Someone broke into my house last nite

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:( It sux. I was sleeping upstairs with my bedroom door locked. Luckily otherwise i dont what would have happened if they had come in my room. I dont even have a baseball under my bed like Texas Wahine :(

Darren is in Australia, my phone has no credit, i really dont know what would happened, and i'd rather not think about it too much.

They didnt steal anything. There really was nothing to steal, except from clothes, food, shoes, and heavy furniture. All the cupboards in the kitchen were open. In the laundry too. The front door was open as well as the window. They took the window shutter out and took the glass out. That's how they stepped in. My landlord is taking care of putting everything back in place.

But i dont want to stay there tonight. I'm gonna stay at some friend's house for the week end.

Then i told darren, and he seemed to take it so lightly like it was no big deal. And then he asked if i lied to him about his ex coming back. I mean HELLO!!! I COULD HAVE GOT HURT LAST NITE, DO YOU CARE!??

I am so overwhelmed with a thousand feelings i cant name, i feel like hitting something or breaking a very heavy vase...

Just when i was feeling better, this happens to me.

I must have upsetted God in my previous life and he is punishing me for it now.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh, Island, I'm so sorry to hear about this. But please don't blame yourself. I know it is hard not to play the 'it must be my fault because...' game, but really the only fault lies with the person or people who broke into your place. Be thankful nothing was taken and you weren't hurt.

As for D - without knowing him, I can't really defend his actions except to say he must be missing you terribly. I'll let you in on a little secret - most men cope with strong emotions by attacking those they love the most. I wouldn't be surprised if this is why D reacted the way he did. But then, I have been known to be completely wrong on the odd occasion

Cheers,

Maso
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Maso- you know at the beginning i was starting to blame myself, and after analizing i thought heck i couldnt have seen it coming!
As for D, i dont know, i really feel like saying F.O to him. The way he reacted really hurt me, i wonder if he's not doing it in purpose so i can send him on his way & he can be free again. I wish he'd just say it to my face, damn!

(sorry for the language i'm a bit cranky right now)
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
You could always ask Darren if that's what he wants, by the sounds of it it couldn't make things much worse. I am glad that you weren't hurt and nothing was taken. Maybe you should get yourself a baseball bat or similar blunt object? If you don't feel safe at home by all means spend a few nights somewhere else, with friends and/or family. And being cranky is completly understandable.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Don't blame your boyfriend too much based on this alone. There's a marked difference between men and women. Women are more likely to dwell on what MIGHT be and COULD have happened. Men are more interested in what IS. If it DIDN'T happen then why worry about it? - would be his opinion.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
That is awful. My apartment was broken into 6 years ago and it was just such a creepy feeling. I wasn't home when it happened but my husband was. They took our TV and VCR. Make sure to have the locks checked and I would try to get your phone going just in case but chances are if they came in and didn't find anything valuable they won't be back.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Of course you couldn't see it coming and I'm really glad to hear you thinking like this. It is bloody awful to having your privacy invaded (I too have been broken into a number of times) but if you let the bastards get to you, then they've won.

You have every right to be cranky and I'm not the slightest bit offended by bad language (if I was I'd be constantly offending myself). As I said earlier, I can't really comment on D's motives as I don't know him. I hope I'm right when I say it is perhaps a knee-jerk reaction to him missing you heaps. You should let him know as soon as possible how he hurt you. To let something like that fester is to invite heartache, something I'm sure you don't deserve.

Cheers,

Maso
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am so sorry for your scare, it is liked being violated. having your home robbed {intruded} New locks? maybe window locks too? be well and I hope the person that violated your home rots in hell.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank you to all of you for stopping by.

Danny - i was thinking i might ask Santa Clause for a gun this Christmas... Who cares about licence?! mwahahah! Oh and yeah i'm gonna spend the weekend at a friend's house. So that's good.

Frightlever - you know, i really hope you are right. We had the conversation on msn when we had that argument. He called at lunch to apologize but i was still so angry i just said i was busy and i didnt wanna talk to him anyway after what happened. So he smsed again this afternoon saying 'so sorry to talk about that shit emilia. Specially since your already stressed from the break in & stuff pls dont be too angry at me. I got u somthing 2day:)'. Ggggrrrrrr! he's driving me to the edge. What does he think?? that he's gonna buy something and i'll forgive him like that??!!!! I'm not a f***ing sl*t!!!

Locamama - my landlord is replacing the shutters and the windows. It's ok i found the keys so i dont think we have to worry too much about changing the locks. Thanks for mentioning it though.

maso- thank you so much, it's good to know you understand what i'm going thru And well heartache, not yet. I'm too angry to be heartbroken. It'll come later...

Moderateman - yeah i hope he rots in hell too, bastard. Hehe... But yeah i was thinking about it today and violated is exactly the word i was looking for.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Island - maintain the rage but accept any peace offerings, if only as ammunition to throw back at him. Hopefully, it won't come to this. I will send you all the good vibes I can muster. Have a great weekend.

Cheers,

Maso
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank you maso. And yeah ok, i'll try not to be to much of a bitch if he apologises once more. But he really made a bad move... If any one else wants to send good vibes or prayers i'm takin them all... I need them, I need you guys now more than ever i think
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think you have to decide if you want to continue things with him. If you don't, well it seems you got an opportunity to let him go now. If you do, well then you've got some things to talk about. Your the only one in a position to know whats going on, and you have to live with whatever happens. Having said that, I wish you well, and hope that things work out for the best (whatever that ends up being). Hope I don't come across as too lecturing or anything like that.
And remember, look on the bright side, you get to spend the weekend with some friends instead of at home alone
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Island, I am terribly sorry about your violation. My home has been burglarized several times in my laugh and it is the creepiest feeling. It seems like your sacred, safe place is tainted. Definitely stay at someone else's house for a few days to ease your discomfort.

My opinion is incredibly biased as I have a liking to you and don't know anything about D, but I am thinking you deserve much better than what he seems to be giving you at the moment. Your b/f should make you feel secure, beautiful, and loved. I haven't seen him offerring you one of those three much less all of them. I would do some serious contemplating why exactly you are with him. What does he offer you?

Be safe and hugs,
Heather
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Danny - Dont worry i appreciate your comments alot, and i never take it as a lecture I dont know what i want right now, so that's abit of a problem isnt it?... He has been sending sms's the whole weekend asking for forgiveness and asking if i was ok. I didnt answer any of them. He tried to call too. But the call didnt get through. He comes back tomorrow. I terribly miss him, but i dont know if i want to see him again. Maybe i should. I've given him heaps of chances before, i dont know if i should keep going. There will be another time when he'll hurt me again. I'll see what happens. Dont worry, i'll keep you in the loop.
As for the weekend it was great! We had a really good time and i could forget all my little worries for a couple of days. But now its back to work time!

Heather- Well like i said i spend the weekend away. Last night was my 1st nite over after the burglary. My landlord put a security guard, so i felt a bit safer. But i couldnt help & wake up to every little awkward sounds. I'm sure tonite will be better i just need to tell myself i'll be fine
As for my bf, i understand your opinion. I wouldnt want to paint an awful portrait of him when he actually has heaps of qualities that charmed me in the 1st place. He is funny, cooks for me, always tries to make it better one when i'm down, takes care of me. I think the main reason i'm stayin with him is because my heart is ruling my head. He isnt my first serious relationship. I stayed with my 1st boyfriend for 4 years. But he is my first one, hum, if you see what i mean... The only black spot is his exgirlfriend I'm not saying she is a pain, absolutely not. He is the one with a problem.