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Today I was having a particularly stimulating conversation about a recent kafuffle where Woolworths (or some other beast of homogeny) had to pull a women’s magazine from its stands for the inclusion of headline that made prominent use of the words “oral sex”.
It would offend the kiddies they said.
It would hurt profits they said.
As if kids or profits, in this day and age, are easily offended or dented.
The argument of my interlocutor seemed to be hinged on the premise that early exposure to something as sordid and, lord forbid, dirty as oral sex would lead children to rampant debauchery.
I could only counter that it is not early exposure but the dictates and compulsion of senseless and, let’s face it morally ambivalent, hormones that lead adolescents (not children) to this sort of behaviour.
We try to convince our children (often through omission) that sex, including the oral kind (don’t say it three times while looking in the mirror and, by the way, it isn’t sex but an aberration), is dirty and to be avoided like the plague, and that it is, in fact, the best way to avoid our modern day plagues.
However, no matter how hard we try to convince them, we can’t seem to squirm ourselves around the inherent refutation of this position - that if sex was indeed as deplorable as we make it out to be, the very children we are trying to convince wouldn’t be here at all.
I personally think that it is healthy and necessary to allow incremental exposure to sexuality from a young age. If we allow this we can also allow the concept and joy of sex to be more closely correlated to the concept and joys of love.
If we deny our children sex when they are young, where will they encounter it and how? Hardcore pornography sites that depict sex as dominance and abuse, advertising that uses sex to sell but is so brief and constrained by time restrictions that all it gives us is the sex with a brand name attached and personal experience thrust upon them haphazardly by their own biological outstripping of themselves – try asking a tree to retard its growth.
I am the first to admit that an unbounded sexuality, one that is blind and lustful, proud and unthinking is a detriment to the individual and those they get involved with. It is THE primordial force, something unstoppable and incapable of listening to reason, it runs over the driver while running over a multitude of pedestrians. It needs no driver, needs no intellect, no other instinct for it to survive or thrive. It is singular and indivisible. We serve it more than it serves us.
What force can counter this monster?
Love.
Of course.
Greater than our need for sex, greater than our need for self gratification is our overwhelming need for love.
While our sexuality needs no other to perpetuate itself, to fulfil itself, love is always bound to the fate of another individual. Its directives are not born of the solitary ego, it always prostrates itself in the presence of the one we love.
This is what we need to teach our children. Rather than tearing magazines of the shelves and calling for censorship that is both useless, unhealthy and futile, we need to place sex in the hands of love, like a parent holding the hand of a child crossing the road.
Sex comes regardless of how much we try to prevent its coming. Love can be deprived absolutely. Sex does not need to be taught, but having sex moderated by the reason of love has to be.
Children need to be instructed in all things if they are to be human beings.
They need to be taught nothing at all to become animals.
It would offend the kiddies they said.
It would hurt profits they said.
As if kids or profits, in this day and age, are easily offended or dented.
The argument of my interlocutor seemed to be hinged on the premise that early exposure to something as sordid and, lord forbid, dirty as oral sex would lead children to rampant debauchery.
I could only counter that it is not early exposure but the dictates and compulsion of senseless and, let’s face it morally ambivalent, hormones that lead adolescents (not children) to this sort of behaviour.
We try to convince our children (often through omission) that sex, including the oral kind (don’t say it three times while looking in the mirror and, by the way, it isn’t sex but an aberration), is dirty and to be avoided like the plague, and that it is, in fact, the best way to avoid our modern day plagues.
However, no matter how hard we try to convince them, we can’t seem to squirm ourselves around the inherent refutation of this position - that if sex was indeed as deplorable as we make it out to be, the very children we are trying to convince wouldn’t be here at all.
I personally think that it is healthy and necessary to allow incremental exposure to sexuality from a young age. If we allow this we can also allow the concept and joy of sex to be more closely correlated to the concept and joys of love.
If we deny our children sex when they are young, where will they encounter it and how? Hardcore pornography sites that depict sex as dominance and abuse, advertising that uses sex to sell but is so brief and constrained by time restrictions that all it gives us is the sex with a brand name attached and personal experience thrust upon them haphazardly by their own biological outstripping of themselves – try asking a tree to retard its growth.
I am the first to admit that an unbounded sexuality, one that is blind and lustful, proud and unthinking is a detriment to the individual and those they get involved with. It is THE primordial force, something unstoppable and incapable of listening to reason, it runs over the driver while running over a multitude of pedestrians. It needs no driver, needs no intellect, no other instinct for it to survive or thrive. It is singular and indivisible. We serve it more than it serves us.
What force can counter this monster?
Love.
Of course.
Greater than our need for sex, greater than our need for self gratification is our overwhelming need for love.
While our sexuality needs no other to perpetuate itself, to fulfil itself, love is always bound to the fate of another individual. Its directives are not born of the solitary ego, it always prostrates itself in the presence of the one we love.
This is what we need to teach our children. Rather than tearing magazines of the shelves and calling for censorship that is both useless, unhealthy and futile, we need to place sex in the hands of love, like a parent holding the hand of a child crossing the road.
Sex comes regardless of how much we try to prevent its coming. Love can be deprived absolutely. Sex does not need to be taught, but having sex moderated by the reason of love has to be.
Children need to be instructed in all things if they are to be human beings.
They need to be taught nothing at all to become animals.
