I wasnt talking to you. I wasnt thinking of stay at home moms when I posted.

Stay at home moms...well Im half and half on that one. If your family can make it on one income, then thats fine. I understand the view point many people have towards that.

A while back...hmm...12 years or so ago...my mom and I were going up to pick up my brother at college. Mom was driving and this guy pulled out in front of us. Well somehow or another, mom managed to smack into him. It was my moms fault as he went down the road quite a bit and didnt turn on the blinkers to signal he was turning, but before mom realized he was stopped...she hit him. Now...we were driving a 92 sable. he was driving a 1985 crown victoria (or grand marquis...same danged thing). Those crown vics are built like boats..I know, because I have one myself. The front left corner of our car hit the back right end if his car. I dont know if our car had frame issues or not...but lots of stuff in the front end needed to be replaced (hood, bumper, fender, lights...etc). His car had not ONE scratch on it. I looked at the thing and it was perfectly fine. After the crash he got out right away...no compaints of any issues or whatever. From the angle of the crash, we took the force of the impact mostly. About a month later, we get contacted, saying he wants 10 thousand dollars because we 'aggrivated a previous back injury.' This guy was NOT injured, had no medical doctor saying he was and was trying to get money out of us. His car was completely undamaged and he was perfectly fine...yet he claimed whiplash.

Now, I myself have a crown victoria. In a moment of stupidity and show-off-man ship...I drove it into a brick wall at 30 mph. I came out perfectly fine, outside of some scraps because I wasnt wearing my belt. Those old cars are built like a tank. The car itself had damage on it, the header, fender, and bumper needed to be replaced. If I was wearing my belt...i would have been completely unhurt. This guy was taking advantage of the system. If he had been truley injured...that would be one thing and understandable....but he wasnt and couldnt prove it...yet still wanted lots of money.

My main issue is those people who collect government income, who are completely capable of working, yet chose not to and just take the free hand out that is provided. Maybe you were a union worker, putting that "made in america sticker' on those foreign made Harley Davidsons. Maybe the sticker machine cut off your finger and you cant work that sticker machine anymore. You arent disabled! you might not be able to work that particular job...but that doesnt mean you are incapable of working.
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
Little whip...might as well forget reading that last blog reply too. I write alot. I use lots of examples to help get my point across. I do that as a teacher. I take a concept...and if it doesnt go through and connect right away with the kids...I back up...use some examples...and go at it again, maknig myself or the concept more clear the second time around.