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Are we as bad as men think?

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Are we as bad as men think?

from JoeUser Forums

I was watching television, channel surfing for something to watch. I flipped the screen and there were the Fab Five. I stopped because I wanted to see who they were making over next. I actually enjoy watching their show. I haven’t been tuning in as often as I used to so I decided to watch.


They were making over a family of three men. One of them said that the reason why he doesn’t have a girlfriend or wife right now is because he couldn’t deal with the emotions and attitude of women. In short, they weren’t very nice. Why? His reasoning was: “The week before their period they would be crabby and biting his head off, the week after it would be the same thing. When can they (women) be nice? Why can’t a woman be as nice as his mom? If a woman gave unconditional love like a mother then there would be no divorces.”


Are you kidding me? As a woman hearing that from him, made me wonder if we, women, are as bad as all that? OK, so we have our moments when we do go into our moods. Do you (men) really blame us for that? It’s not our fault that our bodies have to prepare itself this way once a month. I guess he forgets that a woman’s body is preparing itself for childbirth and so goes through this process and it’s totally normal!


I bet you if a man had to go through what we did, they would be whimpering and crying like babies! How would he like to be walking around for two weeks before his body goes through its monthly cycle, feeling cramps, pain of unmentionable proportion, (some women have it real bad) and feeling like his body is ready to explode.


His stomach swollen and look like he’s pregnant. Imagine walking or doing normal activity when he’s suddenly gasping for breath from the cramp that suddenly sidelines him and he begins to limp.


Imagine having weird cravings, like being pregnant. Imagine if he had to deal with the flow that comes at him and having to take a bath 3-5 times per day and changing underwear constantly. Imagine dealing with all this and hoping that his flow won’t be heavy or too crampy or that he’ll have to actually curtail his activities for a couple of days. And with all that comes headache and heaven knows what else because some women do experience more and because no two women have the same experience!


As women we have to deal with all this and still walk around and try to be normal and still be a wife, mother, friend, employee or employer and everything that we as women handle in our daily lives.


So if we do get a little bitchy and we do get a little attitude once a month, allow us to be that way. Just stay the frig out of your woman’s way if you can’t deal with it! Or you can be a wonderful guy and bring her lots of chocolate and rub her back, tummy or feet and let her be.


Is that too much to ask?
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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top
Men get annoyed with women and vice versa. Heck, there's a woman who is blogging about how men should be wiped out.


I know. That's one inflamed blog!


They excessively (from my standpoint) worry about "feelings". They complain about things but are not interested in finding a solution. (men want to solve problems, women just want understanding). They tend to worry too much about "what's fair" rather than what's right IMO.


Well we have to because we are the ones who nurture and comfort. Remember we (women) are the opposite of you men. Without us there would be none of you walking around. [oh no, I'm beginning to sound like Jennifer now!!]

But what I'm trying to say is we are exactly what you men are not and we (women) are needed by you men no matter how much you protest and no matter how much we get compared to not being like mommy by others. Geech, the worst thing a man can do!
Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top
They tend to worry too much about "what's fair" rather than what's right IMO.


This is an interesting statement. I suppose that I can think of examples of when "right" is more important than "fair" but in inter-relations, I think resolutions based on finding what both (all?) parties find to be fair are longer lasting than those based simply on "right."
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Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
They tend to worry too much about "what's fair" rather than what's right IMO.This is an interesting statement. I suppose that I can think of examples of when "right" is more important than "fair" but in inter-relations, I think resolutions based on finding what both (all?) parties find to be fair are longer lasting than those based simply on "right."[/quote]

You did it again! Nailed it! I think for the husband's sake it had better be this way! Who wants to go to bed upset? And men, don't take this last part of what I said as a "see what I mean" to show that you guys are right, no, it's just the way it is, relationships that is.
Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top
---One of them said that the reason why he doesn’t have a girlfriend or wife right now is because he couldn’t deal with the emotions and attitude of women. In short, they weren’t very nice. Why? His reasoning was: “The week before their period they would be crabby and biting his head off, the week after it would be the same thing. When can they (women) be nice? Why can’t a woman be as nice as his mom? If a woman gave unconditional love like a mother then there would be no divorces.”---

With that attitude he's NEVER gonna have a girlfriend or wife. He should talk to his father to see how nice his mother was. Women aren't here just to be nice to men. Also being nice 100% of the time isn't a requirement for unconditional love. He wants unconditional love but doesn't want to give it back. If he was so into unconditional love he wouldn't be in the position he is in. He would have excepted his girlfriend's reactions to her period unconditionally.

I know I'm not the best at it. But I do try to be helpful. I do buy chocolate and I give daily foot and back rubs. And yes there are some months when after trying to be helpful she's still mad. So I usually try to give her some alone time because I can feel myself getting mad that she's in a bad mood. She takes me wanting for us to be apart until I cool off as something bad. Argument arises, we yell, we go cool off, we talk, we kiss and make-up. Thankfully I'm not an asshole every month.

I think women are so much better than men in lots and lots of areas, but I'm so glad I'm not one. And that is in no way a put down.
Reply #30 from JoeUser Forums Top
---Second, get real!  A gay man knows about as much about women as a priest does!---

Hey Doc, I'm pretty sure the guy who made the dumb statement on the show wasn't gay. And also I'm pretty sure most heterosexual men don't know much about women, either.

It's one of their biggest problems cause they ONLY think they do.
Reply #31 from JoeUser Forums Top
Also being nice 100% of the time isn't a requirement for unconditional love


Great statement!


I do buy chocolate and I give daily foot and back rubs. And yes there are some months when after trying to be helpful she's still mad. So I usually try to give her some alone time because I can feel myself getting mad that she's in a bad mood.


Good man!


She takes me wanting for us to be apart until I cool off as something bad. Argument arises, we yell, we go cool off, we talk, we kiss and make-up. Thankfully I'm not an asshole every month.


See, you know each other's feelings and even though you might yell and fight, you communicate, you make up! That's all part of a relationship! That guy doesn't know anything! And not being an asshole for too long....priceless!!


Hey Doc, I'm pretty sure the guy who made the dumb statement on the show wasn't gay. And also I'm pretty sure most heterosexual men don't know much about women, either. It's one of their biggest problems cause they ONLY think they do.


Another great statement Chris!
Reply #32 from JoeUser Forums Top
Why can’t a woman be as nice as his mom? If a woman gave unconditional love like a mother then there would be no divorces


You know, I've heard some blokes carrying on like this. What they want is someone they can walk all over, who will cook and clean and not talk back. In short, they want a sex slave.

If he wants unconditional love, then he should get a dog. At least then he won't have to "deal with the emotions and attitude of women". What a wanker...

I have said it before and I'll say it again; women are the better sex, by far (and I'm not being sarcastic or ironic - I mean it).
Reply #33 from JoeUser Forums Top
What they want is someone they can walk all over, who will cook and clean and not talk back. In short, they want a sex slave.


You got it Mark!


If he wants unconditional love, then he should get a dog. At least then he won't have to "deal with the emotions and attitude of women". What a wanker...


Good idea!


I have said it before and I'll say it again; women are the better sex, by far (and I'm not being sarcastic or ironic - I mean it).


I'm so glad men like you are out there, with a beautiful and fulfilling relationship! That guy and guys who think they way he does, will never have that!