They cheated on you, how do you deal with it??????

You're right. If you weren't together, he didn't really cheat. He just hurt you. I don't think you have to worry about whether to forgive or leave before you decide if you'll be able to heal or not. It's really about what you feel, not what he did. Is this a pattern with him? If he has hurt you like this in the past, or tends to disreguard your feelings, I would think twice about being with this guy. Even though you wren't together, he had to know that hooking up with someone else would hurt you.

Reminds me of the episode were the phrase "we were on a break!" was born!

Leaping Lizard:
Yes he definetely knew he would hurt me. And i gave him hell for that... But i love him. I know, i must be stupid. I just hope n pray it doesnt happen again.

wuxiaomao:
aaah! 'we were on a break' and they use that one as an excuse so much, dont they?! haha

...How many times is he going say to you ..."We need a break" ??

Seems like he might have just been looking for that excuse to play around. I Don't care for excuses ...he knows he hurt you by doing it.
If he tries using that ol' chestnut again, then a pattern is forming.
Boot him if it does ...it'll only end in tears...

But i love him. I know, i must be stupid.

...nope, just human.

Non tu n'es pas stupide, juste une femme qui aime un mec qui donne des coups de canif dans le contrat

Reminds me of the episode were the phrase "we were on a break!" was born

dammit stop reading my mind in advance hahahahaha

Wreckless: I'll make sure he doesnt 'take a break' again. Thank you for your comment.

Gar: C'est nul hein, j'ai l'impression de tomber que sur des gros profiteurs Mais si jamais il me ressort cette feignte, je promets qu'il se ramasse un coup de botte et un Adios!

Kingbee: Hehehe

Au fait, rien ne vaut un homme qu'un ... autre homme. Pour le reste l'institution du couple/mariage ne sied pas aux mammifères que nous sommes . C'est incompatible !! voyons ....(ce sera le sujet de mon nouveau post )

Gar! Dépêche toi de l'écrire ce post!!!!!!!! hahaha

Mais bon courage à moi même pour trouver un autre homme (GROS SOUPIR DE DESESPOIR - non là j'exagère )

Dis-moi où est-ce que tu as appris le français ? n'es-tu pas tentée de bloguer dans cette langue?

J'ai appris le français au Costa Rica, aussi surprenant que cela puisse paraître. Je t'explique tout ça dans un article en français qu'est ce que t'en penses?

vivement alors !!!!
je serai le premier à te lire et, à l'occasion , à te commenter ... je sens que tu feras an authentic french_speaker blogger !!!!

Hahaha! ok je m'y mets tout de suite alors !!

s'il le faut, je t'attendrai alors ... il est déjà 22 heures 20' à l'heure qu'il est chez nous ...

Voilà voilà! mon article est prêt il est sous le thème blog. Dis donc il est tard chez toi!! ici il est 10 heures mais du matin! Au fait t'habite où? bon ben je te laisse lire

Oh...all french?? Now I have to work so hard to read....

ll

If, while you were broke up, some hottie had asked you out, would YOU have done so? What would you have done in his circumstances? Just curious...

Sorry Leaping Lezard

Shovelheat I was too broken hearted to even think about looking at hotties... Maybe if the "break "had lasted a bit longer i would have played around too? i dont know

A couple of thoughts...

First - The fact that he "was with someone else" and that "it happened after we broke up" certainly bares some looking into. If your relationship together was meaningful for him, why would he find someone else so fast, and, since you are "back together" again isn't there at least one other person wondering why he dumped her? Sounds like your boyfriend has a commitment problem. Does he expect your relationship to be perfect, without conflict or disagreement? What is he searching for that he can't seem to find in you?

Second - Whatever caused the exodus from the relationship had better be looked into. What could possibly drive the two of you apart if you both are committed? The answer, of course, is nothing. Obviously, your relationship together has some unbreachable boundries. Once these boundries are crossed, it's time to go. This is not a good invironment for unconditional love.

Perhaps you should re-evaluate your personal ground rules for a relationship together with your friend. It's a good idea to talk, it brings safety, understanding, and trust.

Don
www.gobbleblog.com

Don i think you are asking the right questions here. Yes he has commitment problems. He broke up with his girlfriend (the one before me) because she had cheated on him. They tried to make it work, but after a couple of months he left. That's when he met me. And after a couple of weeks we were a couple. But i think he wasnt over his ex yet, and he was feeling unsecure about our relationship. That's when he asked for the 'break'. So i told him, maybe we should just break up altogether, since i didnt seem to make him happy. And as much as it hurt me, i let him go.

I dont know about this time. I am preparing myself to a possible break up again even though everything is going just fine and has been going like that for months now. But i always told myself that when things are going to good, beware because something will strike very soon:(