Why Can't My Big Brother just say THANK YOU?

I know it should not hurt, but it does

from JoeUser Forums

 Today on the phone I was just talking with my older brother about this and that, when the subject of Memorial day came up. He said he felt sorry for all the military that was overseas fighting and dieing for what he calls an unjust war. I had no comment about that, as I did not feel like arguing with him.

I told him today was a day to thank not just the military that was fighting and dieing in today's war, but to thank ALL military that has fought and died or fought and lived in any American war. Truly for the VERY FIRST time I wanted my brother to thank me for my service. Never in 41 years since I have gotten out of the Corps has he even mentioned it, but for some reason today I wanted his acknowledgement I fought, so he could be free to be a bleeding heart asshole.

Nope not a word, not a single word, he let my unintentional hint roll off his back like water rolling off the edge of a cliff, forming a waterfall. I must say, this time it hurt, my own brother who seems to care for everything, but the feelings of his kid brother.

Why can't he just say Thank you Elie for what you did?

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
(((Modman))) One day he will.

There are plenty out there that do value the efforts and sacrifices you and others have made, know that they are thankful and grateful, some are just slower to acknowledge it.

I hope today finds you in improved and good health?
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I know I'm not your brother and that it won't mean as much, but Elie: Thank You. Thank your from the bottom of my heart for what you did.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top

I know I'm not your brother and that it won't mean as much, but Elie: Thank You

Ditto.

I am sorry he cannot realize his injustice to you.  It is due to you that he can hold his opinions without fear of reprisals.

Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I hope one day your brother will express his appreciation for what you've done. In the meantime, a thank you from me for all the years you served our country honorably.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
(Citizen)jennifer1May 28, 2007 14:03:45


There are plenty out there that do value the efforts and sacrifices you and others have made, know that they are thankful and grateful, some are just slower to acknowledge it.


it's been 41 years jennifer.

I hope today finds you in improved and good health?


I am getting stronger with each passing day, I am hard to kill kid.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: ShovelheatPosted: Monday, May 28, 2007
I know I'm not your brother and that it won't mean as much, but Elie: Thank You. Thank your from the bottom of my heart for what you did.

Joe in many ways you are my brother, maybe not of blood, but never the less.  Thank you your words mean alot to me.

 

elie

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Reply By: Dr GuyPosted: Monday, May 28, 2007
I know I'm not your brother and that it won't mean as much, but Elie: Thank You

Ditto.
I am sorry he cannot realize his injustice to you. It is due to you that he can hold his opinions without fear of reprisals.

I am pretty sure that is what pisses me off the most, while I was fighting he was protesting the vietnam war, now he is protesting this one. Never giving a thought that so many have died so he can do so with no fear.

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: InBloomPosted: Monday, May 28, 2007
I hope one day your brother will express his appreciation for what you've done. In the meantime, a thank you from me for all the years you served our country honorably.

Your words of hope and encouragement mean so much right now Rose. I thank you.

 

elie

Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
The saying "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" seems to fit here.

Again, this is where I part ways with the war protesting crowd. We're pretty much all in agreement that war sucks, but let's try to find a way to deal with it that doesn't hurt those who gave so much.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think it's sad and sick that he would withhold that from you considering how much you sacrificed and how much you suffered in the name of your country.

I thank you, Elie. It's because there are men like you that my children are safe and happy and well fed and well adjusted (and being annoying on the karaoke machine, LOL).

Thank you.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
(Citizen)Gideon MacLeishMay 28, 2007 14:55:35Reply


The saying "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" seems to fit here.

Again, this is where I part ways with the war protesting crowd. We're pretty much all in agreement that war sucks, but let's try to find a way to deal with it that doesn't hurt those who gave so much.


so wise gid.. thanx.
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
(Citizen)Texas WahineMay 28, 2007 15:52:41Reply


I think it's sad and sick that he would withhold that from you considering how much you sacrificed and how much you suffered in the name of your country.


I will agree sad,..... sick..... well the jury is still out on this one.. heh

I thank you, Elie. It's because there are men like you that my children are safe and happy and well fed and well adjusted (and being annoying on the karaoke machine, LOL).

Thank you.


Sweet children and wives, mothers, sisters, BROTHERS, friends, fathers, nephews, neices, aunts, uncles, cousins is why men like me and MILLIONS OF OTHERS DO what we did or are still doing.. to keep safe.. and we do it out of love of not just all the people named, but LOVE OF COUNTRY TOO. After all we do not start wars, or declare wars, we just fight them.
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Every Memorial Day and Veterans Day as long as I can remember, my dad bought a poppy from the vets and kept it on the visor of the car. So when I had my own car, I bought a poppy. The car just looked naked without one. I always knew it was to remember the soldiers, but I never really got the significance until a Viet Nam vet teacher spoke to our high school sociology class. What he reserved the right not to discuss spoke louder than anything he could have said.

The point is...It's not much of a gesture, but I bought a poppy today to thank you and my teacher and my son and my son-in-law and all your brothers-in-arms.

Maggie
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
(Citizen)Ms MitchellMay 28, 2007 18:33:53


Every Memorial Day and Veterans Day as long as I can remember, my dad bought a poppy from the vets and kept it on the visor of the car. So when I had my own car, I bought a poppy. The car just looked naked without one. I always knew it was to remember the soldiers, but I never really got the significance until a Viet Nam vet teacher spoke to our high school sociology class. What he reserved the right not to discuss spoke louder than anything he could have said.

The point is...It's not much of a gesture, but I bought a poppy today to thank you and my teacher and my son and my son-in-law and all your brothers-in-arms.

Maggie


thank you maggie, I have a string of poppies hanging from my rear view mirror, I too buy them to give thanks for those that came before me and those that came after me.
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
It really is a shame that after so many years so many people are still bitter and divided over that war...and lots of families have big brothers that are poop-chutes...but I have peeked at enough of your stuff to suspect that you do not need others' approval...you know who you are. Let me add my thanks to the rest...your service was vital and honorable.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: Big Fat DaddyPosted: Monday, May 28, 2007
It really is a shame that after so many years so many people are still bitter and divided over that war...and lots of families have big brothers that are poop-chutes...but I have peeked at enough of your stuff to suspect that you do not need others' approval...you know who you are. Let me add my thanks to the rest...your service was vital and honorable.

I can say most of the time I really do not give a fuck about some ones approval, so you are right there. It still would be nice if just once my only remaining member of my family {mom, dad, sister passed on} woulod just get off his bleeding heart liberal bullshit stance and say thanks.

I thank you for your comments and your thanks.

 

MM

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Reply By: little-whipPosted: Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Thanks, Bro.

yer welcome my non phone answering sis.

Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
I know I'm a day late.

I too have a pretty narrow-minded older brother. As much as we like to say it doesn't bother us that is just our defense mechanism so that we can continue our lives. It sucks ALOT!

I hold upmost respect for those veterans who who live humbly as I imagine they served and do not use their service for political gain nor for selling their book. For those who served to make this world a better place not to make their OWN world a profitable place. These are the one's who do not constantly parade their service nor seek constant recognition. I will never understand what you went through during your service (even if I did serve) for each man has his own battle.

Even now Elie you are fighting a battle that only you can fight. I know that there isn't anything I can physically do to support your latest battle but you are in my prayers and I deeply thank you for your service.

Your brother may never recognize your sacrifice but he gets to live in the freedom you helped to secure. I do recognize and I DO thank you!

Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: little-whipPosted: Tuesday, May 29, 2007
yer welcome my non phone answering sis.


I've been drunk, hehe. You don't want to talk to me when I'm drunk, right?

yep you are right. as usual. bioch! heh heh

Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: Adventure-DudePosted: Tuesday, May 29, 2007
I know I'm a day late.

I too have a pretty narrow-minded older brother. As much as we like to say it doesn't bother us that is just our defense mechanism so that we can continue our lives. It sucks ALOT!

I hold upmost respect for those veterans who who live humbly as I imagine they served and do not use their service for political gain nor for selling their book. For those who served to make this world a better place not to make their OWN world a profitable place. These are the one's who do not constantly parade their service nor seek constant recognition. I will never understand what you went through during your service (even if I did serve) for each man has his own battle.

Even now Elie you are fighting a battle that only you can fight. I know that there isn't anything I can physically do to support your latest battle but you are in my prayers and I deeply thank you for your service.

Your brother may never recognize your sacrifice but he gets to live in the freedom you helped to secure. I do recognize and I DO thank you!

what a kind, thoughtfull and sweet response gene, I thank you for taking the time to do so.

 

elie

Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
Can anyone help me to get pictures to attach for an article?

I tried pulling them from my computer. Didn't work.
I tried pulling them from their website. Didn't work.

SOMEONE HELP!
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Reply By: Adventure-DudePosted: Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Can anyone help me to get pictures to attach for an article?

I tried pulling them from my computer. Didn't work.
I tried pulling them from their website. Didn't work.

SOMEONE HELP!

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Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
Can anyone help me to get pictures to attach for an article?

I tried pulling them from my computer. Didn't work.
I tried pulling them from their website. Didn't work.

SOMEONE HELP!


Post them to a free web site that lets you upload pictures (I use photobucket). After saving them to the web site, cut and paste the URL (they provide you with the links) to JU using the Image Button.
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks Doc!
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
Citizen)Dr GuyMay 30, 2007 07:14:08


Post them to a free web site that lets you upload pictures (I use photobucket). After saving them to the web site, cut and paste the URL (they provide you with the links) to JU using the Image Button.


docguy to the rescue!!!