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Why do some people have to be difficult?

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For the last twelve years I've been going in my local pub every Friday for a game of cards and a few beers. It's a nice group and we have a great night. About six months ago, someone new joined us, herein referred to as 'D' - no problem, all are welcome. But he has PC problems, basic ones. A while back I went and sorted his PC for him, which I don't mind doing for anyone. However, he has yet more PC problems, and now believes I am his own personal PC World Three weeks ago he asked me to spend Saturday morning fixing his PC - I said no. He got really angry and said this isn't what friends are for, now we know where we stand etc etc. We've not spoken since then. Some of the others have expressed their concern about his behaviour. I've said, not to worry and to forget about it. It's not worth the trouble.

Last Friday 'D' invited a couple of friends, and ordered a full spread of food, sandwiches etc for everyone. However, he said the food was for everyone except me...! No problem, I wouldn't touch it anyway.

Then, to my surprise, not one of our group touched the food. In fact, one of my friends got up and told 'D' to his face that if one of his friends was excluded, then he was excluded too, and that he could keep the food. This guy 'D' was then left with a dozen trays of food, and no-one to eat it!

I didn't ask for any of this. I prefer to stay out of the way, mind my own business and not get involved in any aggro. But somehow it has been thrust upon me.

It was a great feeling to find out everyone was behind me. I won't forget that - that's what real friends do. I think this 'D' needs to learn something about friends, because he appears to have none right now .

I now have until next Friday to decide what to do. 'D' needs to be sorted. The last few weeks you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. I'm not putting up with him upsetting everyone like this. It's not in my nature to seek confrontation, but I'm afraid for everyone's sake, I'm going to have to do what's necessary.

Suggestions of a non-violent nature welcome
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Reply #26 from WinCustomize Forums Top
This is why you should never help people with their computers


Truer words hath never been spoken. It is so aggrevating when people take thier PC's too seriously. It's not like you turned down a date with his sister or something.

Hey...wait a minute...maybe that's the answer...find his sister and start dating her and turn her against her mono minded brother!

Better still...do you know his mom?
Reply #27 from WinCustomize Forums Top
I just wouldn't let the guy single you out for his frustrations. I have a girl friend who was exactly the same way. She got real angry and even stopped talking to me for awhile, because I wouldn't come over and spend another whole day sorting out her PC problems. Luckily for her, I wrote everything down and she eventually sorted it out herself. When she calmed down, she called me because she had questions about the notes I wrote for her on notepad. Then, she realized that I had a life too (somewhat), and now everything is fine.

I think he made a big mistake in trying to single you out. Luckily, my problem was a female and getting physical was no option. But, with guys, and drinking, it can get ugly. But, I would not let anything physical start over a PC problem. That is too silly. No matter how much he drinks, he can't start anything if you don't answer.

I would just tell him that the first time was free because you did consider him a friend. But, if he needs you to spend another whole day, he needs to take out his wallet. Or, give him your email address if he has minor issues. Once that is said, he has his options. Further discussion about your level of friendship is nothing more than someone trying to start trouble out of their frustrations, and I just wouldn't answer. Good luck.
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Reply #28 from WinCustomize Forums Top
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Reply #29 from WinCustomize Forums Top
I would tell him that his company and friendship are not wanted and that he needs to just move on.


I definitely wouldn't do this myself. This is inviting him to personal confrontation and you are singling yourself out as the object of all his personal or PC frustrations. Wisdom and knowledge are the key for me in such situations. Being wise not to go to jail with the knowledge that you could kill. I personally studied the art of self defense not the art of provocation. No offense to Satans Child intended, just my opinion.
Reply #30 from WinCustomize Forums Top
It owuld appear that the situation has already been dealt with. The "getting angry over not fixing his machine"-thing started it. The food incident was the confrontation.

The conclusion any sane person would derive from it, is that your friends stand behind you and his petty divide and conquer tactics are backfiring on him. Case closed.

Ofcourse, if he's that socially inept not to notice this, homicide's always an option.
Reply #31 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Tell him you belong to the Skilled Barterer's Union, and that you will be expecting your work from him this Friday! Prolly never see the guy again....
Reply #32 from WinCustomize Forums Top
I'd simply tell the guy to call the 800 number that provides help for his PC and let them deal with him. You don't owe this guy anything and you need to remind him the difference between friends and aquaintances. If all else fails...listen to Jafo.



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Reply #33 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Just tell him you are experiencing amnesia, and cannot remember a) who he is, and b) how to fix computers.
Reply #34 from WinCustomize Forums Top

He wasn't grateful the first time I fixed it. I had to clear out several old ISPs, set up a new one, reconfigure his mail settings, edit the registry, clear out years of junk etc etc. Spent about three hours getting the whole rig running as smooth as possible! The following week he announced that he'd like to go back to his old ISP and would I do it for him...grrr.

As for his current problem - I've already explained what to do. I thought that was enough! Apparently not...

Reply #35 from WinCustomize Forums Top
OK...you have my vote.......

.......kill him
Reply #36 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Thinking about the shotgun idea....forgot about the little rule you guys have about guns.....so I'd just get a large blunt object and bludgeon him
Reply #37 from WinCustomize Forums Top
A while back I went and sorted his PC for him, which I don't mind doing for anyone. However, he has yet more PC problems, and now believes I am his own personal PC World Three weeks ago he asked me to spend Saturday morning fixing his PC - I said no.



I don't really have any advice but I definitely sympathize. I'm "the computer person" among my friends and while I don't mind for the most part, it can get old with an inconsiderate "friend". In fact this is the main reason I stopped building custom PCs for friends/family.I got fed up with crap like 1AM phone calls because AOL wasn't working. (I am not kidding either.) Would you ask your doctor over for some free weekend surgery?

Anyway good luck, I hope you get things sorted. That is heartwarming that your other friends supported you about the food thing.
Reply #38 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Well, there you have it Fuzzy....it's unanimous.......

Kill the SOB
Reply #39 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Although, Essencay may be right...

.....while the result is the same, ''''bludgeon'''' sounds more humane





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Reply #40 from WinCustomize Forums Top
I won't even attempt it anymore...



kinda pointless in the end...
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Reply #42 from WinCustomize Forums Top
He wasn''t grateful the first time I fixed it. I had to clear out several old ISPs, set up a new one, reconfigure his mail settings, edit the registry, clear out years of junk etc etc. Spent about three hours getting the whole rig running as smooth as possible! The following week he announced that he''d like to go back to his old ISP and would I do it for him...grrr.As for his current problem - I''ve already explained what to do. I thought that was enough! Apparently not...


Three hours? And no appreciation? What a pal.

I had another "friend" have me over to spend a few hours cleaning the latest virus off his PC awhile back. Two weeks later, same call. Apparently he''d turned off the free AV I installed because "it was slow". Of course he never elaborated on who or what was "slow" but I don''t think it was the PC.





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Reply #43 from WinCustomize Forums Top
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Reply #44 from WinCustomize Forums Top
I think it's wonderful that your friends ALL rejected his food. It's D's problem now, because obviously his war with you has caused him to lose face with everyone. If he comes and apologizes to everyone, then perhaps the group will accept him back. I kind of doubt it, because it's all too strange really. But the ball is in his court, and I wouldn't approach him. Just my 2 cents.
Reply #45 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Jeez. I had that problem before. After the third time, I simply dodged with "other appointments", etc.

Only one I put up with that is my own mom and sister. Usually, my sis pays me by going out eat and paying for me.
Reply #46 from WinCustomize Forums Top
The following week he announced that he'd like to go back to his old ISP and would I do it for him...grrr.


And the week after, he'll want to go back to the other one again. Sheesh.

But the ball is in his court, and I wouldn't approach him. Just my 2 cents.


I'll add a couple of sense too.
Reply #47 from WinCustomize Forums Top
So whens you first date Fuzzy?(or didnt you follow my advice?)
Reply #48 from WinCustomize Forums Top
....Brainy....we need to talk
Reply #49 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Hey Fuzzy, just tell him that you're too busy with you're new "management position" on a massive web site, and cannot make time to help him.
Reply #50 from WinCustomize Forums Top
fuzzy i just want to congratulate you for the choice of your friends. those are real friends.. i could never count on my group to stick up for me like that. i think you've got enough here to go on, so just let us know how it turns out.