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Sex should wait...

from JoeUser Forums
Virginity has to be the most lightly taken subject in the whole world! People use it as many times as they go to the flipping bathroom! People think that it isn’t special and that you don’t have to wait until marriage, but I think you should.

Your virginity (this is all in my opinion), is having the most intimate act with someone that you care about more than the world. And, you don’t know you love someone that much until you know that you want to marry them, and spend the rest of forever with them. So that is my reason I think it should wait until after marriage.

Loosing your virginity is supposed to be more than just a “physical act” during sex, it is suppose to be an emotional scene where you are giving your greatest gift to someone you love.

How can anyone say, “It doesn’t matter if you’re married or not.”? How can you have sex, and not TRULY mean it?… That, is a big question.

I am going to be a virgin until I am married. And I was a little weary of my decision a few months ago and I almost gave into pressure, but now that I know my closest friends AND boyfriend think the same thing about virginity, and I can’t be more happier. Because with my friends, I don’t feel pressured to do anything… I can be myself. And I know they will all respect my decision, just as much as I respect theirs. And THAT is also another sign of good friends, that I never ever want to lose! : D

Sam
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
While I agree with you DeeDee...I think that us women tend to romanticize things...we watch too many chick flicks.

I'm 24...I'm waiting till I marry too...and I know it's going to be emotional, but it's not like the movies...and I think alot of us end up disappointed when its not.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

and I think alot of us end up disappointed when its not.


Marcie, you know what you said about trying to be more experienced and mature?....you showed remarkable maturity with that statement.  Whatever you're doing, keep it up!


I can honestly say that (while I don't have many regrets and wouldn't change much about my life thus far) if I had the opportunity to do it all over again I'd want my husband to be my first.

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I so totally agree with you Sam. You shouldn't just go giving your virginity to some guy that might not even really care about you, or maybe just wanted you for the sex. You should wait till you're married. Good article Sam! Keep it up!

~carebear~
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Grr...my virginity....back off!........uh, I guess I can agree....well my brain can....hormones have different ideas....little microscopic bastards...

Good article,
~Zoo

P.S. "Sex can wait, masturbate!" That's from the two cheerleaders on SNL.....heh heh
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Sex can wait, masturbate!" That's from the two cheerleaders on SNL.....heh heh


Ew...that's so disgusting Shaun!!!

~carebear~
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ew...that's so disgusting Shaun!!!


Hey, I didn't make it up, you know.....I just regurgitated it....

~Zoo
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
How can you have sex, and not TRULY mean it?…


I am of the opinion that you don't have to be married to love some one. That piece of paper that you receive as a result of spending way to much time and money organizing and planning a wedding does not make you any more, or any less in love than you were the day before.

What about all those people who waited until they were married, and then got divorced?

Everyone needs to decide what is right for them, not rely on society, the church, your parents, or your friends to make your important decisions for you.

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top

shadesofgrey, that is a nice perspective.  My husband and I got married mainly because his family was having a fit over us "living in sin".  We had committed ourselves to each other long before that, though.  Being "married" changed nothing in our relationship. 

And, Marcie, you are right- don't think that there is going to be some magical, crazy change in your life the first time you have sex with your husband, as you may have a real let down.  You ever hear that term "practice makes perfect"?  Just keep that in mind, and don't put too much pressure on yourself on your wedding night, especially if you are both virgins.