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The Weaker Sex

The Weaker Sex

Pain is an interesting thing.  Even more interesting is how different people react to pain.  Somewhere along the way, someone decided that pain should be considered the fifth vital sign, that we need to regularly ask our patients to "rate" their pain on the wonderful 10 point pain scale, and then treat them accordingly.

Even better is the fact that this whole "pain as the fifth vital sign" thing has been demonstrated to be useless.

But we still stick with it, so you get patients calmly, in no apparent distress, telling you their pain is 11 out of 10 (even after you tell them that 0 is no pain, 10 is the worst possible pain they can imagine).  Perhaps people just have weak imaginations.

But in all of this, I have come to one very fundamental realization: Men are wussies.

That is especially true for men from the age of about 15 to 55.  They complain and complain and complain.  Once they get older, they seem to toughen up some, but men my age whine like it is going out of style.  It is embarrassing, quite honestly.

Women, they are much tougher.  They have their fair share of wussies as well, and they can be pretty darn needy.  But on the whole, they whine a lot less than their male counterparts.  In fact, the >60 year olds are often pretty much as tough as nails.

Yep, there is no doubt in my mind.  Us men?  We are the weaker sex.

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Reply #26 Top
With the military personnel I have to go through just to see a doc, I've gotten the brush off for describing my back pain as a "5 right now, but when it's really tweaking, it's a 6 or 7." Maybe I should have said it was a 10? But I've sat (and usually slept) through that "back pain management" video enough times that I don't bother going back to the clinic.
Reply #27 Top
But I would think they could at least imagine a lot of pain?
I couldn't have imagined how painful it would be to give birth to a 38cm head before I did.  I couldn't have imagined how painful gall bladder attacks are.  I couldn't imagine the pain of having an inexperienced nurse try to yank a cath out without deflating it.  Yeah, I've experienced some "real" pain and I don't think you can truly imagine it until you've experienced it.  Now I can relate pain in comparison to those things.
Reply #28 Top

I don't think you can truly imagine it until you've experienced it

Nope, and you also can't remember what pain feels like.  You can remember "yeah, that sucked", but you can't actually remember the sensation.  Which, is a good thing- or else no woman would ever have more than one kid

I just rate my pain on "tolerable" or "intolerable".  Really, that's the only thing that matters.

Reply #29 Top
you also can't remember what pain feels like.


My dad says that the ability to forget is one of the greatest gifts of the human brain. It's not such a great gift when you're trying to study something, but people need the ability to forget. Somethings, emotional as well as physical, need to be forgotten to some degree or another.
Reply #30 Top
"Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory."
~Albert Schweitzer
Reply #31 Top
I flatly disagree with much of this article. A lot of women do complain about pain incessantly. Men often complain about lesser pain but will tolerate greater pains rather that get them treated. Regardless, there is no "weaker" sex. There are just two different sexes, each with its own strengths and weaknesses.

I write this bluntly because I suspect you of appealing to a societal convention that gives women more credit than they deserve, which a deviation from reality every bit as harmful as chauvinism because it rests upon a subtle irony rooted in centuries of discrimination.

And I'm having a bad day. I stubbed my toe and it hurts like a #(*$. On a scale from 1 to 10, it's an 11.

Dan