Court Systems are Hell.
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My daughter (5 years old) told me last year that her step father touched her in her private area.
First thing I did was call her doctor to find out what I needed to do. She told me
to call Kids 1st. A company that specialises in child abuse etc. They took her
statment, ours and examined her. Department of Human Services(DHS) was
involved. And a "Safty agreement" was signed to not allow her step father to be around her.
Her mother? oh she denyed it. Then again her mother only cares about her self.
The step father was not arrested until about 6 months later as they gathered evendence.
The criminal court date won't happen until 2006. They had a "court " to (ratify?) the "safty agreement".
Since the accused was not present thing went kinda smoothly . Once they read what my daughter
has said to the people at DHS I cried. Mother on the other hand did northing but blankly stared.
After the judgement they figured it was best for her mother to go through therapy to get reajusted
to my daughter after being away from her for so long. Her mother did not care to see her daughter
for well over 6 months and now a year. They also made it so that she has to see a therapist and my
insurance has to pay for it. Her mother for about 6 months visited my daughter in 2 sessions. The
rest she cancelled cause it didn't fit her schedual.
Meanwhile my daughter is going through hell every time she has to visit with her mother. She
blames everything on her since she married the man that abused her. And she also knows
that her mom don't care about her. In fact she calles my current wife mom, and her real mom step mom.
As I am documenting this experiance and history, let me say that a year ago before this whole thing happened,
her mother was beat to a bloody pulp by her husband(my daughters step father) in front of my daugther.
He was arrested and thrown in jail. Later on we found out he was transfered to Alabama because he
had a prior arrest for (guess what?) child sexual abuse. This we didn't know, and found out the hard way.
He made bail about 5 months later, and they my ex-wife DEMANDED that she see her daughter. Police
and everything was brought to my house. I didn't want my daughter gain back in that mans house.
While he was in jail my ex-wife didn't care to see her my daughter, but now he's back she want to
see her. I was told by the officer I has to agree to the parental agreement even though she's married
to a sexual offeneder and a wife abuser. That week when I picked up my daughter she told me
he touched her.
Everything is focused on him, while her mother goes off scott free. No one seems to understand
or care what this is doing to my daughter. her mother does not care about her daugther and she
can go for months with out seeing her. She still belives her husband is inncent, and want her "happy"
family back the way it was. While in the meantime everyone else has to suffer. And still
I can't do anything about this because I have to get a good lawyer (and raise about $3000) and
have full support from therapists and DHS(and they said no).
This is my experiance, and I do hope things get better.
First thing I did was call her doctor to find out what I needed to do. She told me
to call Kids 1st. A company that specialises in child abuse etc. They took her
statment, ours and examined her. Department of Human Services(DHS) was
involved. And a "Safty agreement" was signed to not allow her step father to be around her.
Her mother? oh she denyed it. Then again her mother only cares about her self.
The step father was not arrested until about 6 months later as they gathered evendence.
The criminal court date won't happen until 2006. They had a "court " to (ratify?) the "safty agreement".
Since the accused was not present thing went kinda smoothly . Once they read what my daughter
has said to the people at DHS I cried. Mother on the other hand did northing but blankly stared.
After the judgement they figured it was best for her mother to go through therapy to get reajusted
to my daughter after being away from her for so long. Her mother did not care to see her daughter
for well over 6 months and now a year. They also made it so that she has to see a therapist and my
insurance has to pay for it. Her mother for about 6 months visited my daughter in 2 sessions. The
rest she cancelled cause it didn't fit her schedual.
Meanwhile my daughter is going through hell every time she has to visit with her mother. She
blames everything on her since she married the man that abused her. And she also knows
that her mom don't care about her. In fact she calles my current wife mom, and her real mom step mom.
As I am documenting this experiance and history, let me say that a year ago before this whole thing happened,
her mother was beat to a bloody pulp by her husband(my daughters step father) in front of my daugther.
He was arrested and thrown in jail. Later on we found out he was transfered to Alabama because he
had a prior arrest for (guess what?) child sexual abuse. This we didn't know, and found out the hard way.
He made bail about 5 months later, and they my ex-wife DEMANDED that she see her daughter. Police
and everything was brought to my house. I didn't want my daughter gain back in that mans house.
While he was in jail my ex-wife didn't care to see her my daughter, but now he's back she want to
see her. I was told by the officer I has to agree to the parental agreement even though she's married
to a sexual offeneder and a wife abuser. That week when I picked up my daughter she told me
he touched her.
Everything is focused on him, while her mother goes off scott free. No one seems to understand
or care what this is doing to my daughter. her mother does not care about her daugther and she
can go for months with out seeing her. She still belives her husband is inncent, and want her "happy"
family back the way it was. While in the meantime everyone else has to suffer. And still
I can't do anything about this because I have to get a good lawyer (and raise about $3000) and
have full support from therapists and DHS(and they said no).
This is my experiance, and I do hope things get better.