I'm disappointed

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To be perfectly clear, this is a "personal" blog and is no way related to moderation.

However, being that I moderate, I try to look at issues from every angle that I can, and try to see all view points.

There is a current trend that makes me very sad.  I have very little faith in humans being a kind species to begin with, but lately I have been losing even more faith.

What is going on?  What is with all of the oneupmanship of "he said, she said" around here?  Why are there all of these blogs pointing out what people say and pouring salt in wounds?  Why is there the need to have multiple articles all bashing on the same person?

I don't agree with everyone on here, and I don't expect everyone to agree with me.  However, I also don't expect people to pull me through the mud if they don't agree.  It's just common decency.  Lately, though, I have been seeing more and more of these articles that serve no purpose other than pulling somebody into the mud.

And, I find it a bit hypocritical.  There is a certain ex-JU community member that has his own blog.  He comes here and uses the material here to write stuff on, and people here complain about it.  However, people find it fine to have the same actions on this site.

I don't know what is so wrong with us in todays world.  Why do people find it fun to find faults of other people and publicize them?  I have a harder time every day believing that humanity is moving toward anything good at all.

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top

I agree.  I generally dislike the whole concept of writing blogs attacking other individuals. And agree it is somewhat hyporcitical to complain about others doing it if you're doing it yourself.

Blogs are what you make of them. They can be fun, fascinating journeys of personal development or they can be petty, nasty ugly places in which we entertain our coarsest tendancies to "get back" at people we don't even know.

Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

I'm diappointed too.  I'm trying to distance myself from all of it....I simply don't want to get dragged into feuds and side-taking.

It all makes me really very sad....

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
It is unfortunate that people choose to write some of what they write, there is enough trouble in the world without us making more. But people are strange and crazy things...
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
And, I find it a bit hypocritical. There is a certain ex-JU community member that has his own blog. He comes here and uses the material here to write stuff on, and people here complain about it. However, people find it fine to have the same actions on this site.


I have a sneaking suspician that this particular ex JUser is posting various personalities on his blogsite himself. One of them he says is me under a different name. This is an outright lie! Therefore I really believe that all of his characters are a product of his schitzophrenia. It's sad in a way, but comforting to me knowing he is alone out there.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am a pretty little girl who likes to sing and dance in the sun.

Merry Christmas, you filthy amoral heathen pagans,
David St. Hubbins
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
oooppss double-post!
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top

David, man, could you be any more of a satire of a human?  Such hypocrisy writing on a site that you detest so much, don't you think? 

Merry Christmas, even if you are a jerk

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top

Merry Christmas, David.  I sincerely mean that. 


 

Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Merry Christmas, even if you are a jerk.


You're too nice. He doesn't deserve a Merry Christmas. A Happy Chanukah maybe, but not a Merry Christmas!
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Maybe Happy Festivus?  (That's a Seinfeld reference if anybody didn't get it.  It's holiday that would be perfect for people like David- you sit around the tabletelling each other how worthless everyone is....then you have a contest and always lose.) 
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
heh, i'd call that an anti-semitic remark, buu....if i didnt know you better.


I don't know her at all...so thats how I see it.
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
KarmaGirl: I think people find fault with other people because they're not tending to their own life!!! If they took care of their own problems, gave of themselves through charity work, volunteering, and made sure they were being as loving and kind as they could, they'd have zero time for critizing others. I also think that they publicize the criticism of others to boost their sagging egos, and because they have a mean spirit born of a profound dissapointment in life, which they alone could change, were they mature enough!!!
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top

I don't know her at all...so thats how I see it.

Messy Buu is a "he" and I don't think he meant it like that at all.  I think that he was saying that because Mr. Hubbins looks at all non-Christians as "heathens". 

Trudygolightly, if that is truly the case, then we have a lot of people who have a profound disappointment in life. 

As a moderator, it becomes extremely frustrating.  One one hand, you have people who complain about the "nastiness" on the site.  On the other hand, you have people who cry "censorship" any time that we try to control the nasty content.  You can't win.  I just wish that people could show a bit more self moderation and keep their attacks off the forum so that I (and others who feel the same) don't have to see them.

Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks for the clarification Karma...
As far as "not winning", I personally think you are doing a great job and have said so many times.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks, Manopeace- I really do appreciate it!
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
Faith in the future of mankind. Sometimes I wonder how we survived this long without destoying ourselves. It seems to be a cosmic joke that this sentience we're given. The technological tools we invent and how often we misuse. In Joe User people post about how awfull and horrible someone else's viewpoints are and how flawed they are, while the difference in opinion can vary from huge to a very narrow shade.

I have seen the admins here and I do have to say they are pretty easy going when it comes to what people post and say. I don't see a censorship from rational posts. I guess when you have hate spewing you can't behave rationally. I think those people need a time out. That's what I'd do to a child who was misbehaving.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top

Karma,


I tend to agree. I've tried to tread the very fine line on this one, as I see some folks that I truly enjoy on JU who have gotten caught up in the whole ordeal, while I have nothing wrong with the individual in question (jilluser's comments on how to take that particular person from many months ago helped immensely in understanding him). But, then, I don't stand in a moderator's shoes and get the additional pleas to "do something", and don't envy you in that area.


By the way, if I don't find another of your blogs to respond to before Saturday, may you and yours have a VERY blessed Christmas!

Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top

Karma, you do an awesome job moderating, and don't let anyone tell you any different.  I can appreciate how hard it must be....there are some people who consistently push the envelope when it comes to rules and TOS.  They walk on the edge all the time, not quite violating the TOS......so there's not much you can do as far as warning/banning goes.

I just think that nastiness breeds nastiness (talking from experience here).  Anymore I try to just shut up if I can't find anything nice/productive to say.

Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
I just think that nastiness breeds nastiness (talking from experience here).


I was never nasty to anyone till I met some of the ex losers from here.
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
I just think that nastiness breeds nastiness (talking from experience here).


I was never nasty to anyone till I met some of the ex losers from here.
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am totally clueless this time around, and I have every intention of KEEPING it that way!!  I'm beginning to think I just want to post my articles and stay away from most of the rest of the site, so as to not be tempted to get into the midst of this feud or that fight.....
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
Unless you get emotional satisfaction out of it, why do it?


Some of those guys went past the stage of tolerable...there was/is no other way to deal with them.
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top

get immense satisfaction when a deserving person gets their just desserts, but as I can admit to it, I can admit it is wrong..but boy does it feel so good.


I know what you mean.  I don't like being nasty, it wears on my emotions.  I don't like people being nasty to me, that takes a toll too.  Even being nasty to someone who's consistently been mean/rude/spiteful to me bothers me.


The only reason for nastiness for no reason I can come up with is that it feeds their ego.  They can have the last word; they get a feeling of one-uppance.  They enjoy making other people feel small and worthless, they get off on hurting others.  They're bullies, basically.  Egotistical, self centered, vain, posturing, narcissistic bullies.