Help!

I need advise

from JoeUser Forums
Sometimes, don’t you feel as though here is nothing you can do… you try and try and no one will understand.

I am a sophomore in high school, and I just turned 15 within the last week. I have the most amazing boyfriend who happens to be a senior…

Last night at the football game, Alex took me to meet his parents. It was one of the most nerve-wracking things I have ever gone through. I thought that they wouldn’t like me, and they would think that I am not good enough for Alex. While we walking to the stands, I told Alex, “Alex, I feel like I am going to vomit…” (But just for everyone’s information I didn’t). I met his mom, and she was absolutely awesome. She was extremely nice… and the only thing that made me uncomfortable was getting in front of everyone else’s view from watching the game. Then I met his dad walking back, he was also very nice. He looked a lot like Alex, and that was kind of creepy.

Now, I got home and that was the first thing that I told my mom. I was so excited! But my mom lashed back and said, “I don’t care if you met his parents, you are not going to ever have dinner with him and you are NOT going to prom!!!!” I told her, “What if his mom talked to you?” She replied, “Ok, we will talk… about how you are not to go anywhere with him.” I don’t know why she acts like that... doesn’t she know that it upsets me so much? I told her that I didn’t want to talk to her then went to bed and cried. I don’t know why she backlashed like that, it might be because of my brother (They had to take him to the emergency room, he has Crone’s Disease), or it might be that she wants to control my life all the way up until I am 18. I wish she would let me go just a little bit...

I don’t know what to do, I need advise. How can I let my mom understand that I care about him more than anything? I want to go to his house to have dinner (His dad invited me) and go to prom with him.


Lost and confused
Sam
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Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Sam, I know you hate it. I do to. I'm not allowed to date until im 16. I got about six and a half months. My mom won't even let me go to the mall if some guy friends are there. And you know how sometimes I ride with Brandon in his car. Well, if she found out she'd kill me. She thinks that he'd rape me or something. And you know how Brandon is. He wouldn't hurt a fly. I mean, he hasn't even madeout with anyone yet. But I know exactly what you're going through. I'm basically going through the same thing. Well except that my mom is going to let me go to prom this year if I get asked. My mom also told me that if I had a boyfriend she'd rather it not be a senior. She says I need to concentrate on school rather than a boyfriend. I know our moms aren't totally the same. But basically they are. I'm to the point of where I don't really think my mom cares that I have a boyfriend, but I"m just not allowed to go anywhere or do anything with them. I'm pretty sure she eventually found out that me and Alex were going out when we did. But I think it's only because she goes to every source possible. For example...reading notes that she finds if I accidently leave them in my jean pockets. I'm also not supposed to ride in a car w/ a guy until im 16. I told my mom I'd be driving then and then she told me that that was her point. But I guess my advise is, you should follow your heart. And maybe you shouldn't tell your mom everything. I know it may seem wrong, but hey, then you wouldn't get in as much trouble. And it's not like its a sin you're gonna go to hell for. But i won't get into that matter. So I hope I helped you. And if you need anything you got my number, just give me a ring! *hugs Sam*

lylas

~carebear~
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Aren't his parents awesome?! His mom's a momly mom all the way and his dad is almost too nice to "visitors".

Just be patient queerbeast! If I know Al like I think I do he'll wait for you. Maybe I don't but I couldn't just tell you there's no chance he'd wait...

Capt. over and out!
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank you guys so much. And thank you Helix, i know that you went through the whole speach about how i am to young. Maybe i am. I had my first kiss a week after my 14th birthday, with a senior boy on the band bus. I have only kissed 2 guys, and have now only had two boyfriends. I refuse to have sex before marriage, so does Alex. And, i dont know.... maybe i just need to think things through.

Thanks
Sam
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
its natural 4 this age, so take ur time, b composed. everyones right in his/her own view, and no ones ur enemy. b rational and c how things unfold. its pure physical and emotional growing-up, so u shud take time 2 understand ur mothers emotions too! She has passed thru this stage and knows better, 4 more b in touch at [email protected]. love, bye
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Wow Sam, now it really seems like we're on the same boat!

~carebear~
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hmm....that sucks....I'd have to agree stress is a factor in your mom being like that.....I'm not sure what to do. I know Alex will wait for you.....he definately will, and I know, wholeheartedly that he will not take advantage of you in anyway as Helix may have implied.....trust me, you guys are perfect for eachother......I guess my only advice is to try and talk with your mom, somehow...not quite sure how that might turn out.....but, good luck just the same....

~Zoo
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks Zoo!

I really like you guys giving me advice on this, it helps out a lot. Although, when i talk to my mom she kinda shuts me out, and doesnt listen to my side of the story. But oh well. There's really nothing you can do.

That's awesome! Me and Ashley are in the same boat! That's hot!

Sam
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Unfortunatly for me, I may be moving out of state after I graduate to go to a premier Pharmacy school. I don't want to tie Sam up for her last two years of highschool so we can have a long distance relationship. Thats not fair for her.

And no, Helix, I'm not looking for sex. Sex is something I don't even think about, except to say that i'm saving myself for marriage. I, unlike some people, do have self-control.

The sad thing is, I really do want to go to my Senior prom with Sam. I don't know what to say, except that I want to go to Prom with her. It doesn't look possible, though.

I'll stick with you Sam,

Love,
Alex
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Well I would hope that you wouldn't want to have sex! I mean gosh......well you know how that is...lol. I'm just messing around with you Alex. Yeah, me and Sam are sitting here in the computer lab for biology and I read what you just put yesterday. I just thought it would be funny to put something like that on here, since I'm so mean and all like some people say I am! *cough*Alex*cough*

Ya know I luv ya though!

~carebear~
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
It's ok alex i know that same wants to stay with you as long as possible. I know you like her too and that is nice to know all that. Also i believe you about the whole sex thing.

~blondelife~