I don't know where this path will lead

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I've been licking my wounds all weekend, mourning anew my father's passing.  Today was not a good pain day for me, either physically or emotionally.  The Mrs was more herself today than I've seen her in a long time, but even the joy that came from witnessing that didn't last very long.  Before long, the clouds rolled in and the day was grey again.

I came home from work and sequestered myself on the couch, not wanting to talk to or see anyone.  When the phone rang, I handed it to my son to answer, not expecting the call to be for me.  It usually never is; the kids seem to have handed out our number to half the western world.

But, it WAS for me.  It was my boss at hospice, asking me if I could take on a patient.  This particular patient is different to my past patients, both in age and in physical ability - and she/he (I'm not really allowed to divulge gender lest someone related to them reads this and is able to identify their relative.  All hell would break loose were that to happen, and I'd be fired) also has some pretty unique issues that make caring for her more challenging. 

It never fails to happen, y'all.  Never.  The universe, the cosmos, what some people call god and others jehovah or yahweh.....it always, always, always rescues me.  Always.  Whenever I'm feeling lost, whenever I'm  questioning  my situation, wondering if I'm doing/have done the right thing, whenever I'm feeling soul-deep sad.....it always comes and lets me know that it's there and shows me just where I'm supposed to go next.  Sometimes it's a gentle nudge in the form of a call or a meeting, and sometimes it's a slap in the face in the form of a traumatic event.  It's happened so many times that I can no longer chalk it up to coincidence.  I just can't, and I won't.

I don't know where this new path is going to lead, but I do know that I'll end up exactly what I'm supposed to be doing, when and where I'm supposed to be doing it.

I am, however, glad that there wasn't a need for any trauma this time.

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Reply #1 from WinCustomize Forums Top

- and she/he (I'm not really allowed to divulge gender lest someone related to them reads this and is able to identify their relative. All hell would break loose were that to happen, and I'd be fired) also has some pretty unique issues that make caring for her more challenging.

Oh, come on...if it needs to be confidential then don't talk about it.

Common sense really isn't.

"her"? .....

Reply #2 from WinCustomize Forums Top
my thoughts go with you....  
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I hope things work out for the best. I'm sure they will. I hope you feel better all around.

The path will lead to happiness and wholeness.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't know where this new path is going to lead, but I do know that I'll end up exactly what I'm supposed to be doing, when and where I'm supposed to be doing it.

I am, however, glad that there wasn't a need for any trauma this time.


Where ever the path leads, we know you can handle it. And so do you.


By the way...

Reply By: Jafo


As Jafo's presence well indicates, this inadvertently got posted to "OS Customization."

Reply #5 from WinCustomize Forums Top
My father once said (he lived to be 97) passed in 2001, "That life is about hurdles and it is what we do in between the hurdles that count.. So in between you have to live life to the fullest and live in peace , love and joy..... Then strength will come when we have to jumped those hurdles..
Reply #6 from WinCustomize Forums Top

As Jafo's presence well indicates, this inadvertently got posted to "OS Customization."

Yes, unfortunately...

Jafo needs a 'Relocatetoappropriatesection tool' ...

Reply #7 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Jafo needs a 'Relocatetoappropriatesection tool'


 
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hopefully it leads to a great place
Reply #9 from WinCustomize Forums Top

Yes, very disconcerting to click on a thread in OS Customization thinking you're going to help with a customization problem only to find yourself in someones personal blog   

Jafo needs a tool...   

Reply #10 from WinCustomize Forums Top
If you knew ANYTHING at all about the man, you would know that the comments you just made are so far wide of the truth it's unbelievable. If I was still a moderator here, you would be banned now, just for the personal attack, never mind the other comments. Go away, learn some respect, and learn to keep your mouth shut about things you know NOTHING about. sheesh!!
Reply #11 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Jafo needs something alright. It's called a heart.


I agree with BoXXi here it's not only silly to attack others but dumb when you don't know the people you attack....
Jafo was here for me (like many others) since the beginning ask him for a problem he answer you and help you if he can. If it's a little problem or not, personal thoughts or not. He is here all days and manage this site as well.
If you can't find the heart in him you should be blind, once again before talk about someone be sure to know this people.
Reply #12 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Oh, come on...if it needs to be confidential then don't talk about it.

Common sense really isn't.

"her"? ....


Just HAD to make a hurtful remark


I hardly think so, he is simply stating a very important fact. If you are not legally allowed to divulge information, then you do NOT speak about it at all period. Divulging confidential information even in part is inexcusable.

Is Jafo a tool, yup he is, He is funny yet very kindly gets his point across & has so many times that I cannot count smoothed ruffled feathers in these forums. And that is not including all those issues he solves behind the scenes.
So he is a tool that gets tons of use, helping to keep the forums running smoothly

Is he territorial & elitist, you he is that too. He spends his free time taking care of these forums & making us laugh.

So I guess you need to think twice before you type about someone who you clearly know nothing about.

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Reply #13 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Honestly, I just don't get these posts that seem so out of place at a skinning site. Im not heartless at all and my first thought when I read this was " Is this supposed to be a joe user forum post " because if not why on earth would you post this in a skinning site.
But, lets not make an example out of just this one post, lets go for the hundreds of other posts that people spill their guts in the forum talking about everything from their cat dying to their suspicions that their step child is being sexually molested by a relative. ( I have seen it all here )

Jafo's comment was hardly heartless...it was the first thing that crossed my mind after I read that statement...

Boxxi coming to the defense of an old friend is an acceptable and expected response...

Jafo is a big boy hardly needs the formation of the ' troops ' to defend his honor.

So keep the ass kissing to a minimum..




Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top

Common sense really isn't.
"her"? .....

There was supposed to be a 'him/' before the 'her'.

My momma told me that if you don't have anything nice to say, it's best to say nothing at all.  So, I have nothing else to say to you.

my thoughts go with you....

Thank you.

 

Where ever the path leads, we know you can handle it. And so do you

I hope so. 

"That life is about hurdles and it is what we do in between the hurdles that count..

Bingo.

 

Hopefully it leads to a great place

I hope so too!

 

Yes, very disconcerting to click on a thread in OS Customization thinking you're going to help with a customization problem only to find yourself in someones personal blog

Christ almighty, people haven't you ever heard of a MISTAKE?!!  Haven't you seen that JU has been particularly wonky lately?!

I'm terribly sorry for soiling your oh-so-pristine customization threads with my heartfelt little blog.

A nasty, territorial, elitist little tool at that. Just HAD to make a hurtful remark. Just COULDN'T pass on by without doing so.

Apparently he didn't read the first sentence of the article.  That's what I'm telling myself, anyway....because if he did, yet he chose to respond in this manner....well, that doesn't reflect too well on him, does it?

 

Go away, learn some respect, and learn to keep your mouth shut about things you know NOTHING about. sheesh!!

Feck you.

 

I agree with BoXXi here it's not only silly to attack others but dumb when you don't know the people you attack....

You too.

 

I hardly think so, he is simply stating a very important fact. If you are not legally allowed to divulge information, then you do NOT speak about it at all period. Divulging confidential information even in part is inexcusable.

And you.

 

Honestly, I just don't get these posts that seem so out of place at a skinning site. Im not heartless at all and my first thought when I read this was " Is this supposed to be a joe user forum post " because if not why on earth would you post this in a skinning site.

And finally, you.  (yeah, I forgot to heed my momma's advice.  so sue me.)

For those of you who think that my words are harsh, I ask you to take a look not only at the first sentence of this article, but also at my previous article.  Then, come back here and look at the comments posted. 

Understand now?  Good, I thought you would.

Reply #15 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Jafo is a big boy hardly needs the formation of the ' troops ' to defend his honor.

So keep the ass kissing to a minimum..


ROFL

Fairyy~ i'm (not really) sorry but here you are out off subject here it's Jafo ok but it's not the first time i see personals attack and i always said what i think of this.
Jafo or thefirstdumbaround don't need someone attack him it's really silly.
So if say what i think make me a kiss ass COOL. So i'm the BEST KISSASS of this Earth cause you'll always see me tell what i think....
Reply #16 from WinCustomize Forums Top
As a remind for the owner of this post:

Someone not you said this:
Jafo needs a tool...


Jafo IS a tool.

A nasty, territorial, elitist little tool at that. Just HAD to make a hurtful remark. Just COULDN'T pass on by without doing so.

Jafo needs something alright. It's called a heart.


So the following comments after this one wasn't for you or to answer to your post.
Reply #17 from WinCustomize Forums Top
I've always thought this site needed an agony column and I'd like to nominate Jafo as our Agony Aunt.
I can see it now,,

Dear Auntie Jafo,

Yesterday my cat........
Reply #18 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Little whip: The only reason I am not a moderator here anymore is because i CHOSE not to be...... mainly because of asshats like you. Get a life.... go write your blog, or whatever other nonsense you fill your sad life with.
Reply #19 from WinCustomize Forums Top
ROFL

Fairyy~ i'm (not really) sorry but here you are out off subject here it's Jafo ok but it's not the first time i see personals attack and i always said what i think of this.
Jafo or thefirstdumbaround don't need someone attack him it's really silly.
So if say what i think make me a kiss ass COOL. So i'm the BEST KISSASS of this Earth cause you'll always see me tell what i think....


Quentin, my post was written before your first post..if you chose to constantly think everything written is directed to you there is nothing I can do about it.
You have been here 9 months and a lot of us have been here for many years and know Jafo has the ability to speak for himself quite well.

He need no one to defend him....as far as this post goes, I would not have replied at all , I should have known it was a Joe User forum but the fact remains that there have been WC Forum posts similar to this is the past so my post is still relevant.

Reply #20 from WinCustomize Forums Top

Yes, WHY ON EARTH? I think it would be obvious to anyone with even a modicum of intelligence that this was posted to the OS category in error. Her error? JU's error? Does it really matter?

Well, yes...that is why I actually lamented not have that 'tool'...to quietly correct accidental posting errors such as this.  I think it is highly desirable that efficient/appropriate tools ARE in place to help with User error, be they from JU OR anywhere else.

dharmagrl, unfortunately you also appear to have erred by not making it 'his/her' so I deemed it appropriate to point that out....so you could CORRECT the error and not be seen to perhaps be revealing the person's gender.

I 'could' perhaps have removed/deleted/hidden the thread but I'm sure that, too would have raised someone's ire....somewhere....

Judgement call.....but I'm not to be held responsible for the quality of respondents you may or may not attract from Joe User.

Reply #21 from WinCustomize Forums Top
Reply #12
Quentin94
June 19, 2007 07:14:33

Reply #14
Fairyy~
June 19, 2007 07:49:03

i'm maybe a dumb
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top

What is that saying - "Dont be sad it is over, be glad it happened."?

Remember him and be glad for the reasons you now mourn him.  And his life will have greater meaning.

Peace Dharma.

Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
Moved to Blogging > Life Journals. Nothing like a daily dose of e-drama!
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
(I'm not really allowed to divulge gender lest someone related to them reads this and is able to identify their relative. All hell would break loose were that to happen, and I'd be fired)


I understand that. I'm in the same boat -so MANY things and incidents I could write about but don't. So that leaves me with not much else, lol.

I'm glad you at least found "a path" to go down, Dharma. I hope it leads somewhere good.
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top

Moved to Blogging > Life Journals. Nothing like a daily dose of e-drama!


Thanks, Nick....

dharma ....please accept my apologies for JU's and WC's site errors which perhaps caused this to be in the wrong place..... a 'glitch' prevented me from correcting it for you in a more timely fashion [I saw it only minutes after its posting].

little-whip....insult me all you like....I'm immune...but please do not liken the Wincustomize.com Users to 'bleating sheep'. It is both childish and inaccurate.