More Stupid People!
The unfortunate thing about today's world, as with our grandfathers, and their great grandfathers, is that within this mix of current events are thrown idealisms of religion and politics. The irony is that these idealisms that people throughout the world hold so dear, are also what hold us back. They dumb people down, and in this mad rush for some to jump onto the bandwagon so as not to be seen as "different" by their social groups, they leave their own ability to form independent thought back down that dark and dreary road that they fear having to travel alone.
I wonder how it actually happened. When I was a child every adult around me wanted me to decide for myself. A teacher would look at me for the answer, or a different perception on her question, but no matter how long I remained silent, she never gave me even the slightest hint of an answer. In American society this is how individualism came to exist. Rather than being told what to think American children were made to think independently of our peer groups and our elders.
Now as an adult I am left baffled by this absolute obsession of some to FORCE this conformist mainstream on the rest. There are tons of things that really boggle the mind, but this particular one worries me. There was this saying when I was growing up, Lead, Follow, or Get Out of the Way. The Follow seems to be the most popular format in today's societies. Its incredible given the level of diversity experienced in the world today. Its like a street filled with life and color has suddenly turned gray, everyone saying the same thing, acting the same way, boring and predictable.
The Lead has become rare. I suppose the reason why the Lead position is not so eagerly sought by people today is fear. In some countries if you do attempt to Lead you could be stoned, but in most countries what is the risk involved in breaking the monotony and putting forth your own personal contribution?
This literally applies to everything in today's world, from our daily lives, to our response to social pressures, to our views on current events. And why is it that when one person does take the lead, droves are so eager to follow?
I have been in all three positions thus far in my life, which is pretty good because I am still in my early 30s, and that means that I have learned a lot from the life I have lived so far.
The Lead position is the toughest, I know it well, and its difficult. You can be absorbed by fears of failure, of letting someone down, and even worse, of being wrong. This is a great deal of responsibility to take.
The Follow position instinctively feels like the safest, but once you are on the band wagon and feeling accepted by the group you seek to be a part of, you are also leaving a part of yourself behind. I haven't figured out all that is tied up in that package of you tossed by the wayside, but I do know that some of it you never get back, and the rest of what you lose you have to fight like hell to get back. Strength, the ability to assert yourself rather than fall to passive aggression, you lose the core of your personal character.
Get Out of the Way is the safest position. It is also only easier than the Lead position. To get out of the way you are stepping back and deciding to go your own way. Your peer group will accuse you of being "out of touch" because you just choose not to be a part of it. People will think you are apathetic, or don't care, they might even accuse you of being ignorant, spoiled or lazy for not going along with them. In reality what you have done is separated yourself from the followers. You have also added to your character because in learning to get out of the way, you have given yourself the empowerment you may one day need to Lead.