Do we corrupt our children?
how history repeats
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How many times have you heard yourself say something to your children only to think later that that’s what my parents used to say?
History has a funny way of repeating itself over and over again!
This was apparent to me the other day when I caught myself saying “It’s where you left it” in response to “Dad where’s my book”, and I thought of how I used to hate my mother telling me the exact thing when I had lost something as a child.
I stopped what I was doing and helped him find his book, (strangely enough it was where he left it) and was rewarded with a smile and a story from the book.
Mum also had a saying when I asked what’s for dinner; she used to answer “Pickled eels eyes” Which I’ve decided to keep. (Thanks mum)
I have pondered this subject before and agreed with myself on many points but then I didn’t have a blogg back then.
My thinking is this: Children are innocent; no-one can really dispute that can they?
However they do become corrupted by us, But we don’t always know that we are doing it.
It’s one of those things that seems almost unavoidable that our prejudices and biases are passed onto our children some are good of course (are we not there to guide our children through life so they don’t make the same mistakes that we made).
Perhaps corrupt is too stronger word, I don’t know why things always look different in print the ideas are so clear when I ponder them.
Maybe it’s that we should stop and think on how we do influence our children and is this influence is a good or bad thing?
Indeed how do we determine what is a good or bad thing it’s a difficult question to answer?
I try not to hinder my children’s development by not showing them how to do some things completely so they discover for themselves how to do it. ie:”dad can you draw a dog for me?””No but let’s look at a real dog and you draw what you see!”(This is not a rule just an example) so I’ve got some interesting drawings on my wall but this process in itself is also a manipulation by me.
So ok get over it we do influence our kids there’s no avoiding it
Some are good, some are bad. I try not to pass on my bad habits to my kids and hopefully they will turnout reasonably well balanced and somewhat worldly wise perhaps I am saying that perhaps it’s a good thing to step back and look at how we prepare our children for life.
Life is an ever changing and fluid learning curve that never ends I learn as much from my children as they learn from me.
And that’s my 2 cents for today.
History has a funny way of repeating itself over and over again!
This was apparent to me the other day when I caught myself saying “It’s where you left it” in response to “Dad where’s my book”, and I thought of how I used to hate my mother telling me the exact thing when I had lost something as a child.
I stopped what I was doing and helped him find his book, (strangely enough it was where he left it) and was rewarded with a smile and a story from the book.
Mum also had a saying when I asked what’s for dinner; she used to answer “Pickled eels eyes” Which I’ve decided to keep. (Thanks mum)
I have pondered this subject before and agreed with myself on many points but then I didn’t have a blogg back then.
My thinking is this: Children are innocent; no-one can really dispute that can they?
However they do become corrupted by us, But we don’t always know that we are doing it.
It’s one of those things that seems almost unavoidable that our prejudices and biases are passed onto our children some are good of course (are we not there to guide our children through life so they don’t make the same mistakes that we made).
Perhaps corrupt is too stronger word, I don’t know why things always look different in print the ideas are so clear when I ponder them.
Maybe it’s that we should stop and think on how we do influence our children and is this influence is a good or bad thing?
Indeed how do we determine what is a good or bad thing it’s a difficult question to answer?
I try not to hinder my children’s development by not showing them how to do some things completely so they discover for themselves how to do it. ie:”dad can you draw a dog for me?””No but let’s look at a real dog and you draw what you see!”(This is not a rule just an example) so I’ve got some interesting drawings on my wall but this process in itself is also a manipulation by me.
So ok get over it we do influence our kids there’s no avoiding it
Some are good, some are bad. I try not to pass on my bad habits to my kids and hopefully they will turnout reasonably well balanced and somewhat worldly wise perhaps I am saying that perhaps it’s a good thing to step back and look at how we prepare our children for life.
Life is an ever changing and fluid learning curve that never ends I learn as much from my children as they learn from me.
And that’s my 2 cents for today.
