Oh Baby

from JoeUser Forums
I was kinda happy for a couple weeks but didn't know why. I had a glow, a domestic flair. The house was spotless, I was researching recipes to prepare for my family (that's not like me at all). Then it hit me. My mood swings are always hormonal, so what could it be this time? Let's see...I missed my period. I'm pregnant.

My initial thoughts were mixed. The joy! The misery.

Things had just smoothed out around here. My 2.75-year-old son has finally started speaking full, coherent sentences, which means we no longer have to guess and riddle over every one of his endless needs.

As recently as a few weeks ago we were in the library selecting children's books. I proudly skipped passed a book that teaches children how to accept and welcome a new baby into the home. "Nope," I thought, "My son will never have to worry about that. I am SO DONE with babies."

But there was always that nagging feeling of raising one, single, selfish, over-indulged child. It's just not the way life should be. Reality involves lots of people, compromising, sharing.

So my choice of birth control was abstinence. It suited my tastes. Not only do I hate birth control, but I also hate sex (although it's a treat on rare occasions). So I thought I'd let God decide this matter of how many children should be in our family. After all, I don't appear to get pregnant very easily. In my 10 years of sexual activity, with no birth control, I've gotten pregnant once, with one beautiful child to show for it. So if on the rare occasion I have a sexual appetite, and God chooses to let it result in a child, then so be it.

So here it is.

But then there's my chronic depression, not to mention my post-partum depression which could have resulted in a very brutal slaughter of everyone who came near me.

Maybe I'll just take a 2-year vacation after this one is born -- lol.

This video clip I stumbled on brightened my day and it reminds me of the joy that punctuates parenthood:

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=9125208079228405100
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
And in case you didn't know........I think you are a great mom. A trifle insecure about your fantastic self, but overall....AMAZING! woo hooo!
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Consider yourself very lucky you didn't get pregnant too early!

And Congratulations!


JU's become quite fertile!
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
JU's become quite fertile!


Yeah, it's a regular baby boom around here! Congratulations!
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulations! I really think you are going to look back on this and realize it was a very good thing this happened. The best thing you can give your child is a sibling. And the two together will be so cute to watch grow up as you watch them interact with each other.

I've known quite a few only children. It's usually not a pretty picture.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top

Congrats....sorry I am getting to this late.

I read an article some years back, written by two female Drs.  They were in the business of treating women with wacko hormones.  One of the symptoms of wacko hormones is difficulty getting pregnant.  Another symptom is not wanting sex at all, ever.

I can't remember their names, but I can tell you they put together quit a bit of research before they started treating women.  I think they would be under sexual dysfunction or something if you wanted to google them.

Of course if your husband is ok with no sex, then I guess its not a big deal!

Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
congrats.... new life... I love it.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
And in case you didn't know........I think you are a great mom. A trifle insecure about your fantastic self, but overall....AMAZING! woo hooo!


Thank you, that was really nice. Although "a trifle insecure" is a colossal understatement.
Yeah, it's a regular baby boom around here! Congratulations!


Congratulations to you too, Jill!

And the two together will be so cute to watch grow up as you watch them interact with each other.


I sure hope so. But one huge thing that has made me wary of 2 or more children was the fact that my brother and I did not get along at all. I really feel sorry for my parents putting up with our crap. I'll just try really hard to nip any rivalry in the bud and teach love, love, love!

I've known quite a few only children. It's usually not a pretty picture.


I've heard a lot of sad stories about only-children too. I've witnessed a few successful outcomes, but most only's say they had a pretty lonely childhood. They grew up selfish, etc. So yeah, a sibling is a good thing. It's a great tool for showing kids how to compromise, share, and get along. May I mention one exception: I have a cousin who was an only child who grew up to be a phenomenal adult. Just phenomenal. His mom raised him really well.

if you wanted to google them.


Thanks for the pointer. Gosh, I'm really screwed up. People have referred to me in the recent past using words such as "mental illness" and now "sexual dysfunction." I won't deny that there's any truth to it, but it certainly is very sobering stuff. I know I need a ton of help, and I've sought professional help on numerous occasions, but I have yet to find a person or medication(s) that help. To concentrate on how messed up I am on a daily basis would sap a lot of energy, so for the most part I try to get through life one day at a time, au naturel. And with God.

Of course if your husband is ok with no sex, then I guess its not a big deal!


I know I shouldn't be discussing my husband's sex life on my blog, but I'll just say that he really does put up with the fact that I don't enjoy sex. But of course he does get an occasional fix from me (how else could I have gotten pregnant!!) or from his hand. (*Gasp!* did I say that? ) I don't see him divorcing me anytime soon although I wouldn't blame him if he did. He's amazingly solid and dedicated though. It really is mind-boggling.

congrats.... new life... I love it.


Thanks!
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
That's wonderful! Congrats on the new edition into your family!
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
know I shouldn't be discussing my husband's sex life on my blog,


Your blog, your rules.

I wouldn't recommend it if your husband would be embarrassed or angry...its not worth the trouble.

But remember, if you put it out there, well, people are gonna comment.

I can see how things like this end up on someone's blog though. Especially if you are home all day alone, and in a hopping place like Minot.

I had my first reporting job there at the NBC affiliate...KMOT News team 10. Personally I liked Minot a lot. But I was uber involved in community theater, I was a disc jokey during drive time on KBQ 100, (MSU has a great theater dept and tickets are cheap!) It is right across from the Dome.

I didn't have kids when I lived there though, so I KNOW how big a difference that can make.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congrats on the new edition into your family!


, Yup, this would be the second "edition" to our family! Cute spelling error. I won't dog you for it.

I wouldn't recommend it if your husband would be embarrassed or angry...its not worth the trouble.


I know. I really shouldn't have gone there, but people were expressing dismay and shock at my oddities, so I felt some explanation was in order. My husband & I really are a peculiar pair, so we discard a lot of societal rules and niceties and just say it like it is.

I had my first reporting job there at the NBC affiliate...KMOT News team 10.


Yes, I've driven by that studio perched on the hill. There's a great view from that road. So you're somewhat of a celebrity? I don't quite know what to say. Suddenly I feel intimidated. I should just shut up and listen!
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top

So you're somewhat of a celebrity?

HAHAHAHAHA.

Um, actually I kinda am with certain folks there...just not for being on television!

I have a great friend who teaches at the University.  But I haven't been on tv since my oldest was born, well not on tv in a reporting capacity I should say.  That was ten years ago.  So nope, I'm not a celebrity, famous, or anything like that.

Do you go out to the truck stop for dinner ever?  I used to go there all the time for their salad, just the regular salad and french fries.....the best ever.

And the Fortune Cookie has the BEST crab rangoon EVER.  They are huge and put all the tiny little flower looking ones in the rest of the world to shame!  I would sit in the tea room and chow down on those at least twice a week.

Most weekends I would shoot pool with my cameraman or Neil Roberts (guy I worked with at KMOT), usually at the Pour Farm.

Of course I spent some serious time at Dakota Square in the winter...yup yup, I LIKED Minot.