Tentative tenure

from JoeUser Forums

I was supposed to have left here by now.

I was supposed to be long gone, with not even a second glance....

....and as you all can tell, I'm still here.

I feel like a fraud.  I feel like I wound you all up for nothing, that I made empty and idle threats.

I didn't.  I had every intention of splitting.  I emailed all the right people and asked them to do all the things I had requested....and they asked me if them taking care of a little business would change my mind.

It has...for now.  I'm still here, tentatively.  I'm going to see how things go....

....but I can tell you that I am happy to still be here.  I was reduced to tears this weekend at the prospect of leaving, and again today at the prospect of being able to stay.

So, I'm here. Again. 

How the heck is everyone, anyway?

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
i'm alright....almost done here at work...lots of grading and paperwork to do....and then from here i go straight to wal mart for some needed shopping....sigh...I just want to go home and nap.... oh wait...I still need to exercise somewhere in between (like that's gonna happen today....lol)....

glad you are still writing, btw.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

Dharma - As much as it pains me to suggst it.. if a largely anonymous online community blog is reducing you to tears perhaps it is time to step away for a good long time and gain some perspective on the matter. Stick close to your real-life/real world folks for a bit and this should recede back into the complete meaninglessness it should have. You got along for quite a while without IM and email right? Sometimes a bit of self-enfoced Luddism can give you back the frame of reference you had prior to this degree of online involvement.

     I love blogging/online socialization as much (or more) than the next guy/gal but the second it starts to spill into the corporeal world it is time to unplug or simply start ll over with totally new nicknames and cut the ties to the old ones. One flesh and blood contact is worth all the bitwise clones on the Net. Just my one cent worth and I hope it doesn't offend.

Siege of Centauri
Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Doing well and hope you are too. I've been very busy with the new work project, but I'm enjoying it. Speak to you soon.

Cheers,

Maso
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top

if a largely anonymous online community blog is reducing you to tears

Actually, it's not the largely anonynous community that's the issue.  It's the one solitary known user who insists on not only hounding me here but also has bought it to my home email inbox too.  The bullying greywar....and yes, it is flat out bullying.  The emails I got leave no doubt whatsoever that that's what this is.

Inbloom...and I thought I was busy!  I'm glad I'm still here too.

Maso: Dude, I am well....tons of stuff to tell you, I'll have to sit down tomorrow and formulate an email for you!

Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top

The emails I got leave no doubt whatsoever that that's what this is.

Well that is certainly way out of line on their part but the solution here is to block them as spam and ignore them forever. No need to even acknowledge their electronic existance. Just like the folks who send you Viagra ads they have no validity or importance in the real world.

Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Welcome back, even if it is a tenative stay.

I'll be reading again!

Peace,

Beebes
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top

Well that is certainly way out of line on their part but the solution here is to block them as spam and ignore them forever.

that's easier said than done, unfortunately.  however, i've found a wonderful program that's assisting me with that......

Beebles...Cool!  I've been reading you too!

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
I hope that the measures taken are enough to breath some life back into what had become (from my observation) a dead past-time for you. Wish you the best.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
I haven't gotten to know you well, but it's good to hear you're staying, even if it is just for a while.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
D..

I dont know whats happening as Ive been flat out here with stuff.... things are moving fast here now, this is the first time in ages Ive been able to sit and read and write.

Hope your ok. MIss hearin from u.

Px
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey!

Glad to see you're still here. I've been busy with homework and job searching.
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Let me say that you are one of my favorite bloggers.
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hi friend. I hope you stay. I haven't been here consistently for a very long time but you are one of the few bloggers that keep me coming back. My sources told me what's been up and I sympathize completely. Hope you keep in touch no matter what you decide.
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
Two words can explain all the madness: mental illness. Someone who does that to someone else has something emotionally wrong with him/herself, and said person has written articles about said illness. It makes sense.

ANYWAY...things have been going fairly well. I asked my principal and assistant principal for letters of recommendation yesterday because I'm filling out applications for teaching positions in Minnesota. Hopefully something will pan out. Looking forward to spring break...cousins are coming out for a visit...working lots, trying to lose some tonage.

Really, K, if this continues, just leave. Let us know where your new blog is and we'll come visit. Because you're too big a person to put up with crap like this. It's not worth it, really, and with D leaving soon, you need to have your emotional resources for that, not dealing with some moron on the other side of a computer screen with nothing else to do than terrorize you...

Take care of yourself! Love you!

MoooooooOOOOOOOOO
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
until she butters everyone up and they bump her status back up. then we'll go through the whole thing again.

it's just a brief reprieve, not a solution
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
There's a type of behavior modification that I use with my kids, called extinction. (I'm not sure if I made that word up or if I read it somewhere, but hey, it's the word I use). If there's a behavior occuring that I don't like, or don't approve of, I ignore it at first. More times than not the lack of feedback or negative attention cures the problem extremely quickly.

Maybe this would be a case for that?

Dharma: you know I love your stuff! I'm glad you're giving it another go! *hugs*
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
*Hugs* Dharma, a big fat one and one of those sloppy wet kiss my toddler likes to give me

Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top

I hope that the measures taken are enough to breath some life back into what had become (from my observation) a dead past-time for you.

Me too, Dev.  Me too.  I feel like I lost myself somewhere between Christmas and now...and I'm trying to find myself again.  Bear with me...and all the best to you and your lovely (and growing) family too!

Glad you've decided to stay

Thanks, Shovel.  Me too.

 

I haven't gotten to know you well

We can change that, y'know.

 

Hope your ok. MIss hearin from u.

I'm ok.  One of these nights I'm going to try to be online at the same time you are and we'll have a chat, ok?

 

Glad to see you're still here. I've been busy with homework and job searching.

Cool!  Job searching for what, exactly?  Oh, and I liked your review of 'Fuel'....

 

Let me say that you are one of my favorite bloggers.

Wow...well, thank you!  I never knew that....but I like it!

 

Hope you keep in touch no matter what you decide.

I will, I promise.  I've been wondering how you got on with everything that's happened recently.  Just know that you and yours have been on my mind a lot, even though I haven't emailed or written.

 

Really, K, if this continues, just leave. Let us know where your new blog is and we'll come visit

You know Marcie, you're one of the few people that understand why I can't let this emotional drain go on.  D's leaving, and I need to have my wits and strength about me....deployments, especially the first few days/weeks leave me drained and easily upset.  Actually, I think that has a lot to do with why this recent nastiness has bothered me so much...I'm a little apprehensive of him leaving again and just don't have the fortitude to deal with anything else right now. 

I will let you know where I'm going (if I go)

Love you too....BAAAAAAAA-AAAAA!

 

until she butters everyone up and they bump her status back up. then we'll go through the whole thing again.

That's what I'm worried about.  That's why I'm still slightly tentative...

If there's a behavior occuring that I don't like, or don't approve of, I ignore it at first. More times than not the lack of feedback or negative attention cures the problem extremely quickly.

Maybe this would be a case for that?

That's what I'm going to start doing....but there are things that you just can't ignore. 

Dharma: you know I love your stuff! I'm glad you're giving it another go! *hugs*

Aww, thank you!  Right back at you!

*Hugs* Dharma, a big fat one and one of those sloppy wet kiss my toddler likes to give me

Thanks!  That was wonderful and I thoroughly enjoyed that!

Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
Really...I guess I don't understand the animosity...I don't read EVERYONE's stuff...but I don't understand why she just...chomped on you like she did. And frankly, I think you should just ignore her all together. Let her talk trash. Everyone that knows you knows the truth about you. She'll find a new victim eventually. I don't see the purpose in beating a dead horse, and she keeps on beating you and Mike down...I just don't get it. But I'm a teacher too and that makes me horrible because she had bad experiences in school decades ago.

Pffft.
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
Her Dharma...

I didn't read your leaving article until about two minutes ago, so I didn't respond.... but I'm glad that I got to read your "just kidding" article without having to wait for it. I think everybody who's been here a while has planned to leave JU at one point or another, and I'm glad that somebody intervened so you wouldn't have to leave permanently.

Just think how irritating it would be for all the users here for your name to be in the top bloggers for months before it finally disappeared so somebody could take your place! ...not that I've ever been guilty of that...

I'm glad you're still here. God bless.

Dan
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top

She'll find a new victim eventually.

...and that makes me sad, Marcie.  I don't want there to be another victim.  I don't want anyone else to have to deal with it.  No-one should have to be verbally assaulted, have every part of their character and life attacked like that....

I think everybody who's been here a while has planned to leave JU at one point or another, and I'm glad that somebody intervened so you wouldn't have to leave permanently.

Thanks Dan, and yes, I think that you're right. 

Just think how irritating it would be for all the users here for your name to be in the top bloggers for months before it finally disappeared so somebody could take your place! ...not that I've ever been guilty of that...

hehe....I hadn't thought about that until just now, actually....but now you mention it.....

Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think everybody who's been here a while has planned to leave JU at one point or another,


I have to talk myself out of quitting about once every two months.


Just think how irritating it would be for all the users here for your name to be in the top bloggers for months before it finally disappeared so somebody could take your place! ...not that I've ever been guilty of that...


I never did post my "The Blogging Dead" article....