Can I get a divorce ?

I'm pretty sure that Saint Paul says, in reference to the New Covenant, that all things are lawful, but not all things are a good idea.

He also said, that whoever looks at a woman and lusts after her in his heart commits adultery. So I'd have to say, pretty much everyone has committed this sin.

And it also says in scripture that if you break one command you are guilty of breaking them all. The commandments cannot be kept perfectly no matter how hard we try. That's why the need for the savior. The laws were but a shadow, Christ IS the body, the real thing. The laws pointed to Him just like any shadow points to the one responsible for it.

I look at the commandments like a door frame with a window that is divided into small sections of windows. If you break one portion or one section you've broken the whole window because you have to replace the whole thing.

God hates divorce. We know that. We should do everything in our power to stay put in our marriages, barring abuse or adultery. Divorce does not bring glory to God and for the Christian that is the whole reason for our existence. But if the other partner wants out, let him/her go. You will not be held accountable.

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I agree with you on rightly dividing the Scriptures. I've come accrosssome churches that teach their congregation that reguardless of what the husband does to the wife, she must remain in the relationship. This is a part of marriage according to their teachings. My question to her was, what happens if you are killed taking this abuse, would God accept this ?

About two years ago come October, I was in an altercation with my 16 year old steptdaughter over a telephone, while attempting to reconcile my marriage. My wife had fallen on hard times and I felt this might right time to try is again. The situation escalated to the point where I'd had enough back talk, and as I was attempting to walk behing my steptdaughter to get her to stop walking away, and she suddenly turned and gave me a karate kick in the left knee sending me into a sheetrock wall where I fell and tore the quad muscle completely from the bone. My spouse stood by watching this whole affair without raising a hand to help until I was almost stomped in my chest while laying in the floor helpless.

I got myself together and drove top the hospital and sat there for 7 hours before being seen only to be given a bottle pain pills and sent home and told to keep ice on the knee. This was on thursday by Sunday it was good and swoolen and hurting. I returned to the hospital and was immeadiately admitted with kidney failure, hypertention and a high sugar level plus a torn quad muscle. I underwent surgery and was released by that friday. My wife accompanied me to my residence telling me she would nurse me back to health. She also told this to my landlord and several friends, however this was not the case. I had meds in the form of injections I needed to keep vains from collapsing every 6 hours after surgery to keep infection from setting in. I still have the unopened box to this day.

As I lay helpless on my back in bed unable to even use the restroom because of the cast on my leg from ankle to crotch my wife stayed the first week. In the begining of the second week she asked to borrow several hundred dollars to move to a new apartment and she would pay it back to me. I thought nothing of it, she was my wife and she knew this was my rent money and car note. To this day I've not seen her or heard from her. It it hadn't of been for my landlady and my Pastor I'd have starved to death. That was her second time leaving me. Guess I should have known better, but love is blind sometimes isn't it ?

Time for a divorce I think. Well if it isn't its in the works. I think I've earned it.

wow, this is really a bad situation and I'm sorry for the ordeal. But I can see alot of things here that may have led up to this and there are so many unanswered questions like, "How long were you married?" You have a stepdaughter so that means you married a woman with at least one child? How old was this child when you married and have you ever had any say in this family at all? So she was priviously married? Is this your first marriage or were you married before?

In Proverbs it says not to abandon the wife of your youth. Do you think that's true and for what reason does it advise that?

Also was there any accountability on the part of this 16 year old? Was she called in for assault? If not, why not? She sounds dangerous.

I'm glad your pastor and kind landlady helped you. Has he ever intervened with marriage counseling in the past before it got this bad?

I am very sorry to hear about your situation. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Praise God, that you do have a caring Pastor and landlady.

As for divorce, as we all know, it is mention many times in the Bible, that unless adultery is committed, divorce should not take place. It is mentioned on many occasions through the Bible.


Deut- 24:1
Mal- 2:16
Matt- 19:03
19:07
19:08
19:09
5:31
1:19

But if you would, read I Corithians chapter 7, it too speaks of marriage. ( Please look at I Cor 7:10 if nothing else, but the whole chapter is worth reading )


I pray that all will work out for you and that you may find peace in your heart. I can't imagine how hard this experience has been for you. God Bless.

Personal opinion: Divorce isn't a sin, and is in fact prudent in situations where you need to remove yourself for fear of your own safety (or even happiness).

However, take a close look at your original scripture quote; the sin cited there is the remarriage. Make of that what you will, but it seems to me that you could divorce and remain companionless and be okay.

I'm not sure I'm entirely okay with this, and it's something I think about a fair bit. Thankfully (?), I'm not ready for another relationship yet anyway, so I don't have to wrestle with this particular moral issue. Yet.