several years ago, my brother-in-law (who was also one of my closest friends for many years) was diagnosed with a very aggressive case of bladder cancer. altho it was detected nearly as soon as it became symptomatic and received exceptional care by a team of experienced, skillful doctors, within 9 months a relatively young, very strong (the kinda guy who was naturally well-muscled) man could have easily been mistaken for a concentration camp victim. his last few days were clearly very painful and i kept hoping someone would accidentally triple his pain meds.
i recently spent two weeks watching another relative go from seriously ill to 'improved' thanks to a tracheotomy and stomach intubation that left him unable to speak. it was nearly impossible to tell when or if he was lucid (all of this complicated by alzheimers). he would continually draw his legs up and then relax them...whether in pain or just some sorta reflexive thing was impossible to determine. because he was no longer 'critical' he was returned to a nursing home, a room shared by three strangers who were also totally dependendt, unable to communicate and about whom the best one could say was they were alive--altho that's giving best a very wide latitude. several days later--after enduring the best care insurance could buy--he died. at best he endured 17 days of fear, pain and near-total loss of dignity. altho id previously had difficulty dealing with open casket services (when i personally knew the decedent), this time it wasnt a totally unpleasant experience because i could clearly see none of the signs of torment hed exhibited while still alive.
perhaps im being too subjective or permitting two extremely horrific experiences to cloud my thinking, but just as life isnt always what it should be, neither is death. should a newborn who is clearly suffering and will clearly not survive on its own be forced to suffer needlessly? are infants somehow immune to the type of pain adults experience? someone please try to explain to me why or how this is in any way noble, moral or demonstrates a respect for life.