A Question for the Mother of Brennan Hawkins

Or, does God have a preference for boy scouts

Brennan Hawkins has been found. This is a good thing - since I imagine few of us took pleasure in the thought of a child dying alone in the wilderness, and his recovery will relieve (at least until the next missing child story) that low level anxiety that I imagine all parents feel for their children all the time and which must be heightened when a child disappears.

What caught my attention in the matter was a brief section of news I saw this morning on CNN, a short interview with the boy's mother. She was, naturally, relieved and very happy to have recovered her child alive and unharmed, and her response to the news was to thank God for his deliverance. She said "People say that Heaven is closed and prayer goes unanswered, but we're here to tell you that Heaven is NOT closed and that prayer is answered."

Dear Mrs. Brennan: do you think that God has some particular preference for boy scouts - since large numbers of children go missing in America every year and are not found ever again?

Do you imagine that you have some extremely personal, intimate relationship with God that others don't, since your kid is alive when the majority of those who go missing are almost certainly not?

Is God looking out for you and yours, Mrs. Brennan, and if so why?

I didn't find your comment offensive Mrs. Brennan, just perplexing. Why you, Mrs. Brennan, and not some other equally desperate mother?

Myself, I believe that God has as much interest in you, your son, his death or life, as I have in the fate of a microbe. And I'm wary of those who use God as an explanation for the random bullshit and grief that occurs in the universe, since it's a small step from gratitude for preferential treatment to self-satisfaction in being justified (or why else would God return your son and not the myriads of other sons who vanish and don't return) and from there to the detestable tendency of believers to condemn those who don't believe as they do.

Whenever I hear of someone giving thanks for some particular benefit I'm reminded of these words from Luke 13:

"Now there were some present at that time who told Jesus about the Galileans whose blood Pilate had mixed with their sacrifices. Jesus answered 'Do you think that these Galileans were worse sinners than all the other Galileans because they suffered this way? I tell you, no! But unless you repent you too will all perish. Or those eighteen who all died when the tower in Siloam fell on them - do you think they were more guilty than all the others living in Jerusalem? I tell you, no! But unless you repent you too will all perish'."

I'm glad the boy is safe. But I could wish his mother were a better read, more thoughtful Christian.
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A Christian woman expresses thanks to God for the safety of her son, and you call her to task for it.

Pathetic.
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I have asked the same questions myself, though internally. It's hard to deal with the idea of someone crediting God for saving them when thousands of prayers doin't bring the desired response. At most I can say 'I don't know', and frankly I don't need to know. I don't expect miracles, and I don't end up seeing them. Maybe when you expect them all the time, the luck you have in everday life ends up being miracles to you.

I don't see a reason to make an issue of it like this, but hey, it's your blog. When people say things like that to me, I just brush it off and go on. Nothing I say is going to make a dent. I tend to 'thank God' a lot too, though the implications of such are not so simple, as you describe.

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To ParaTed2k:

Wishing she were a better read and more thoughtful Christian is not calling her to task. If I were to call Christians to task for anything, it's the selective interpretation of the Bible in pursuit of self-justification. Hers is only a very minor and understandable example of this tendency, but it contains within it certain elements: of selective disregard for reality, happy self-congratulation for some apparent 'favor' received, and utter unawareness of the meaning of the quote cited - that God does not necessarily save the virtuous nor necessarily kill the vicious - all of which help the believer to move from faith in his or her own god to condemnation of the gods of others, and from there to outright bigotry and hatred. Like the man said - unless you repent you too will all perish.

Has your faith still to teach you that God has no favorites?
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To BakerStreet:

JU is a site where thoughts are expressed, ergo....

Nothing in what I said implies that this kind of simple-minded self-congratulation, this kind of wilful ignorance, is in itself 'simple'. Just the opposite, in fact.
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This is just one of those situations where the mother felt she had to show some gratitude and be thankfull, reaLLY MEANINGLESS CHATTER, KIND OF LIKE BALL PLAYERS NOT WANTING TO OFFEND. opps sorry caps. and to lazy to fix it.
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Has your faith still to teach you that God has no favorites?


She didn't say that God has favorites, she said:

People say that Heaven is closed and prayer goes unanswered, but we're here to tell you that Heaven is NOT closed and that prayer is answered.


She doesn't even say that only the righteous can expect the outcome they want from God. She and many others prayed. God knew where the boy was and what would be the outcome of this episode. Prayer is not a matter of us telling God what to do, it is a show of faith in Him. In our trials will we turn to God, away from God, or neither. The trial is ours to rise to or shrink from. If our faith in God grows from it, either outcome is better than if we turn away from God as a result.

When Mrs. Brennan (and everyone else) turns to God in prayer, it is a gesture to God that we know He's there. We petition Him with our wishes, but at the same time, we accept His wisdom in whatever outcome occurs.

With this quote, she expressed her faith in God... nothing more or less. Then you pompously judged her Christianity based on that quote. Last I checked there is only one who is qualified to judge another's Christianity, and unless you're Jesus Himself, you ain't the one!

Let the lady rejoice in the safe return of her son as she sees fit and quit acting like YOU are qualified to judge another's Christianity.
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If God is responsible when good things happen, why isn't he responsible when bad things happen? Is it too much to ask for some consistency?

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If God is responsible when good things happen, why isn't he responsible when bad things happen? Is it too much to ask for some consistency?


He is asked! The VERY first words out of my mouth upon hearing of my fathers passing, were "Why God, WHY"?
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#7 by Içonoçlast
Wednesday, June 22, 2005


If God is responsible when good things happen, why isn't he responsible when bad things happen? Is it too much to ask for some consistency?


I know this will be hard for you to wrap your brain around but here it is.

GOD= GOOD
satan=bad
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God is not some purely benevolent father being that picks you up when you skin your knee. God punishes, God saves, God wipes cities out, gives life to the dead, cures the diseased, and most important of all, he allows us to do and think for ourselves independent of Him.

When a man decides to join the hunt for a lost child, that is not an act of God, but the act of a good person. When that person looks in a location they hadn't considered before because of a "hunch", then you may see the work of God.

When a man kidnaps a child, it is the act of a bad man. God does not make bad things happen... he allows us to do bad things, and we do them. He doesn't force us to do anything, merely hopes we do the right thing, provides the best guidance possible, but ultimately it is an act of Man.
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I know this will be hard for you to wrap your brain around but here it is.GOD= GOODsatan=bad


This is the same as your article about the devil's tricks. God created Satan. Satan created evil. Therefore, God is responsible for evil. If a=b and b=c, logically, a=c.

I'm tired of athletes thanking God when they score points or win a game. You never hear them say, "God made me drop the ball."

Skepticism=good
Blind faith=bad
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He is asked! The VERY first words out of my mouth upon hearing of my fathers passing, were "Why God, WHY"?


I was referring to some people.
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I'm tired of athletes thanking God when they score points or win a game. You never hear them say, "God made me drop the ball."


HAHAHAHA! There's a comedian that used to say something similar to this - "Everything was going great until Jesus made me fumble!" BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
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To ParaTed2k:

When you are done calling people 'pathetic' (rather than calling their arguments pathetic), and when you are done referring to others as pompous (rather than their arguments) perhaps you will have time to consider this point -

when an individual thanks God for some favor received, especially in a situation where thousands if not millions of others have asked God for exactly the same outcome but not received it (in this case the safe return of a missing child) what that individual is saying is that God has provided some special dispensation, for reasons not known, to that individual. One term for special dispensations is... favoritism. Mrs. Brennan did not mention favoritism, but her perfectly natural and understandable outburst implies exactly that.

Her God has favorites, in this case that favorite is her - or that is what is to be understood from her belief that Heaven was opened to receive her petition and to grant its answer. This is a simple-minded, dangerous form of Christianity and one which I find obnoxious, especially in the face of all those whose exactly similar petitions have been answered either with a corpse, or with the continuing absence of any sign of the vanished child.

My own belief is that God has not the slightest interest in Mrs. Brennan, nor her child, nor in any other human being now alive.

You and Mrs. Brennan may feel you are at the center of the universe. The universe however knows better and if it is not laughing itself sick at you, is paying you no attention whatsoever.

Why should it? It was here first, and will be here long after humanity and its paltry works are dust spiralling into the sun.