Divorce...all about the money?
It should be about the morals!
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I shouldn't read newspapers, as they seem to only have the ability to make me mad, even the sports pages are doing it to me now! Before I start this blog let me just say, i am not against marriage, i've covered this subject before, but I'll say it again. Marriage is a beautiful thing between two people who love each other, who plan on being together till their dying days, who worship the ground each other walk on, who can't bare to be apart. Then yes marriage is a beautiful thing. It is entered all to lightly now though, divorce comes far to easy. I've never being married, and I don't really have much intention of ever doing so. To me it's just a piece of paper that doesn't mean an awful lot anymore, I can declare that love for someone without having that piece of paper to wave in peoples faces. Divorce is a difficult process I'm aware of this, all parties suffer, as do children if they are part of the equation, and it generally isn't a nice experience for anyone. It shouldn't be like that, it shouldn't boil down to who gets what, how much this partner has, how much I suffered in the marriage, and therefore how much compensation should I get for that suffering! Grrr...you know what? You entered into that marriage with your eyes open, you took them vows, you said it was forever, and now you're arguing over how much you should be paid off to walk away, oooh it makes me mad! I said in another article that love makes the world go round not money, but it would seem even love is getting corrupted for the money.
So I looked up some stats for divorce, just to see if I was in my own little way over reacting, after reading the article that I will get on to soon...here goes....
Divorce Statistcs in the United States
In 1998 2.2 million couples married and 1.1 million couples divorced.
In 2000 58 million couples were married, yet separated.
In 2000 there were over 21 million divorces.Divorce Statistcs United States
People between the ages of 25 to 39 make up 60% of all divorces.
Over one million children are affected by divorce each year.
Approximately 1/3 of divorced parents remain bitter and hostile several years after the divorce.DiDivorce Statistcs United States vorce Statistcs United States
In 1990 the average female age for re-marriage after divorce was 30.6 years; for males, 33.7 years of age.Divorce Statistcs United States
In 1990 the average female age for a second divorce was 37.3 years; for males, 40.4 years of age.Divorce Statistcs United States
More people are part of second marriages today than first marriages.
One-quarter of all Americans have experienced at least one divorce.
Divorce statistics are generally calculated by comparing the number of divorces with the number of marriages in a given time period.
In the United States in 1999 there were 8.4 marriages and 4.2 divorces per 1,000 total population. Divorce Statistcs United States
Thus it can be seen that in 1999 there was one divorce for every two marriages in the United States, a "crude" divorce rate of 50%. The Rutgers National Marriage Project (marriage.rutgers.edu) bases their review of divorce trends on the number of marriages per 1000 unmarried women 15 years of age or older, and the number of divorces per 1000 married women in the same age bracket. Divorce Statistcs United States
This look at divorce in relation to the population of marriageable age rather than the population as a whole produces a slightly lower divorce rate.Divorce Statistcs United States
However they note, "Overall, the chances remain very high?close to 50 percent?that a marriage started today will end in either divorce or permanent separation."Divorce Statistcs United States
More people are in their second marriage rather than their first? Fifty percent of the population are divorced? I guess they pretty much speak for themselves. I realise times are changing, people are having children younger, the womans role is changing. She is no longer expected to be just a wife, she goes out and has her own life, and doesn't stay at home with the children, and look after her husbands every need. People have more options in todays society, and that is a good thing, we are evolving everyday. Not everything about our new found freedom is good though. It means children are living in single parent families, are spending weekends travelling between parents houses, watching their parents fight, being caught in the middle of a battle, that is worth what exactly? I'm not saying divorce is wrong, if two people aren't happy together then by all means you should be separate, it isn't fair to children to live with people that don't love each other and just end up resenting each other, it's not nice for anyone involved, but I just wish people would think a little more before entering into marriage, they are cheapening it for other people. Don't go into it thinking well if this doesn't work out there's always divorce, think this is the person I'm spending the rest of my life with.
Which leads me on to Mr Ray Parlour Link who is a footballer here in England, he earns aroun 1.2million a year for kicking a ball about. An awful lot of money. Now I could go on about how this is far to much money for someone to get paid, in comparison with say doctors, who actually save peoples lives, but we've allowed them that status. No one else, we go out and buy the merchandise, pay the money to go and watch them play, it is alot of money, but we allow it to be like that, and as this article shows he is getting what his big pay packet deserves. His wife is currently having a hard time of it, in some parts of it in the British press, she has being labelled as some what of a money grabber, and poor Ray parlour how will he survive on his £800,000 a year, the poor man might starve! Now as I said I don't agree with it coming down to the money, this woman thinks she should be paid for all the support she gave him while he was starting his career. Well actually no, that's what happens when you enter into the contract of marriage, it's about support and love etc. I do however think he should pay for his children and support his wife. Maybe she put her career on the sideline for his, maybe she did stay at home and look after the children, and she is getting alot of money for simply being married to him, but he gets paid an awful lot of money for simply playing football, so I think that he is getting what he deserves. He earns alot of money, and he is just paying out the same amount the average joe would in his situation. His wife is getting a hard time, but we don't know the full situation, and why shouldn't she try and get what she can, when she's left witht he kids, while he goes off doing whatever. They both broke the contract of the marriage, so someone wasn't going to end up unhappy. I think the biggest shame is for the kids, who will see this very public battle, and they are probably still wondering why Mummy and Daddy don't love each other anymore, I feel they should be remembered alot more at this time, the money will eventually run out, and then what will they be left with?
So I looked up some stats for divorce, just to see if I was in my own little way over reacting, after reading the article that I will get on to soon...here goes....
Divorce Statistcs in the United States
In 1998 2.2 million couples married and 1.1 million couples divorced.
In 2000 58 million couples were married, yet separated.
In 2000 there were over 21 million divorces.Divorce Statistcs United States
People between the ages of 25 to 39 make up 60% of all divorces.
Over one million children are affected by divorce each year.
Approximately 1/3 of divorced parents remain bitter and hostile several years after the divorce.DiDivorce Statistcs United States vorce Statistcs United States
In 1990 the average female age for re-marriage after divorce was 30.6 years; for males, 33.7 years of age.Divorce Statistcs United States
In 1990 the average female age for a second divorce was 37.3 years; for males, 40.4 years of age.Divorce Statistcs United States
More people are part of second marriages today than first marriages.
One-quarter of all Americans have experienced at least one divorce.
Divorce statistics are generally calculated by comparing the number of divorces with the number of marriages in a given time period.
In the United States in 1999 there were 8.4 marriages and 4.2 divorces per 1,000 total population. Divorce Statistcs United States
Thus it can be seen that in 1999 there was one divorce for every two marriages in the United States, a "crude" divorce rate of 50%. The Rutgers National Marriage Project (marriage.rutgers.edu) bases their review of divorce trends on the number of marriages per 1000 unmarried women 15 years of age or older, and the number of divorces per 1000 married women in the same age bracket. Divorce Statistcs United States
This look at divorce in relation to the population of marriageable age rather than the population as a whole produces a slightly lower divorce rate.Divorce Statistcs United States
However they note, "Overall, the chances remain very high?close to 50 percent?that a marriage started today will end in either divorce or permanent separation."Divorce Statistcs United States
More people are in their second marriage rather than their first? Fifty percent of the population are divorced? I guess they pretty much speak for themselves. I realise times are changing, people are having children younger, the womans role is changing. She is no longer expected to be just a wife, she goes out and has her own life, and doesn't stay at home with the children, and look after her husbands every need. People have more options in todays society, and that is a good thing, we are evolving everyday. Not everything about our new found freedom is good though. It means children are living in single parent families, are spending weekends travelling between parents houses, watching their parents fight, being caught in the middle of a battle, that is worth what exactly? I'm not saying divorce is wrong, if two people aren't happy together then by all means you should be separate, it isn't fair to children to live with people that don't love each other and just end up resenting each other, it's not nice for anyone involved, but I just wish people would think a little more before entering into marriage, they are cheapening it for other people. Don't go into it thinking well if this doesn't work out there's always divorce, think this is the person I'm spending the rest of my life with.
Which leads me on to Mr Ray Parlour Link who is a footballer here in England, he earns aroun 1.2million a year for kicking a ball about. An awful lot of money. Now I could go on about how this is far to much money for someone to get paid, in comparison with say doctors, who actually save peoples lives, but we've allowed them that status. No one else, we go out and buy the merchandise, pay the money to go and watch them play, it is alot of money, but we allow it to be like that, and as this article shows he is getting what his big pay packet deserves. His wife is currently having a hard time of it, in some parts of it in the British press, she has being labelled as some what of a money grabber, and poor Ray parlour how will he survive on his £800,000 a year, the poor man might starve! Now as I said I don't agree with it coming down to the money, this woman thinks she should be paid for all the support she gave him while he was starting his career. Well actually no, that's what happens when you enter into the contract of marriage, it's about support and love etc. I do however think he should pay for his children and support his wife. Maybe she put her career on the sideline for his, maybe she did stay at home and look after the children, and she is getting alot of money for simply being married to him, but he gets paid an awful lot of money for simply playing football, so I think that he is getting what he deserves. He earns alot of money, and he is just paying out the same amount the average joe would in his situation. His wife is getting a hard time, but we don't know the full situation, and why shouldn't she try and get what she can, when she's left witht he kids, while he goes off doing whatever. They both broke the contract of the marriage, so someone wasn't going to end up unhappy. I think the biggest shame is for the kids, who will see this very public battle, and they are probably still wondering why Mummy and Daddy don't love each other anymore, I feel they should be remembered alot more at this time, the money will eventually run out, and then what will they be left with?
