You're responsible of your happiness or sorrow

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I used to complain about being down and feeling depressed. I would focus on the bad things in my life. And things that didnt affect me directly, well i'd convince myself they were making me sad.

Everyday i'd go to work with negative thoughts like i hate my job, and i'd have a list of upsetting things happening. And they would happen. I've realised that i was the one making tings happen, either good or bad.

So i'm trying to be more positive in how i think. When i have dark thoughts, i just brush them away with a good one. Like when i start to feel lonely, i enlist in my mind the people that have showed more than once that they care about me. And then i feel better. Everything is in my head. And i'm the one making myself sad or happy. I just need to decide what i want to be.

I have a lot of work on myself to do. I'm used to being sad cuz it so easy to go downhill. But, with a positive attitude i'm starting to feel less stressed and distressed by little troubles.

Things eventually will happen. If I believe that something will be, then it will. I have faith in God who watches over me, but i've understood that i'm the one helping myself. God's given me all the tools to be happy. All i need to do is use them.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
IG, glad to hear you're trying to be positive. It can be a real struggle but it is so worthwhile. One of the greatest gifts I've developed in my time is my ability to be positive. It is something in us all yet so many refuse to recognise it or spend time wallowing in self-pity. The more you maintain negativity, the more it drains you.

I hope to write at length about this soon as well. In fact, I think I could write a book about it.

Cheers,

Maso
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
You know what, you should start writing it! You have a gift when it comes to writing and it could help a lot of people out there who are stuck in trouble they've created themselves and who fight invisible enemies just like Don Quichotte!

Go Maso! Do your thang!
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks girl, I just might...

Have a great evening and email me soon.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yes, I agree with you 100% happiness is a choice. I got this great tape once from Gene Neill with that title. Considering that he once was a Mafia Lawyer, and ended up with mulitiple sentences, end on end, for his involvement in their corruption. He learned to 'look beyond the horizon' ~ sitting there ready to serve a 50 year sentence, he could have wallowed in self pity, instead he fell to his knees and asked the Lord Jesus Christ into his heart. In the darkness and diginess of the 4 by 6 cell, with roaches as big as rats, he learned to thank God in his situation. Within 2 and a bit years he was released and began the work which he still does today encouraging others to learn how to make a choice for happiness. [and ofcourse, a choice for Jesus, the two are synonymous] ... The dwarf with a deformed face who wrote some of the most inspirting Christian hymns, was none other than Isaac Watts... yeah, happiness is most definitely a choice....
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Wow aeryck! I didnt know about that, it's inspiring isnt it?

It's really all in your mind. Jealousy, fear, Anger. We create all that in our minds, and we believe it is real, thats why we're not happy. But if we could imagine love, prosperity, etc, things would happen accordingly. Imagination is one of the greatest inner power we have.
Take the placebo for instance. Just because we're told that this tablet will make us feel better, we imagine it's real, and it happens. When in fact that tablet didnt have any therapeutic powers. If we have faith and if we can picture what we're praying for as if we already had it, we would receive all the things we want. "All things are possible through Christ which strengthens me".
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Good job, sweetie! I'm proud of you. It's a lesson I've had to learn, too...

I can't control what happens to me or the actions of others, but I can control my reaction to it...I am responsible for me and for my happiness...

Awesome article.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Texas Wahine you nailed! That's exactly what i've tried to say I'm happy you're willing to be happy, that's the spirit!
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Maso: You got mail!
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Very true island gurl--you are the maker of your own destiny. I need to work on this too...I guess that's life. When it hands you lemons, make tequila sours!
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
this is a truth that usually comes with age, you are blessed to have realized this so young { I assume you are young} good work kid, realization is the first step to wisdom.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Alison: hehe, i love tequila

Moderateman, I'm turning 22 on the 12th of this month
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
11 by island_gurl12
Wednesday, March 02, 2005


Alison: hehe, i love tequila

Moderateman, I'm turning 22 on the 12th of this month


happy pre b-day and for GODS sake woman I have jeans older than you. lmao
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
IG: if you sent it to the 'nineteen50' address, I will have to check it tonight. If you sent it to the other, I still haven't received it. Either way, I'm looking forward speaking to you.

Cheers,

Maso
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
happy pre b-day

Thank you, that's sweet

and for GODS sake woman I have jeans older than you

lol! Haha! Keep them safe, JU will open a museum one day and those jeans will be worth a helluva lot of money!!

Shovelheat: thank you, i'm still wondering if that was a sarcastic comment, lol!
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh i sent it to the nineteen50 one, i love the name and i thought bigpond was your personal one, i didnt wanna disturb ya at work!
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
Good points you have in your article...I never noticed I was a glass half empty girl until ppl pointed it out to me...I struggle with this. I worry too much, go straight to the bad side of something,stress out too much, and compare myself with others sometimes...

I need to chill...I'm always reading about how Positive People live longer...well, I want to live longer...lol. I want to get to the point of someday 100% accepting myself...and taking that motivation to improve myself...
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey Inbloom, at least you are willing to change which is the first baby step. It takes alot of work and determination at the begining. But after a couple of weeks it starts to become automatic. Whenever you have a 'half empty' sort of thought make yourself see the 'half full' side of it. It's all about perspective. YOU have the power to make things go your way.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
you get an insightful from me on this one. You hit the nail on the head!