Lepidoptera

emerging

from JoeUser Forums
I'm boring myself, lately. Too much socializing, and while some of it is work-related, it's starting to feel like habit. I don't know how the bigwigs do it, but there are so many events, performances, and meetings I should be attending, in order to promote both my position and my company. However, the majority of these events are surrounded by gossip and alcohol, both of which fuel each other.

I keep my back against the wall, and luckily, I don't often get asked pointed questions. I tend to shake things off, or just smile and make a joke of it. There hasn't been any pressure to take sides, or to join in on the mudslinging. I think most people who know me, know better.

However, while I'm able to avoid the pitfalls surrounding work events, my own private freetime is spiralling downwards. It's a neverending line of flirtations. I don't know how to handle the attention, I guess. Stupid me, I don't know what choices to make. My first inclination is to make no choice at all, but to back away entirely. It was easier before, though. And while I used to feel justified in calling someone else's behavior what it was, I can't be so pointed, nowadays.

Pfft.

I think I just need more time alone.
blogging
2,769 views 10 replies
Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top

Hey...where are my butterflies and moths?

Anywho, alone time is always good...I don't know what I'd do if people pestered me all day.

~Zoo

Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think I just need more time alone


Yeah, I hear ya. Our house has been a bit crowded of late and I'm looking forward to when it will be just Toni and I again.
WindowBlinds - Free yourself of the default settings, customize your desktop.
Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I tend to shake things off, or just smile and make a joke of it.


That's always worked for me, Nick! Like the old saying goes: if you can't baffle 'em with brilliance then befuddle 'em with bullshit.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top

if you can't baffle 'em with brilliance then befuddle 'em with bullshit.

The wisest sayings often have alliteration.

~Zoo

Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top

Owning your own company has many perks.  However one of the down sides is that you have to do all the things you dont like since you are the company.

You do seem to understand that, and while not liking it, accepting it.  Good luck with the fun part!

Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Office/work socializing can be a pain at times. I used to hate it but now I just be myself and hang around folks I'm more friendly with, makes it easier! The politics and taking sides are a pain too! Alone time is always good!
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
where are my butterflies and moths?


Socially, I've become a different person. The title was kind of a nod at change.

That's always worked for me, Nick!


Sometimes knowing when to stay quiet is the best bet when it comes to politics around work! Not taking things too seriously is another option that I find works for me.

Owning your own company


I don't own the company, but I certainly represent it. Sorry, didn't mean to be misleading! I don't mind my duties, but the backtalk and beer don't mix well. I'm fine with keeping it separate, but there are others who don't know that when you're stupiddrunk, you probably shouldn't be talking business!


No one else can make it for you.


Too true! It's so easy to get caught up in work, and then miss out on a lot of other, far more important stuff.

now I just be myself and hang around folks I'm more friendly with


I do know, and am comfortable with certain people in my work-circle, but I'm still at the point where I'm shocked by the obvious back-stabbing and fishing for dirt!

Thanks all for writing.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
When you are doing forced socializing it's not as fun is it.

Definitely make time for yourself when you need it! It will all work out in the end. It always does. You can quote me on it.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Definitely make time for yourself when you need it! It will all work out in the end. It always does.


I did quote you on it.

~Zoo
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
I did quote you on it.


hahaha...That was very funny.