Don't Flatter Yourself
We have standards too
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I so need to rant and rave about this. Way too many times, like today, I had to hear the most annoying thing ever. I can't stand homophobia. I can't stand generalizations. And most of all, I absolutely hate when people flatter themselves.
Ever hear someone's reaction when they find out a person is gay? Here's the conversation: "Did you hear so and so is gay?" "Really? Keep him the hell away from me." That's what I mean by flattery. Hey, please, just because the person is gay and you are the same sex, doesn't mean that you are immediately the person they will persue. It could be the most dirty, toothless, mullet and you could still hear that person say that! Gay people have standards just like straight people, which not always is the case, but you get what I mean. Gay people don't just start running at all of the people of the same sex. They choose partners like everyone else. so don't worry, you aren't in any danger. I don't get the discomfort and defensive behaviour of people when a person is "outed." So what. Nothing changes. What makes you think that now you know that they are gay, they are going after you? Making that assumption is just you embarassing yourself.
Bisexual has the same problem, perhaps worse. See, people just assume that bisexual equals promiscuity. The "Anything that moves" mentality. I have dated way less partners than most straight people. Now, granted, this is not always the case for everyone, but those generalizations make us all look like out of control, unselective, and raging full of STD because we will have sex with anyone.
The truth is, dating is the same for any "preference." We all are attracted to someone, decide to persue, and see what happens. Same process. This is why I just don't get homophobes. We are all into the same thing. We should be high fiving each other.
Here is me and some true honesty: I have always been aware of my bisexuality. Let's explain this...okay, not in an experimental stage, not I kinda like girls too, not I had a drunk kiss once, or I had a one time threesome in college to make a boyfriend happy. I mean I am attracted to women equally to men. I can fall in love with either just the same, and I have. Since I was a five year old child I knew that, as my first puppy love crush was on my female teenage counselor. I date women the same as men. The women who are not attracted to other women, I leave alone. Just like a guy who is not interested. Why persue? See? like anyone else, I choose some one based on attraction, a series of considerations of traits I find important to have, why I am interested and if they are interested. Bisexual doesn't mean I think, "Oh my god! That person has sexual organs! I want whoever they hell they are! and them, and them too!" I hate that crap. I don't live a wild orgy lifestyle. I go to work and pay my bills.
The question is which begot which: because it is taboo, people have a hard time accepting this or because it is hard to accept, it is taboo. Why do laws and religion have to impose so much on who we love and who we have sex with? I don't get why in some states I could marry who I want and some I cannot. I don't get why I will live a happy, righteous life for loving one person and go to hell and should not show my face at church for loving another. and why the hell is it anyone's business? Someone who I am not having sex with should have no concern with my preference. Meaning everyone else. My mom, the catholic community, my coworkers.
I don't tell everyone that I like both men and women. It's not appropriate. No one really introduces themselves as heterosexual, so why should I? And just because you meet me, doesn't mean I am interested in you sexually.
Ever hear someone's reaction when they find out a person is gay? Here's the conversation: "Did you hear so and so is gay?" "Really? Keep him the hell away from me." That's what I mean by flattery. Hey, please, just because the person is gay and you are the same sex, doesn't mean that you are immediately the person they will persue. It could be the most dirty, toothless, mullet and you could still hear that person say that! Gay people have standards just like straight people, which not always is the case, but you get what I mean. Gay people don't just start running at all of the people of the same sex. They choose partners like everyone else. so don't worry, you aren't in any danger. I don't get the discomfort and defensive behaviour of people when a person is "outed." So what. Nothing changes. What makes you think that now you know that they are gay, they are going after you? Making that assumption is just you embarassing yourself.
Bisexual has the same problem, perhaps worse. See, people just assume that bisexual equals promiscuity. The "Anything that moves" mentality. I have dated way less partners than most straight people. Now, granted, this is not always the case for everyone, but those generalizations make us all look like out of control, unselective, and raging full of STD because we will have sex with anyone.
The truth is, dating is the same for any "preference." We all are attracted to someone, decide to persue, and see what happens. Same process. This is why I just don't get homophobes. We are all into the same thing. We should be high fiving each other.
Here is me and some true honesty: I have always been aware of my bisexuality. Let's explain this...okay, not in an experimental stage, not I kinda like girls too, not I had a drunk kiss once, or I had a one time threesome in college to make a boyfriend happy. I mean I am attracted to women equally to men. I can fall in love with either just the same, and I have. Since I was a five year old child I knew that, as my first puppy love crush was on my female teenage counselor. I date women the same as men. The women who are not attracted to other women, I leave alone. Just like a guy who is not interested. Why persue? See? like anyone else, I choose some one based on attraction, a series of considerations of traits I find important to have, why I am interested and if they are interested. Bisexual doesn't mean I think, "Oh my god! That person has sexual organs! I want whoever they hell they are! and them, and them too!" I hate that crap. I don't live a wild orgy lifestyle. I go to work and pay my bills.
The question is which begot which: because it is taboo, people have a hard time accepting this or because it is hard to accept, it is taboo. Why do laws and religion have to impose so much on who we love and who we have sex with? I don't get why in some states I could marry who I want and some I cannot. I don't get why I will live a happy, righteous life for loving one person and go to hell and should not show my face at church for loving another. and why the hell is it anyone's business? Someone who I am not having sex with should have no concern with my preference. Meaning everyone else. My mom, the catholic community, my coworkers.
I don't tell everyone that I like both men and women. It's not appropriate. No one really introduces themselves as heterosexual, so why should I? And just because you meet me, doesn't mean I am interested in you sexually.