The Mother of all Sayings
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“Life's a bitch and then you die”. You know that saying right? Or perhaps you can think of some more colorful ones for me that I can sink my teeth into. Life's really fucked up at the moment, turned upside down....er excuse me, I forgot to give a warning to my readers who are not used to me being so er...what's the word....rude...or make that just throwing expletives as if there's no tomorrow. So if it insults you to read any of this, see ya later.
It's not that I ever hid the fact that I do curse at times or that I was a saint or anything, I am, (why not?) but saints do curse, sometimes. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!
Anyway, I’ve been pulling my hair out literally because my soon to be 18 year old has decided that she’s now a grown up and have been making some rash decisions and doing some rash things that made me questioned myself as to what kind of parent I am and wondered where did I go wrong and just who the fuck is this person that lives with us?!
A question I’ve asked her several times (without the expletive), to which she gave me no response.
I won’t go into all of the gory details, plus you might only end up getting tail-end of the going-ons and that might be confusing. The gist of it is, she’s planning to shack up with her boyfriend, the bum, who has no prospects at the moment, she lost her virginity to him, the bastard, and she’s suddenly grown up enough to make her own mistakes and live her own life, so said she.
And not only is it just the boyfriend, but the mom of the boyfriend who I’m going to have another sit down with as soon as I’m calm enough to do so, who is encouraging them because since they met, her son has turned into the ideal person she has always dreamed him to be and is no longer hanging out with undesirables. Well, I asked my daughter if she plans to be the baby sitter of his sorry life now. What about her goals and plans where are those?
See, you’re getting the tail-end of what’s been going on. I’ve had to be putting my foot down quite literally and forcibly because I refuse to see my child end up in a manner that she will regret for the rest of her life.
I took her to the gynecologist, she’s not pregnant and I was upset with her because she went ahead without even being further protected because although they used condoms, that’s not 100%. You see folks, even after all the discussions and the openness and the relationship we have had over the years, it just takes one stupid moment and one stupid male to undo it all. No matter what you tell your child, she goes ahead and makes decisions that are totally against what you taught her.
My friends tell me that I’m too lenient with my kids. I don’t ever think I was too lenient with them. I am strict to a point but I do allow them freedom to be themselves. So now this is my fault? I’ve shed a few tears wondering about this believe me.
So until she reaches the age of 18, which will be in three weeks, I told her she lives under our roof, she goes by our rules and she needs to give herself some breathing space from that family who seems to have nothing but their own agenda. They are together a lot the boy and she and I’ve recently imposed some ground rules to stop that because she’s being influenced in a way I would never think she would be.
Her dad and I have been talking to her and are still trying to guide her to seek her own goals and not live the life that other people wants her to be. You know what my smarty pants daughter said, “Isn’t that what we are trying to do to her?” Can you imagine?! I wanted to knock the remarks back into her mouth, but I’m not that type of parent who operates that way.
It is taking a lot of patience and love and only time will tell the outcome. I never would have think that we would be going through something like this in a hundred years.
So my muse left the building and was replaced by failure, dread, anger, and the potty-mouth stranger who shows up more often than not these days.
I’m learning to be calm and not internalize, and I’ve not resorted to emotional eating, I almost did but I stopped myself. I’ve been doing too well with my workout program to mess up now! Although there have been days of not working out at all!
Deep breaths, and letting go and trusting God and myself more have been the only way to handle it all. It’s a lot, not just with her, but other stuff that makes me wonder if I did some major screw up in another life?!
You’ve heard the saying, “when it rains it pours”? it’s been raining a lot like that for me lately!
Another saying, “Delay does not mean denial” that was said by Robin Roberts who was talking about a book she had published recently. I love that saying! [I made a mental note to find her book]
I also found a great website with some famous and not so famous sayings: http://www.quotesandsayings.com/
I particularly like today’s Quote of the day:
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“Great accomplishments do not arise out of miserable struggle. Great accomplishments come from being able to see the goodness in everything, and then focusing that goodness in a specific direction.
It's impossible to stay focused on what can be when you're obsessed with complaining or worrying about what already is. Yet by accepting what is now, you are free to create what you know can be.
Make your efforts effortless by letting them happen and letting them be. Let life freely flow and you will go anywhere you desire.”
-- Ralph Marston
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I do see the good in my daughter, there’s no way that after 17 years of grooming and letting her become who she is, that she’s suddenly become the monster with two heads! So I am taking the high road while at the same time reminding me to remain calm with all that is going on. I really don’t dislike her boyfriend, he’s a personable fellow but due to recent events and his own lack of direction for himself, I’m not being too sociable to him these days. It’s wrong I know, but I’m a mom and when I’ve calmed down some what I’ll address the situation fittingly.
So I’m “accepting what is now, (grudgingly) and I’m letting life freely flow”; and hopefully it will go where I desire for myself, and for my daughter.
It's not that I ever hid the fact that I do curse at times or that I was a saint or anything, I am, (why not?) but saints do curse, sometimes. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!
Anyway, I’ve been pulling my hair out literally because my soon to be 18 year old has decided that she’s now a grown up and have been making some rash decisions and doing some rash things that made me questioned myself as to what kind of parent I am and wondered where did I go wrong and just who the fuck is this person that lives with us?!
A question I’ve asked her several times (without the expletive), to which she gave me no response.
I won’t go into all of the gory details, plus you might only end up getting tail-end of the going-ons and that might be confusing. The gist of it is, she’s planning to shack up with her boyfriend, the bum, who has no prospects at the moment, she lost her virginity to him, the bastard, and she’s suddenly grown up enough to make her own mistakes and live her own life, so said she.
And not only is it just the boyfriend, but the mom of the boyfriend who I’m going to have another sit down with as soon as I’m calm enough to do so, who is encouraging them because since they met, her son has turned into the ideal person she has always dreamed him to be and is no longer hanging out with undesirables. Well, I asked my daughter if she plans to be the baby sitter of his sorry life now. What about her goals and plans where are those?
See, you’re getting the tail-end of what’s been going on. I’ve had to be putting my foot down quite literally and forcibly because I refuse to see my child end up in a manner that she will regret for the rest of her life.
I took her to the gynecologist, she’s not pregnant and I was upset with her because she went ahead without even being further protected because although they used condoms, that’s not 100%. You see folks, even after all the discussions and the openness and the relationship we have had over the years, it just takes one stupid moment and one stupid male to undo it all. No matter what you tell your child, she goes ahead and makes decisions that are totally against what you taught her.
My friends tell me that I’m too lenient with my kids. I don’t ever think I was too lenient with them. I am strict to a point but I do allow them freedom to be themselves. So now this is my fault? I’ve shed a few tears wondering about this believe me.
So until she reaches the age of 18, which will be in three weeks, I told her she lives under our roof, she goes by our rules and she needs to give herself some breathing space from that family who seems to have nothing but their own agenda. They are together a lot the boy and she and I’ve recently imposed some ground rules to stop that because she’s being influenced in a way I would never think she would be.
Her dad and I have been talking to her and are still trying to guide her to seek her own goals and not live the life that other people wants her to be. You know what my smarty pants daughter said, “Isn’t that what we are trying to do to her?” Can you imagine?! I wanted to knock the remarks back into her mouth, but I’m not that type of parent who operates that way.
It is taking a lot of patience and love and only time will tell the outcome. I never would have think that we would be going through something like this in a hundred years.
So my muse left the building and was replaced by failure, dread, anger, and the potty-mouth stranger who shows up more often than not these days.
I’m learning to be calm and not internalize, and I’ve not resorted to emotional eating, I almost did but I stopped myself. I’ve been doing too well with my workout program to mess up now! Although there have been days of not working out at all!
Deep breaths, and letting go and trusting God and myself more have been the only way to handle it all. It’s a lot, not just with her, but other stuff that makes me wonder if I did some major screw up in another life?!
You’ve heard the saying, “when it rains it pours”? it’s been raining a lot like that for me lately!
Another saying, “Delay does not mean denial” that was said by Robin Roberts who was talking about a book she had published recently. I love that saying! [I made a mental note to find her book]
I also found a great website with some famous and not so famous sayings: http://www.quotesandsayings.com/
I particularly like today’s Quote of the day:
**********************
“Great accomplishments do not arise out of miserable struggle. Great accomplishments come from being able to see the goodness in everything, and then focusing that goodness in a specific direction.
It's impossible to stay focused on what can be when you're obsessed with complaining or worrying about what already is. Yet by accepting what is now, you are free to create what you know can be.
Make your efforts effortless by letting them happen and letting them be. Let life freely flow and you will go anywhere you desire.”
-- Ralph Marston
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I do see the good in my daughter, there’s no way that after 17 years of grooming and letting her become who she is, that she’s suddenly become the monster with two heads! So I am taking the high road while at the same time reminding me to remain calm with all that is going on. I really don’t dislike her boyfriend, he’s a personable fellow but due to recent events and his own lack of direction for himself, I’m not being too sociable to him these days. It’s wrong I know, but I’m a mom and when I’ve calmed down some what I’ll address the situation fittingly.
So I’m “accepting what is now, (grudgingly) and I’m letting life freely flow”; and hopefully it will go where I desire for myself, and for my daughter.
