Behind closed doors
- the mask comes off?
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JillUser and someone else recently posted articles about being happy; and about hiding behind a mask. I can't for the life of me remember who (Sugar?)posted the article about the masks (I'm sorry) so no link to that one. That said, those two articles got me thinking so I hope you don’t mind me tagging along on your thoughts, with just a twist. Here's a link to Jill's article: Link
People go through different experiences in life. They have different feelings and react differently to their experiences in life.
Some people are happy all the time. No matter what comes at them they are able to face it, deal with it and continue on, sometimes as if nothing happened.
Some people have their moments; they go through a little bit of funk, like letting the air out of a tire. They feel overwhelmed and anxious and try to deal with the feelings of sadness and discontent. You cry for a while, mope around, feeling sorry for yourself. You just can’t seem to get rid of the funk you’re in. Then suddenly, eventually, you do. It’s like the sun coming out after a rainy day. And you continue with your life having dealt with something that could have been worse but wasn’t because you allowed yourself to experience the moment, learned from it and moved on.
Then there are those whose experiences is like a car crash - they’re so depressed, so far gone that nothing but professional help will save them. Some may even turn to drugs to get them through. And this of course leads to a much bigger problem that they may eventually have to deal with, that of addiction.
Every individual go through different experiences. No two experiences are ever the same. Sometimes people will go through similar experiences, but they more likely will be different and with different outcomes.
Behind the closed doors of people’s lives you as an outsider never know what goes on. You don’t know the trials some people go through. If they are your friend, sometimes they might share these trials with you but sometimes they don’t want to share it because they might not want you to know. Otherwise, you have no idea of the burden some people carry around on their shoulders.
Is it ever ok for people to just be themselves? To just let their true selves show and not hide behind a mask because they’re afraid that someone will not like the real person? Then again, when the real person comes forth, there’s always someone who dislikes them for one reason or another.
There is a saying (in my own words, i.e., not quoting word for word) that you don’t know about another person until you’ve lived in his house (or walk in his shoes). So, until this society stop being judgmental in their actions and attitudes, there will always be a mask; Or until the individual becomes really comfortable with you. And even then, you probably won’t “see” this person. Is this no wonder why some people hide behind the mask of pretence?
People go through different experiences in life. They have different feelings and react differently to their experiences in life.
Some people are happy all the time. No matter what comes at them they are able to face it, deal with it and continue on, sometimes as if nothing happened.
Some people have their moments; they go through a little bit of funk, like letting the air out of a tire. They feel overwhelmed and anxious and try to deal with the feelings of sadness and discontent. You cry for a while, mope around, feeling sorry for yourself. You just can’t seem to get rid of the funk you’re in. Then suddenly, eventually, you do. It’s like the sun coming out after a rainy day. And you continue with your life having dealt with something that could have been worse but wasn’t because you allowed yourself to experience the moment, learned from it and moved on.
Then there are those whose experiences is like a car crash - they’re so depressed, so far gone that nothing but professional help will save them. Some may even turn to drugs to get them through. And this of course leads to a much bigger problem that they may eventually have to deal with, that of addiction.
Every individual go through different experiences. No two experiences are ever the same. Sometimes people will go through similar experiences, but they more likely will be different and with different outcomes.
Behind the closed doors of people’s lives you as an outsider never know what goes on. You don’t know the trials some people go through. If they are your friend, sometimes they might share these trials with you but sometimes they don’t want to share it because they might not want you to know. Otherwise, you have no idea of the burden some people carry around on their shoulders.
Is it ever ok for people to just be themselves? To just let their true selves show and not hide behind a mask because they’re afraid that someone will not like the real person? Then again, when the real person comes forth, there’s always someone who dislikes them for one reason or another.
There is a saying (in my own words, i.e., not quoting word for word) that you don’t know about another person until you’ve lived in his house (or walk in his shoes). So, until this society stop being judgmental in their actions and attitudes, there will always be a mask; Or until the individual becomes really comfortable with you. And even then, you probably won’t “see” this person. Is this no wonder why some people hide behind the mask of pretence?
