Friends are friends forever....

Mates before dates.

from JoeUser Forums
Sometimes I don't even care if we never get together... I just want her to be happy. I'd love to make her dreams come true, to send her to far-off magical lands, have her waited on and pampered like the princess that she is, to constantly surprise her with exuberant displays of affection and gifts. Be her protector and knight in sterling silver armour....

A haiku I prepared earlier:
Messing with my mind...
Is she trying to be friends?
Playing hard to get?

The problem is though, I don't think I could ever be 'just friends' with her. I mean... I have female friends. Platonic male/female realations have never been a problem for me and I have a lot of respect for the fairer sex. I just don't think that I could ever come to that point where I could think "We're friends and this is as good as it's going to get." To be able to bare to look at her, hang out with her, and not feel all 'achy/breaky heart'.

Being best friends is extremely important to me though. I dont just want someone I can call my wife. I want a friend. Someone to muck around and play with, someone to be serious with. Someone to bounce ideas off, contemplate life's issues, get excited about stuff, share my disappointments and the last tim-tam with. Be a Tonka-tuff team of love. A perfect pair.

"You got an awesome body and a beautiful mind. Are you lookin' for a guy like me?"
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
universal sentiments. difficult to express, even harder to find. Just like all universals, all around us but still elusive. Hope you get there, seems to me like you know where "there" is, good for you

Marco
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I hear you man..i just came from hangin out with my best friend, his g- friend and his 2 friends and their g-friends..that makes ...7 of us..how sucky is that>>>>>?
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
If I were a woman, you'd give me a boner.

Yeah that's a bit convoluted, but you have a really good grasp on what's going on, and how good guys always get shafted. I'm settled in a really awesome relationship right now, but when I look at her, I still get that achy/breaky heart feeling (which might not be a good thing). I've never been so sure about loving someone as her, and I know she loves me but I still get the feeling that says, "Man I wish I could get with her, she's gorgeous".

This is probably the sappiest reply I've ever made, especially the boner part, which was weird. But a girl is going to "see" you someday, hopefully for your sake it's the one which you write about so fondly.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
*sigh* It would appear we all want similar things, and we all want that love in our lives. That special person that takes our breath way, just for a second when we first set eyes on them, that person who makes our heartbeat that bit faster. That person we can laugh and cry with, who understands us like no other. That person who is special, maybe not to anyone else, but to us they become the world. If that person was so easy to find, and so easy to come across, we would not appreciate them for the beauty they truely hold for us. Your words are beautiful. This girl is lucky, she may not be the one, but she is lucky. Hold in there, because one day your Princess will be waiting for you
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
One day you will find your soul mate, and you will live happily ever after....
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
universal sentiments. difficult to express, even harder to find. Just like all universals, all around us but still elusive. Hope you get there, seems to me like you know where "there" is, good for you

Marco


romeo500, the author of the above comment is my actual-in-real-life best friend marco, and i am girl. (well i was hehe). we have a meeting of the minds like nothing i've ever experienced, and as i am very happily married and have been for years, that is all it ever will be.

it can be difficult to define the role somebody has in your life. in fact, it's usually impossible. but marco and i have a respect and understanding that goes long beyond any type of physical attraction. to be honest, we're so close he'd consider that type of approach from me as an insult, and i'm glad he would.

it can be done, but you have to mean it .

i enjoyed this article. thanks for posting it.

vanessa/mig XX
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
5000. sorry. i typed your name incorrectly.

vanessa XX
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
I can hear exactly what you're saying Mig.

I can see all the ways in which we'd get along fantastically, no matter what happened. I hold things back though to protect myself (and her too). I don't lie... but I don't show everything of me. I'm not an open book.

Getting to that point where we can just be friends who love each other.... man. That could be really hard. My heart is so into it , it scares me.

Thanks for commenting
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Romeo - you know what I think about this little situation, and writing a blog where the other party can easily view your sentiments... bro!!!

I know it hurts, but you gotta cut her out bro... I know you know exactly where I am coming from, I know she is a fantastic girl, and I know she pushes your buttons... but as long as she is in your life, you are the kind of guy that wont allow those buttons to be pushed by anyone else, when you deserve as much...

Only you know the right thing to do... and if this particular filly is as special as you hold her in your heart, well, she will understand if you can never talk to her again... If she doesn't understand why you are being like this, well, that would leave me to believe she isn't as special as you perhaps thought she was.

Sometimes men are underestimated... it is assumed we are emotionally shallow, and can put up with looking the love of our life in the eye everyday and just live with it... I know we can't... I have felt it before... remember, you have to act on your behalf... not anyone elses... hehe... hearts and love n shiz can sometimes be sooooooo uncool.....

BAM!!!
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Man. You said it. I have to talk to her, that's for sure. I will.

You rock! So insightful and wise. Thanks for the heads-up & help in letting me see somewhat clearer in this mess
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Getting to that point where we can just be friends who love each other.... man. That could be really hard. My heart is so into it , it scares me.

Thanks for commenting


you're very welcome. and good luck .

vanessa/mig XX