Detachment

from JoeUser Forums
How i long to experience detachment!

Detachment is about acting instead of reacting. Reacting involves doing and saying things that you feel sorry for after they happen. Reacting to feelings can make you do awful mistakes.

Detachment lets you experience your feelings. And then think them through.

It's hard to explain. Let's take an example. Someone scratches your brand new car. Your first feeling is anger. You're furious someone didnt show any care for your property, something you worked hard to obtain. Reaction you swear at the author of the scratch. Detachment lets you experience your anger. Then think of the solutions.

I tend to react way too much. I'm trying to be more serene in my actions and my words.

I guess i'm just trying to grow up.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Road rage is a perfect example of the wrong way to react. If drivers were to practice detachment then there would probably be far less incidents of road rage these days.

Like you, I've been practising detachment. It allows the individual to have the proper perspective of the situation, instead of going off half-cocked. But it is a particularly hard technique to master. Good luck with it.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
You know IG you're one smart cookie! Detachment is good!
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dynamaso:
Like you, I've been practising detachment. It allows the individual to have the proper perspective of the situation, instead of going off half-cocked. But it is a particularly hard technique to master. Good luck with it.

Thanks Maso, it sure is hard, especially with my temper... First I see red, then i get mad, then i think 'oops!'...

Forevererenity
You know IG you're one smart cookie! Detachment is good!

Thanks hun And yeah, i think detachment is good!

Little-Whip:
Rule # 1, don't take things personally

True, very true. I'm glad you've added this up We keep thinking everone should be aware of our little persona in this ME FIRST society.
unless they truly are personal.

Heh, it's funny cuz i'm trying to practice detachment because of an offense on a personal level. Here's a story:
Before i went out with Darren I met this guy, we flirted, i asked him out, and he explained he couldnt be with me cuz he had unfinished business with his ex-girlfriend (whatever that meant). So he said all he had to offer was a one night stand. And (call me a prude) disgusted i said no thanks, and left it to that. Till today we've remained good mates, and often laugh about those times. I found out his ex girlfriend was someone i knew. And she heard that I wanted to get with her man and move in with him, and a lot more crap. So now that i've broken up with Darren she's told Delizia that she wants to get with him to 'make me feel my pain'. I was like WTF??? And thought of ways to kick the shit out of her. But i'm not giving her this pleasure to know that she's getting what she wants. Which is revenge in a way. I'm not interested in making things clear with her, cuz i know she wont listen and will know that she's touched a sensitive nerve. So i'm not gonna do anyhting about it. After all me & darren it's over.
I still asked him if he was seeing her, and he said, and that he wouldnt want to anyway. But that's what he's saying now. So i told him that should he start seeing someone to please stop calling me and trying to see me. Cuz it would be too hard for me to accept that he's moving on.
So yeh, I'm trying to practice detachment for this matter, before i kill someone...
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
I like this! I gotta print this and put it on my office wall...

Heh, are you serious??